"I Have a Dream: That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It’s a Big Deal". . .Says Doyin Richards whose picture depicting him brushing his daughter's hair has caused an internet stir

Backstory

A father of two Doyin Richards (pronounced Doe-ween), 39, is currently taking a paternity leave of absence from his job in learning development to care for his daughters, ages 6 months and 2 years. He described the incident on his blog.

"One morning, [my wife] was running late for work and was worried that she wouldn't be able to get [my daughter's] hair done before I had to take her to school. I told her that she could leave and I'd handle it. She countered by saying that doing her hair requires attention and the baby would get upset if I left her alone while I played the role of stylist.

Again, I told her that I'd handle it. On the way out she said, 'I'll believe it when I see it.'" Still determined, Richards placed his infant into her carrier and "worked my hair magic." He also set up his camera, enabled its 10-second timer, and snapped a photo to prove to his wife that he could handle the job."

So Dude posts the picture online and it goes viral....many of the comments were positive but what baffled Doyin (and has always baffled many of us) is the downright nasty comments made about men who are ACTIVELY involved in their children's lives....most of them from other man?!! Why is it so wrong for a man to braid his daughter's hair? Bath is his son? Cook for his children? Take them out alone without mom?

WHY?!!

Doyin Richards Dreams

"I have a dream that insecure dads will spend less time hating on good dads and more time on getting their own shit together"

"I have a dream that people will view a man’s love for fatherhood for what it is instead of thinking there’s something “fishy” going on.

Me too Bro! Meeeee tooo!!!

To all the wonderful daddies out there - GOD BLESS YOU!!!

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Sooo cute. Kudos!

Who else will sit still & lose 2 girl- kid million braids while I tend to other stuff if not their father? It's no news. Any responsible Dad will do that.

Awwww this is so so cute, how I want a girl next. God bless all fathers that adore their children and care for them, God bless my husband over and over and over again.

Bless his soul, the sad reality of things is that most men will see this act as emasculating.

taryour: Awwww this is so so cute, how I want a girl next. God bless all fathers that adore their children and care for them, God bless my husband over and over and over again.

Amen and Amen!!!!!

steph7: Bless his soul, the sad reality of things is that most men will see this act as emasculating.

I'll never get why...I mean WHY?!!!

Would pay anything for an answer.

If a father does not care for his children, who else should do it?

One good thing is that he lives in a country where he can get paternity leave. In countries where such opportunity are best existing in the dream, he would have been deeply hurt to make it happen.

Well, this is another counter to those who claim blacks make bad father..... Kudos to the guy and I wish him well in his parenting duties..

Believe you me, most husbands do this and more, probably not braiding hair but most husbands are very active in housekeeping

Never you mind, the pretentious men in their grandeur delusions with their beer parlour gist frame of mind that says one thing but their home life is totally different.

Forget the western world for a minute, even in Nigeria where wife and husband both work same hours, unless the husband does not want peace loku or perhaps have a housemaid or madam na housewife will he sit down while madam does everything

Eeew! This looks sweet.
Even if the wife and mother is a born wicked witch, acts like this will turn her to an angel.
U simply can't help falling for men like this. Very contagious.

steph7: Bless his soul, the sad reality of things is that most men will see this act as emasculating.

U r right dear. Very right.

A husband & father taking an active role in looking after his children is news? Someone please remind me what year and planet this is?

2014/Earth

Wanna weds - shines your eyes well well. When you marry the right man, everyday norm won't be foreign to you.

Olowo ori mi , honey in my tea , ale NOBODY I love you too much

vanitty: Believe you me, most husbands do this and more, probably not braiding hair but most husbands are very active in housekeeping

Never you mind, the pretentious men in their grandeur delusions with their beer parlour gist frame of mind that says one thing but their home life is totally different.

Forget the western world for a minute, even in Nigeria where wife and husband both work same hours, unless the husband does not want peace loku or perhaps have a housemaid or madam na housewife will he sit down while madam does everything

Gradually the number of men that are actively involved in domestic chores and taking care of their kids are increasing. However a good percentage of men still feel its a woman's duty.

Sisi_Kill:
Amen and Amen!!!!!
I'll never get why...I mean WHY?!!!
Would pay anything for an answer.

I think it stems from the traditional roles of the man being the sole provider - going to hunt and the woman staying at home to cook and take care of the kids. Times have changed and in most households both parents work, meaning the woman's only duty isn't just to cook and clean anymore. Some men have realised this and have accepted the fact that women aren't super human and have decided to help out in taking care of the kids and domestic duties. while the others have failed to evolve and are stuck on stu.pid.
Men who feel this is emasculating please come and tell us why?

According to nigerians, or let me say yorubas, where i'm from, this man has been given "vegetables" to eat...............won ti gbe efo fun je.
I just hope we know the meaning.................

Funny enough, those who you think are more and better enlightened and social still believes that something is wrong with any man who can go to this extent in taking care of his family as well as helping his wife at home. From experience, my own sister called me in confidence to ask me to confess to her the charm i used on my husband, just because he met him losing my hair and after that losing our daughter's hair after which he took her to the salon.................she actually said it in our dialect, "even, if you won't confess to me, saaa ba mi wa iru efo ti o se f'oko e, ki emi naa see f'oko mi" meaning even if you won't confess to me, just help me to find the type of vegetable you prepared for your hubby, in order for her to also prepare it for her hubby and i told her "iwa l'oba awure" meaning good character surpass charm, and she said, maa tan're e, meaning, keep deceiving yourself.

Can we see.......

When I was little, na my papa I dey always ask for hairstyle to do. Of course, he used to tell me some very funny names. Can't rily remember if he helped me loosen my hair but I remember helping me with d barbing when my small lil mind decided to go on low-cut! He'll tie my 'gele' for me when I have to do aso-ofi for whatever reason dt was! Of cos, my mama'll have to re-tie it but I'll still take d 'gele' to him first!

I love you, dad!




He has turned to big boy for me now sha oo he go dey say his wyf wee vex if he ties my gele for me, worrisdat

I do more than this

greatgod2012: According to nigerians, or let me say yorubas, where i'm from, this man has been given "vegetables" to eat...............won ti gbe efo fun je.

I just hope we know the meaning.................

Funny enough, those who you think are more and better enlightened and social still believes that something is wrong with any man who can go to this extent in taking care of his family as well as helping his wife at home. From experience, my own sister called me in confidence to ask me to confess to her the charm i used on my husband, just because he met him losing my hair and after that losing our daughter's hair after which he took her to the salon.................she actually said it in our dialect, "even, if you won't confess to me, saaa ba mi wa iru efo ti o se f'oko e, ki emi naa see f'oko mi" meaning even if you won't confess to me, just help me to find the type of vegetable you prepared for your hubby, in order for her to also prepare it for her hubby and i told her "iwa l'oba awure" meaning good character surpass charm, and she said, maa tan're e, meaning, keep deceiving yourself.
Can we see.......

Rotflmao @ won ti gbe efo fun je

That or they will say they have exchanged his head (Please translate in Yoruba, it is sweeter)

xynerise: I do more than this

Bravo!

God bless you daddy girls

greatgod2012: According to nigerians, or let me say yorubas, where i'm from, this man has been given "vegetables" to eat...............won ti gbe efo fun je.
I just hope we know the meaning.................

Funny enough, those who you think are more and better enlightened and social still believes that something is wrong with any man who can go to this extent in taking care of his family as well as helping his wife at home. From experience, my own sister called me in confidence to ask me to confess to her the charm i used on my husband, just because he met him losing my hair and after that losing our daughter's hair after which he took her to the salon.................she actually said it in our dialect, "even, if you won't confess to me, saaa ba mi wa iru efo ti o se f'oko e, ki emi naa see f'oko mi" meaning even if you won't confess to me, just help me to find the type of vegetable you prepared for your hubby, in order for her to also prepare it for her hubby and i told her "iwa l'oba awure" meaning good character surpass charm, and she said, maa tan're e, meaning, keep deceiving yourself.

Can we see.......

This is not suprising, we Yorubas as just so funny, as the elderly ones feel its an uncultured act for a man to take over some duties from his wife.




In most cases you would hear issues of people saying " oti so oko e di arindi" meaning the man is now a mugu.



I see little or nothing wrong in doing such afterall as partners( oko ataya), you are now one so no assistance is quite unnecessary or unreasonable

greatgod2012: According to nigerians, or let me say yorubas, where i'm from, this man has been given "vegetables" to eat...............won ti gbe efo fun je.
I just hope we know the meaning.................

Funny enough, those who you think are more and better enlightened and social still believes that something is wrong with any man who can go to this extent in taking care of his family as well as helping his wife at home. From experience, my own sister called me in confidence to ask me to confess to her the charm i used on my husband, just because he met him losing my hair and after that losing our daughter's hair after which he took her to the salon.................she actually said it in our dialect, "even, if you won't confess to me, saaa ba mi wa iru efo ti o se f'oko e, ki emi naa see f'oko mi" meaning even if you won't confess to me, just help me to find the type of vegetable you prepared for your hubby, in order for her to also prepare it for her hubby and i told her "iwa l'oba awure" meaning good character surpass charm, and she said, maa tan're e, meaning, keep deceiving yourself.

Can we see.......

This is not suprising, we Yorubas as just so funny, as the elderly ones feel its an uncultured act for a man to take over some duties from his wife.




In most cases you would hear issues of people saying " oti so oko e di arindi" meaning the man is now a mugu.



I see little or nothing wrong in doing such afterall as partners( oko ataya), you are now one so no assistance is quite unnecessary or unreasonable