I personally believe anything that happens the same way on three unrelated situations isn't just another coincident. It all happens to me this way; I see a girl, she sees me, we start dating, she really loves me (apparently), I treat her nice but after some time, she leaves for a flimsy reason, I get hurt, I get over it and the dumper (girl) tries everything humanly and witch-ily possible to get back into to my (dumpee) life. I am good-looking, nice job, you know the whole works. It has happened three times and I'm still counting. Why do you think they leave in the first place and most importantly, why do they try to come back months after?

iykedee:

I personally believe anything that happens the same way on three unrelated situations isn't just another coincident. It all happens to me this way; I see a girl, she sees me, we start dating, she really loves me (apparently), I treat her nice but after some time, she leaves for a flimsy reason, I get hurt, I get over it and the dumper (girl) tries everything humanly and witch-ily possible to get back into to my (dumpee) life. I am good-looking, nice job, you know the whole works. It has happened three times and I'm still counting. Why do you think they leave in the first place and most importantly, why do they try to come back months after?

u don't expect us to answer that do u?you're d only one that can answer that question

I guess the girls you have been dating like buffet, they like variety and if the have tasted all the food they go back to the one they like the most. so cheer up atleast they want you back

I think it goes both ways. Guys do want to go back too sometimes just for the fun of it.

Its amazing, they leave like they just found prince charming, then they come back and do ridiculously humiliating things to get me back.

iykedee:

I personally believe anything that happens the same way on three unrelated situations isn't just another coincident.

It is reality and fate.

iykedee:

It all happens to me this way; I see a girl, she sees me, we start dating, she really loves me (apparently), I treat her nice but after some time, she leaves for a flimsy reason, I get hurt, I get over it and the dumper (girl) tries everything humanly and witch-ily possible to get back into to my (dumpee) life.

It is obvious there is either something you are doing wrong in the relationship in the first place or maybe these girls aren't use to this kind of treatment and all this jive you are doing is coming off as a front. So they venture off to some other guy, experience that relationship and compare it with yours.

iykedee:

It has happened three times and I'm still counting.

Keep on counting because you are going to experience alot more break ups in your life.

iykedee:

Why do you think they leave in the first place and most importantly, why do they try to come back months after?

Maybe to see what is out there before they fully commit to you.

iykedee:

I am good-looking, nice job, you know the whole works.

Hmmm. . . im sensing a little arrogance on your part.

Hmmmmmm, . . . . they keep returning to thier vomits eh . . . . .hhmmmmmm.

@POSTER:

She has tasted and seen. . .
I think you need to also do some tasting to see if she or they are right for u

i am sure the 3 ladies will be n best position to answer, so ask them.

@ poster don't be fooled they re not 4 u, they re gold diggers so be wise

@ poster
your case is not a rare one.It is very common.
i think a good number of ladies have this "dissatisfaction syndrome" in them until when they start approaching their late twenties.
No matter how good a man is,they will always feel that there is a better man out there for them.
it is this "feeling" that makes then change their boyfriends gladly even though the guy is by all standards very good for them.
understand that men and fundamentally logical creatures,women on the other hand are completely emotional,and are always influenced by "how they feel,or want to feel".
dont be surprised that a woman will date a yahoo boy with a criminal record just because he makes her "feel good and alive".
but the find afterwards that they have decieved themselves,and they will start running back to the man they logically should never have left in the first place.
but then,women are not logical.

lidbb2:

@ poster
your case is not a rare one.It is very common.
i think a good number of ladies have this "dissatisfaction syndrome" in them until when they start approaching their late twenties.
No matter how good a man is,they will always feel that there is a better man out there for them.
it is this "feeling" that makes then change their boyfriends gladly even though the guy is by all standards very good for them.
understand that men and fundamentally logical creatures,women on the other hand are completely emotional,and are always influenced by "how they feel,or want to feel".
don't be surprised that a woman will date a yahoo boy with a criminal record just because he makes her "feel good and alive".
but the find afterwards that they have decieved themselves,and they will start running back to the man they logically should never have left in the first place.
but then,women are not logical.

Real Talk, them no know make you let them know.
i quite agree with ya man.

[i][/i]I know d major cause,

True talk lidbb2. I don't know about just being emotional because we can't keep using that excuse against the women but as they get older the need excitement turns to the need for stability. Surely the "bad boy" cannot be responsible enough to provide a stable marriage.

This has always happened and will continue to happen,

I have a girlfriend who has left me three times nd has come bak.she just left recently nd has nt come yet.au about that?

@Poster

Here's my personal rule as concerns relationship: IF someone leaves you, male or female, and the you search your heart and conclude that you did your best to make the relationship work; never take the person back. Now, please note that this is what has worked for me and may not work for others so I am not saying this is the only way.

If somene leaves, for no just cause, ad then returns, I believe that it is becaue whatever she/he left for has not turned out well. If it had, she/he will certainly not comeback.

Sometimes the fear of the unknown lets us take people back, in the light if the devil you know, but I am of the opinion that if you are true to yourself and you deal with whatever issues you have personally, there's always someone out there who will love yo truly, always.

cheers

I once dated dis girl for a couple of yrs.We were gettin along just fine until she started pikin fites ova trivial issues.Then started kipin late nites.I didn't nid to be told she had started 2timing.I confronted her & she told me off in very clear-cut terms.I was disconsolate for a while because i was already thinkin of a future wit her.Gradually i got ova her & bcame even stronger,got in involved in anoda r/ship.Evrythin was smooth sailin until like a bolt from the past this girl comes bak beggin on all 4s.Of course inspite of the way i still felt 4 her i told where to get off.What's d guaranty she not goin to run off wit anoda money-bag(I'm not sayin I'm poor,as a matter of fact i cldn't ask 4 more)Though she's still bugging my line but my mind is made up.Besides i'm already involved in anoda r/ship.U can do same.

My case is quite pathetic, they leave for absolutely minor reasons and I get the impression that the dump was pre-meditated, then seriously speaking they go through humiliating situations (you need to believe this) and I never take any back. Thats the story of my life. One left me so hurt I developed a short-lived phobia for the women folk. I'm over it now, thank God

cos they broke up with the person they left you for and dont want to be alone, cos you suddenly got a better job and more money and they want a share of the national cake, or maybe cos they finally realized that they made a huge mistake and really hope they can start over with you again