queenisha, u too like chop chop. lol

SeanT21:

Damn. That is some bad story. If I see signs like that, ITS OVER!!!

If he starts limiting your friends,telling you who and who not to talk or associate with.
Goes into fits of rage when you don't answer his phone calls
demands you answer phone calls in his presence
Or picks up your phone to see who's calling you
Lose him immediately
He's a loser

siggers:

queenisha, u too like chop chop. lol

My dear I was just sitting jejely and a plate of fried chicken lands on my laps
shouldn't I give thanks and start the demolition ?

Queenisha:

If he starts limiting your friends,telling you who and who not to talk or associate with.
Goes into fits of rage when you don't answer his phone calls
demands you answer phone calls in his presence
Or picks up your phone to see who's calling you
Lose him immediately
He's a loser

Ok. I will take you advice and keep him on watch.

Queenisha:



SeanT21 this was your post.
I'm hoping this was just a phase of posessiveness of a teenage man
This attitude in a grown man is not normal

He is not A MAN YET.

KarmaMod:

Did you read the story osisi

Lol Sean T, we're just saying be careful. How old is the dude

18 YEARS old.

Women do the same overpossessive nonsense . . . shld we kick them out too?

davidylan:

Women do the same overpossessive nonsense . . . shld we kick them out too?

Well a woman is not going to beat you up or get physical. She will only talk and start a palava.

onyinye2:

You would wait for efere? The moment he grabs my wrist in anger. . . . . i will pack my things in a ghana must go bag.

That's overdoing it.
I'll rather he grabs my wrist in anger rather than slapping me.
I might grab hiswrist in anger too, but will I want him to leave me just for that reason alone? no

Ruby_Pearl:

That's overdoing it.
I'll rather he grabs my wrist in anger rather than slapping me.
I might grab hiswrist in anger too, but will I want him to leave me just for that reason alone? no

both are done in anger so what's the difference?

KarmaMod:

both are done in anger so what's the difference?

The difference is that, it's too much of a stupid reason to leave your relationship or marriage.
Imagine going to dinner wiv him, you said you want to leave, he says no. In anger, you stood up to leave, he grabs you wrist to pull you towards him. . . . . then you open your falala mouth and says "It's over". he asks you "what? why?". You say "for grabbing my wrist like that".

I won't blame the dude for thinking you're a lunatic. "Ewo lo nse were yi?"

Depends on why the wrist is grabbed

SeanT21:

Well a woman is not going to beat you up or[b] get physical[/b]. She will only talk and start a palava.

com' on. There are women who get physical. I know a few.
You never meet some naija women. dem go attack you.
If dem hold your shirt, dem no go leave you till dat shirt tear.

Then you leave them. Simple

Any other excuses?

Queenisha, yours was a plate of food. mine was the school ben and jerry ice cream. see me see trouble o. i was ordering and he came chatting me up, when i was about to pay the lady told me he is paying (paying it alreaady). i said thank you and went to sit down.

the guy no let me rest. he came from no where and started talking. which state are you from, you from nilly, you from chester,  you have english accent etc. if no be say i don wack the ice cream finish i for throway am for him face . 

na ice cream i chop o 

i would have loved him to walk away like yours did after the plate was delivered. 

Weird!

Quote from: Queenisha on Yesterday at 01:37:42 AM
If he starts limiting your friends,telling you who and who not to talk or associate with.
Goes into fits of rage when you don't answer his phone calls
demands you answer phone calls in his presence
Or picks up your phone to see who's calling you
Lose him immediately
He's a loser


Ok. I will take you advice and keep him on watch.

SeanT,

naaahhhhh. Dont do that, please, dont start second guessing and monitoring your man based on these generalizations you hear here. There are positive emotions and there are negative emotions. Both of them are reflected in love, whether it is parental love or spousal love. What you heard are the negative emotions and what it can produce. Rejoice in the positive emotions of the man you love.

Im like your man, very passionate with a cool and calm exterior, very loving and caring but I am hot tempered when it comes to another man parambulating around my woman, my patience is short. As her body guard, my job is to keep her safe and happy, but my 6'4' frame is directed for intimidation against others, not for hurting my woman.

If I was sitting with a date and mr admirer send food or drinks over, I will ask my date if this was someone she knew. If not, the tray will be returned to sender. I hope he gets the message! If he gets smart and push the wrong button there will be plenty misunderstanding.

Yea keep her safe from food.

Men and their excuses to show muscles.

Plenty of those like Sean T's guy and worse whose gfs are getting killed left and right in Queens nowadays.

Karma,

It goes beyond the food. From a man's perspective its symbolic. A woman might miss the cue and think, "oh he is such a kind gentleman". But he is not! If he really wants to display kindness let him feed a hungry beggar, my babe is sitting there with me and we are getting ready to get fed, we are not seeking handout. He is a hunter and the woman is just another prey and the only reason he did not walk over to her is because she is sitting with another man. Everything in our world is ego and pride, a man does not make advances to your woman in your face and you don't respond. Its a test and you are a weak man if you fail that test. The mere move to send my girl a token of his admiration is enough to set me off. When you see Negro with his girl you back the hell off, I dont play like that around my woman and thats the lesson he will be learning that night. No, this is not about food, this is about poussy, he wants her; I do too and Im keeping her. So let him dispossess me of her if he believes he can.

Its true there are men that have emotions directed wrongfully at the woman, instead of on competitors and the outside. Its not only the woman that feel their anger and bitterness, their children do too. How do you explain a man that picks up his little baby took him outside holding him by his feet and then raised him high above shoulder level and brought him down with force smashing his skull on the concrete sidewalk, brain and blood splattered all over? His reason? She was seeing another dude. He need to go and face the dude and teach him a lesson. Not kill an innocent little baby and throw his mother into grief. There are men that have anger and emotions and direct it rightfully at the outside. So don't get the two mixed up under the umbrella of jealousy and anger and emotions. Jealousy is a good emotion to have if used properly.

The irony of osisi's/oyinye's stories is that despite the man sending food OBVIOUSLY to gain their attention, they enjoyed the food WITH their dates and went home

If that's not enough to show the "Mr Man" that his plan didnt work, I don't know what is. If anything I found it funny. The woman is only a "prey" if she falls for the trick and tries to get with the man after the meal by seeming "impressed" by the gesture.

I still stand by the fact that osisi's dude is cool for letting it roll off his back and joining her in enjoying this amusing gesture. Still ened up showing that man that despite all that she's still with me anyway. "Ha Ha"

Blowing up and turning into a wannabe kingkong causing some public fight over something like that might be a turn on for teenagers but not me or any sane woman for that matter.

The irony of osisi's/oyinye's stories is that despite the man sending food OBVIOUSLY to gain their attention, they enjoyed the food WITH their dates and went home

Is it really THEIR attention or HER attention? You see this is what Im saying, a woman does not see it as anything extra-ordinary. There are men that will agree with you and see it the way you see it. Majority of men will see it the way I see it.

Again, just as a man cannot understand the emotions that women go through and why they respond in certain ways to certain stimuli but different to others, a woman cannot understand this phenomenon of ego and pride in a man. Much as you may want to, its not a easy thing for you to understand unless you are a man, and when I say man, I am not talking about weak willed men.

Men have gone to war for nothing else other than on woman's issue. The only other reason a man will go to war is for territorial control. You can call it teenage truancy if you want or give it any other label to belittle that emotion, it is there and men have always clashed over it and we will continue to clash over it. That's our ego and our pride at play. If you don't like it step aside from the crosshairs.

Their = two different girls that were in the same situation so yea HER attention. Same difference.

Also are you saying the men that didnt act like niggers over things like this arent "men"?

No ma'am, not at all. I am not inferring that not fighting is weakness. It has to be acknowledged that the other man had encroached. Sense of decency should have told him not to send anything over or show interest in a woman thats in the company of another man. If he does not have that sense, somebody need to knock it into him and I happen to have the kind of temperament thats designed for that. Some other men may not but still aknowledge the insult in their own way that they see fit. If I challenge a man's ego and he acts timid, trust me Im running over him, no questions asked!

Fighting in that manner is not necessarily "niggardly". If you could listen to UN diplomats take anger out on each other verbally you will understand that emotions have nothing to do with academic achievements or background. From time to time we hear soundbites from US congress of senators cursing each other out. You don't think Bill Clinton will punch someone in their nose if they mess with his ego? Cheney double barrelled someone for crossing him, Bush was overheard calling someone a motherfakker. Jesse Jackson, Bill Cosby, all these men have been overheard to curse at another man for insultive misstep towards them. I don't think you will ever hear Obama curse but MLK cursed. Malcom X not only cursed, he was temperamental and combative. So we are different and our emotions come out in different ways. The issue we should be focusing on is WHO the emotion is directed at.

I have a question for you. I have heard you say he shouldn't beat his wife, he shouldnt fight another man. Well, how do you want him to let out steam when he is upset and bitter over another man trying to get his woman? Tell me.

Nothing special about Malcolm, not sure why he's mentioned. That world famous temper killed him in the end

as for letting out steam. steam over what? Dude tried to make a pass by trying to impress the girl, at the end of it who enjoys the gesture? the girl and the man SHE"S ON THE DATE WITH. If anything I see that as the "best revenge" for the gesture as the date is still the one taking her home. In the end of it, Mr do-gooder gains nothing from what he did.

Try to show muscle over something like this is infantile, if he came over trying to act up then fine. other than that, pointless and stupid.

If a woman I take out on a date takes a meal off another man, it immediately tells me that the woman is never going to be mine.
The man who does such a thing is also an irresponsible man. How can you be trying to capture a girl's heart when she is obviously with another guy?

This is a strange way of the man telling you that you are with the wrong dude and that he can take better care of you.
A nigerian man thinks "every amount of money he spend on you is the amount of puccy, you owe him"
I have heard about, never talk to a stranger, but not, never eat a food bought by a stranger.

$$Rhino:

This is a strange way of the man telling you that you are with the wrong dude and that he can take better care of you.
A nigerian man thinks "every amount of money he spend on you is the amount of puccy, you owe him"
I have heard about, never talk to a stranger, but not, never eat a food bought by a stranger.

@topic
it happened to me then,but not too much sha,but the men usually complain,not complaining as in im unfaithful or sthg,but complaining that they can as well buy this stuffs for moi,u know some men and their stupid prides,anyways my man never allowed me eat at a joint or sthg,all we do is buy and go home,chaiiiii,who say naija no good,make that person come make i slap am d isiewu there and nkwobi will make someone forget his/her name,unlike this place

d only person that likes buying me lunch as of now is my boss ,this man will never stop

mesmya:

@topic
it happened to me then,but not too much sha,but the men usually complain,not complaining as in im unfaithful or sthg,but complaining that they can as well buy this stuffs for moi,u know some men and their stupid prides,anyways my man never allowed me eat at a joint or sthg,all we do is buy and go home,chaiiiii,who say naija no good,make that person come make i slap am d isiewu there and nkwobi will make someone forget his/her name,unlike this place

d only person that likes buying me lunch as of now is my boss ,this man will never stop

I am sure your boss will soon ask for his own share, if u dont give, that will be the day u go vommit all u don chop.

$$Rhino:

I am sure your boss will soon ask for his own share, if u don't give, that will be the day u go vommit all u don chop.

vomit what,did i tell him to buy it for me

where i am right now,d man dear not tell me rubbish,because i wonder who will leave the office

mesmya:

vomit what,did i tell him to buy it for me
where i am right now,d man dear not tell me rubbish,because i wonder who will leave the office

When he bought it, did it shove it down ur throat? u cld have said NO, but u chop am, so the man is just feeding u till the day of payment, my sis, when he is ready, you go pay big time oh, and i am sure say, he will not ask for money, na in kind.

$$Rhino:

When he bought it, did it shove it down your throat? u cld have said NO, but u chop am, so the man is just feeding u till the day of payment, my sis, when he is ready, you go pay big time oh, and i am sure say, he will not ask for money, na in kind.

thanks but no thanks bro,i no send am,i can't even wait for d day he will ask of d payment,na that dey d man is leaving

now wait a  minute y is that u nigerians have one daft mentality that weneva a man buys sthgs for u,he wants to have sex,no wonder y'all never grow

my boss dey buy me lunch smtimes,which is own wife is aware of,and my own husband too,reason is because we r family friends,and d first thing that comes to u pples mind is sex,puhpleaseeeeeeeeee y'all should grow up abeg

mesmya:

thanks but no thanks bro,i no send am,i can't even wait for d day he will ask of d payment,na that dey d man is leaving

now wait a minute y is that u nigerians have one daft mentality that weneva a man buys sthgs for u,he wants to have sex,no wonder y'all never grow

my boss dey buy me lunch smtimes,which is own wife is aware of,and my own husband too,reason is because we r family friends,and d first thing that comes to u pples mind is sex,puhpleaseeeeeeeeee y'all should grow up abeg

from what u have said, i will assume that u are american, briton, canadian, or european, sorry oh.
Anyhow, i am sure some day, u will find an answer.

$$Rhino:

from what u have said, i will assume that u are american, briton, canadian, or european, sorry oh.
Anyhow, i am sure some day, u will find an answer.

ur assumptions r wrong,im a typical nigerian,but u pple should just change ur mentality dats all