People, when it seems that time is passing by; as in, one's age is going up, yet no desired

spouse in sight, should one go on and have a child outside wedlock during the long

wait for mr. or miss right? pls send ur sincere opinions. thanx

I understand how you feel and how many questions are going through your mind. When one gets to a certain age and Mr Right isnt anywhere to be found you start thinking of your age, menopause, younger ones with kids and all that but i strongly do not believe its a right thing to do except one is prepared to kuku remain a single parent. How do one go about it? Just get anyman irrespective of who to impregnate you just so you could have children? Do you think of raising children you are not able to tell who their father is or children who would not be accepted by the supposed father? Think about the problems of raising kids alone not just alone but without a man to take responsibility for them, also think of your emotions as well. What about when the right man comes and the problem will now be the presence of children from other unknown mem?

For every woman i do believe there is a man, just have faith, keep praying, be patience and God will bring your own man who will father your children and give you and the children the love and care you need. Though not the best but i think its better to be married to a married man who is up to the task of polygamy than just get any man who is not willing to have kids by you to get you pregnant just so you could have kids while 'waiting'

Just my own thinking though and may not be the best idea.

I don't support that. It might further jeopardize your chances of getting the Mr Right of your own. I'm not saying guys don't marry single mothers but they look out for single ladies without a child/children first. In any case, don't loose hope. Are your knees too far from the ground you can't put them on the down and talk to Baba God? He will in due time give you the one that's yours and will make you forever happy.

NB: I'm mindful of the fact that you asked a question. I have not concluded you are the one in the fate depicted in your post. I hope you do understand that.

If you do that, you are seriously on your own as regards finding "the one" afterwards.

i can understand your feeling, seriously, i am deeply moved and i have decided to make a sacrifice, hey all NL frustrated ladies wanting to have a child while wait for the one, i have decided to donate the sperm freely, so just call on me, i will be there. the least i can do for all frustrated sista. i got a big heart.

smooooooth:

i can understand your feeling, seriously, i am deeply moved and i have decided to make a sacrifice, hey all Nairaland frustrated ladies wanting to have a child while wait for the one, i have decided to donate the sperm freely, so just call on me, i will be there. the least i can do for all frustrated sista. i got a big heart.[color=#990000][/color]

Be careful of overload on your heart o

better you wait, child out of wedlock is not very good

ayomifull:

Be careful of overload on your heart o

thanks, but the heart is really big to accommodate all, what i shld watch is the sperm bank, and i am already on a diet, right now, i am having marshed vegetables, scrambled eggs and lots of akamu, while i wait for their calls.

I think its better if you wait. God's time is the best

smooooooth:

thanks, but the heart is really big to accommodate all, what i shld watch is the sperm bank, and i am already on a diet, right now, i am having marshed vegetables, scrambled eggs and lots of akamu, while i wait for their calls.

Oh gawd. . . . .
Anticipating lots of bleeped up kids. . . . . .

spikedcylinder:

Oh gawd. . . . .
Anticipating lots of bleeped up kids. . . . . .

why u say so, you not gonna be the mother to all of them.

the best i do for you, is i will donate twice, just for u

With your eggs and akamu combo? Nah! I'll pass. You are very kind to offer though.

please wait and pray to God for your own man. its not advisable at all.

Raising a child on your own is a lot of work. Unless you are prepared for it and do the right thing by giving the child two parents, you should not have a child.

@ poster

That's not advisable. I understand the pressure, really, but becoming a single mum will only make finding "the one" even more of a challenge, though not impossible.

is quite dicey,its really humiliating,getting old without children
well,ur tomorrow depend on GOD
HE HAS DONE UNBELIEVABLE THINGS FOR ME
HE CAN DO SAME FOR U
TRUST HIM
DON'T DO WHAT YOU WILL REGRET,
but if u have made up you mind,

hey friends,

thanx 4 your responses, but i need 2 correct an impression here- am not the one looking to make that decision. was only asking what a man or woman who finds him/her self in such picture could do.  i also noticed responses directed to a 'she' what about the 'he' or are you guys telling me there arnt men who have clocked 40 and still single just because they havent really found the 'one' who had all they sought for in a woman?

c'mon u can do better!

Cheers, IFU

@Topic,Personally i think its not a bad idea to have a kid when the chips goes down.As long as u are comfortable and can take gud kia of the kid/s why not?If u cant get a mate,get a kid atleast.

All these people saying wait and wait. Do you know how difficult it is for people to get spouses when they are past a certain age. i'm not saying it is not good to wait but after a certain age i think you should go ahead and actualize your dreams of having a child in life. After all it is this same people telling you to wait and wait that will be pointing fingers at you in the future saying "see her, no husband, no child". Abeg, if you feel like you are really running running out of time and it is your dream to have a child then by all means do what you have to do.

If its against your religion to have children out of wedlock, then follow the dictates of your religion but for any other reason apart from that, abeg. Do what you got to do.