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| Hlp Mi O!1 by beeola(m): 8:34pm On Sep 04, 2008 |
Pls i thiink i nid hlp, i cant kip a relationship for more dan 3months, i tend 2 get fed up easily,even if the gurl really loves mi |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by tope2000(f): 9:15pm On Sep 04, 2008 |
Go see a therapist  |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by doyin13(m): 9:34pm On Sep 04, 2008 |
U should eat Eko at least once a day Eating such a sterile staple will remind u how bare life can be and make u appreciate ur women more |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by topup: 9:36pm On Sep 04, 2008 |
Aaah, I would avoid you like the plague! No but seriously, it seems that you are afraid to commit, you probably have reasons why you have cold feet after 3 months, and you will probably find them out if you just try and look. For many people it could have been a bad first relationship, in which the girlfriend cheats, this means the guy finds it hard to trust the other person in the relationship and wants to detach from the relationship as soon as it starts to mean something, so that he can protect his feelings. It could also have been the childhood, maybe the parents argued a lot in their marriage, so maybe situations in which two people stay together for a long period of time brings back fears of the same thing happening. Also, maybe it's just because of your youth, you feel like if you stay with one person that you might miss out on someone better, and your eye is constantly searching for the next relationship. From the fact that you said that 'I tend to get fed up easily, even if the girl loves me' could simply imply that you have been dating girls who you didn't genuinely like to the point that you felt it was necessary to work on the relationship. Who knows, maybe when you find a girl who makes your heart jump, you may want to hold onto the relationship forever. Another thing to note is that relationships do lose their buzz after a couple of months, when the fun and exictement becomes routine and then you have to start working on the relationship in order to build it. Maybe you're not ready to put in your all. See! There are too too many reasons! |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by olanajim(m): 12:59am On Sep 05, 2008 |
Doyin13, nice to know you are still around. What would you add into the guy's Eko? @poster, you didn't say much about your background. Tell us a bit about yourself and your past r/ship. Any umpleasant experience or unusual upbringing, It would be easier to know your problem that way. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by bigboyslim(m): 1:02am On Sep 05, 2008 |
Sadly, this is a known and diagnosed illness, its called WES. Wandering Eyes Syndrome. You can not keep your eyes on one woman for too long. Even if you are married to agbani darego or oluchi, you eyes will still wander outside to see some finer chick. Medical research is still going on to try and find a cure for those already infected and a vaccine for those who haven't. keep your fingers crossed. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by Nobody: 2:41am On Sep 05, 2008 |
bigboyslim:rotflmao. Doctor, we have a problem. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by Nobody: 2:43am On Sep 05, 2008 |
you have no problem at all. It simply means the women dont exactly have what you want . . . there are many people who have the same issues. Best solution - stay out of relationships, keep female friends and wait till you're sure you have met the one who keeps your heart beat up. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by chioma107(f): 8:57am On Sep 05, 2008 |
@ poster; U havn't fried me, by the time i'm thru with u, u would be begging to take me to the alter |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by hollandis(f): 9:32am On Sep 05, 2008 |
beeola: As if I care    Maybe she tends to get fed up with you Maybe you cant perform Maybe you are poor Maybe you are not man enough Maybe you stink Maybe you dick is small like baba rabiu Maybe To be continued |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by beeola(m): 10:09am On Sep 05, 2008 |
Thank u all guys,well ma 1st eva gf cheated on mi and eva since i find it diff 2 blve dem wen dey even the word I LOVE YOU.I blve the only tin dat spoiled everything are ma sisters i.e they pretend 2 like guys and den begin 2 scam dem,dis is one of the reasons 2 cos i made up ma mind dat i wouldn't fall for their trick as well. but the tin is kipping the relationship is my problem,i try 2 build the relationship atimes but it wont work.I dont womanize o,at least av stayed for 2years without ving a gf and i was not desperate 2 Well as for u holandis,i blame u not ask any gurl dated i ve neva lack any of wot u just suggested o lol.I dey take ma constant agbo jedi o |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by dani1luv: 10:29am On Sep 05, 2008 |
i knw tooo. Nna make i no lie oo the tyn wetin yhu go do na say, 1. Drink 104 oranges per day  2. Eat eko as doyin talk am 1nce a each day6 3. Go see therapist 4. Go see babalawo 5. Come marry ma grndma she be 95yrs she too yong. 6. Go pump ya d*ck maybe the tyn too small 7. Maybe you no fit perform 8. Try all this tyn i bet ihn go work  To be continued in 5days tyme |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by olanajim(m): 10:33am On Sep 05, 2008 |
Beeola, thanks for that addition. That is why I always recommend looking at the root of matter before judging on issue like this. It is clear that you have phobia. And that phobia was a result of your first heartbreak. I think, every disappointment we experienced must leave us better than it found us and not the other way. It must be stepping stone and not obstacle to our getting ahead. You need to let go of the past so that you can live in the present. You cannot hold grudge in your heart against "LOVE" just because you were disappointed at your first trial and still expect to reap full benefit of love. My dear, it is hard but very possible. The only help you can get is in you. If you have done due diligent on your current relationship and have found nothing incriminating about your man, then commit to him and don't look back at the past. If you keep looking back you may not know when you would stumble upon a roadblock! How do you go about it? First change your negative mental attitude and replace hate with love. Second, recognize that as long as you behave like that, you are hurting yourself and giving victory to the man that hurt you. The best way to make your ex regret breaking your heart is to find "real love" elsewhere and make a success of it! Believe me, he would wish he had not parted from you. Third, focus on your man and recognize that you are hurting him. He may not complain yet. But the truth is nothing hurt as much as unreciprocated love, Finally, when a child stumble at the first attempt to walk, we encourage him to try again. This time, cautiously, and taking the "right step". We know that if he choose to remain sitting, he may never walk again. Therefore, learn from the child parable. Instead of fearing another "fall", start looking at the brighter side of life. As long as your man meet your requirement, you are on safe side. Those who are afraid of falling may never rise! |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by olanajim(m): 10:38am On Sep 05, 2008 |
Sorry, I interchanged the gender. Error noted but message remains. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by hollandis(f): 10:40am On Sep 05, 2008 |
beeola: lol Beoola so you need a boost  I talk am say you no sabi You for try viagra na |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by Udyro(f): 10:41am On Sep 05, 2008 |
@poster i thot as much!, dat ur behaviour will have someting to do with ur past. oh boy, keep life going, dwell not on the past, 'cos it will haunt u. most people falls a victim and still make it, edit ur dictionary to include back the word 'LOVE' so you can make use of it.  |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by beeola(m): 10:50am On Sep 05, 2008 |
Tanx guys,will kip u guys updated o |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by Nobody: 11:40am On Sep 05, 2008 |
olanajim: I cant beleive you are making an exuse for that. That has nothing to do with phobia. The guy's just plain selfish. He admitted the girls love him, why should he not love them back, cos someone broke his heart in the past?? please. 80% of the reasons why people cant love or stay in relationships is because they are just sooo wraped up in themselves, they forgetthe joy of love is in making your partner happy. @ poster you need to stop thinking of yourself for onece in your life and think of the other person. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by beeola(m): 11:58am On Sep 05, 2008 |
the tin i do love dem back but afta 3 months tins change. All i nid is u guys hlp dats all not criticism k. At least i want a change dats y am here for ur hlp |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by Nobody: 12:08pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
beeola: And you call that love?? Thats not love, love dosent have an expiry date of 3 months. You just get all u can from them and look from the next unsuspecting victim. Maybe you should look for a girl and marry her under 2 months before the expiry date. So when the love ends, you'll be stuck with her. Lets see if you will have any choice other than making yourself and the woman you married happy. You are still talking because you know you can always end it and start anoda one when you get tired. No one can help you except YOU!! |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by hollandis(f): 12:08pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
beeola: YOU NI SABI PERFORM SIMPLE!!!! |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by phemmy008(m): 12:10pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
Its a thing of the mind, sit down and think very deeply what pissed you off in ur relationship then try to make amendments on where you think the other party lacks, be focused on your relationship. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by MissyB1(m): 1:22pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
When you are mature enuf to know what the essence of a relationship is,You won't let one slip off ur fingers after 3 months.Cruise guy!!Its ur time. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by topup: 1:42pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
After 3 months is usually when most relationships get serious, my ex was exactly the same, he even told me that our 3 month relationship was his longest. Truly, if you find the most amazing girl in your life, you will do all you can not to run away. I won't be quick to diagnose you with a phobia, I personally think they are excuses. It is contributing factor to your inability to make these relationships last, not the sole reason. I think this because, I genuinely believe that none of the past girlfriends had an impact on you, you seem more fed up of the ending relationships than anything else. I believe that if any of the girls in your past had made an impact on you, you would have tried to save that relationship. It is good that you have at least finally confronted your fear, but we can all advise you to be positive and to treat every relationship individually, but I myself know that believing it is a totally different thing. My advice is to try to observe the females in your world, as friends first, from this neutral standpoint you can observe qualities and problems, without being involved in a relationship, after knowing these girls for a long time, you will feel less scared to make that jump and commit to them. This is because having a sense of the true person you're with will help you feel secure in the relationship. If you notice yourself starting to distance yourself away near the three month mark, please feel free to post on this forum. You need to start forcing yourself to give the relationships a fair chance, not to run away when the honeymoon period is over, to continue to communicate with the person you're with, you can even open up about your fears if you feel safe enough to do so, and don't just jump into the conclusion that a relationship isn't going to work. In your case, you might have to go against your natural urge to leave or disappear, and force yourself to see the relationship through, to give it your all. Finally, remember that you're not alone, yes heartbreak hurts, but it hurts everybody, whilst everybody gets up dusts the dirt off them, and go and find love, you shouldn't let it defeat you, that is if you want to find love. |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by beeola(m): 1:43pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
thank u all,we make amends o |
| Re: Hlp Mi O!1 by beeola(m): 1:46pm On Sep 05, 2008 |
Dat was the best advice ve had in ages,u are the bomb TOPUP,u are the bomb. mail mi pls meetdeejay@yahoo.com |
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