It always amazes me how most [i][/i]oyinbos are capable of maitaining a house and kids perfctly without the assistance of househelps.Over here (nigeria) we have abundant housegirls, security men, gardner, nanny e.t.c. but still things just dont look as perfect, any clue to the secret?

Why do you want to subject yourself to all that stress when you can afford it . Living in Nigeria has its good side. Enjoy it. Let Oyinbos and our peeps yonder do endless chores. We have armed robbers and NEPA to worry about.

They are mostly idle and have very little to do at home so they need to do their own housework themselves otherwise they'll get bloated.

AND, how many people can afford to pay such wages? There are strict laws with regards to minimum wage etc. How much do people earn that they can afford to pay minimum wages? The thing no easy o

its true having helpin hands around u is a plus for living in nigeria. But at times the problems associated with these helps is more than the help they offer i.e stealing, child molestation, husband snatchin e.t.c
The worst part is if u live in a small apartment with house gal, house boy , nanny, imagine the crowd

its true having helpin hands around u is a plus for living in nigeria. But at times the problems associated with these helps is more than the help they offer i.e stealing, child molestation, husband snatchin e.t.c
The worst part is if u live in a small apartment  with house gal, house boy , nanny, imagine the crowd

truly-opal:

its true having helpin hands around u is a plus for living in nigeria. But at times the problems associated with these helps is more than the help they offer i.e stealing, child molestation, husband snatchin e.t.c
The worst part is if u live in a small apartment  with house girl, house boy , nanny, imagine the crowd

In Nigeria those who live in really small apartments on account of limited means will usually not keep househelps because they understand the economics well if not the health implication. But sometimes owing to extended family pressures they are forced to.

What's of interest here is the middle class head of family that can afford it but would rather the wife does chores because his sister in London is raising 5 children without h/help.

Husband snatching? That's an interesting one!

For one thing, jobs are being provided even if the pay is pretty poor.

It is very and easily achiveable, but might be very tough to get in Nigeria, why?
Most Nigerian men in Nigeria just come from work, change, shower and watch TV while Dinner is being server, and aftewards, he do nothing else.
Most Nigerian woman in Nigeria are busy with parties almost every weekend and they need someone to look after the kids, and thanks to the all year round summer.
Compared to Abroad, where while the woman is cooking, the man is doing the dishes and in the morning, while the man is getting ready the boy, the woman is getting ready the baby girl, so the work is shared.
Most family, the man and the woman works.
Now in Nigeria most women work too, if not harder than the man sef.
And for a nation where the unemployment rate is so high, it is good for employing the youths

It's 'doable' to be self reliant in managing your household without househelps, only if the household duties are equally shared by both partners. Here in America, both hubby and wife help out one another in running the household, while in Nigeria, such duties are off limits to the man. And you think of a nursing mother who is nursing her child, while boiling water for garri to feed her husband, and junior's cries is ignored by his father, who may be ordering him, "go to your mom". Is it any wonder that the Nigerian woman hasnt collapsed from the strain of duty? I really admire them, really admired and appreciate their roles!

I don`t understand why people would hire a househelp UNLES both partners work FULLTIME!

I don`t see what`s so difficult or hard about nursing a baby and boil water for garri.
Or simply ask the husband to be a lil patient and that his food will be made after the woman has finished nursing.

It`s not true that ALL white families devide house chores.
My mum had 2 parttime jobs , while my dad worked fulltime. Still she did all the house chores and take care of us.
Dad would take care of us in the evening while was was going to her job.
we didn`t have a househelp LOL

Another friend of mine works fulltime and BF doesn`t lift a finger in the house either, she does all the work.
They don`t have a househelp either.

Don`t like that mentality though, because i believe that if both partners work fulltime the housechores should be shared equally.