you know people, I'm always scared of marriage. Thank you for asking why? The reason is this:
I get bored and tired of something very fast especially when I see something competing with it. (I so much love 2pac's music I neva tot I cld do without it but the day I started listening to biggie was d day my love for 2pac started going down the drain but not totally sha o )...what am I saying you ask again? My taste change often and I tend to loose interest when I see something better (don't know abt marriage yet cos I ain't tried it yet). I see couples stay married for 28yrs (God bless you my popps and mum), 40yrs, 60yrs and more and I couldn't help but ask HOW DEY DID IT.

so married men and women, tell us how u sustained your marriage but for single peeps like me (#throws salute), how do u think a marriage can be sustained?

Also lets talk abt other various marriage issues people

When you keep discovering something new about yourself, you will also discover that you will keep discovering something new about your partner till death do you part.

That alone makes it lively, expecting something new daily. Meanwhile, you must have a strong reason why you want to marry your partner which will also help you not to be tired of him/her.

bellong: When you keep discovering something new about yourself, you will also discover that you will keep discovering something new about your partner till death do you part.

That alone makes it lively, expecting something new daily. Meanwhile, you must have a strong reason why you want to marry your partner which will also help you not to be tired of him/her.

nice one...if I may ask are you married

Best thing bro...marry ur best friend (I don't mean planto)



u never get bored...cos everiday would feel like d first day u met, u get to be urself around her and she will understand u perfectly well...

Op no disrespect but how old r u?

longjohnsilver: Best thing bro...marry ur best friend (I don't mean planto)



u never get bored...cos everiday would feel like d first day u met, u get to be urself around her and she will understand u perfectly well...

LoL

5minsmadness: Op no disrespect but how old r u?

well this thread is for those having 2 minds abt marriage...share experiences and how to face difficulties....(I kinda ran out of ideas when it came to "giving the topic a title" )

freecharles:

well this thread is for those having 2 minds abt marriage...share experiences and how to face difficulties....(I kinda ran out of ideas when it came to "giving the topic a title" )

Here's what I think:

1. 'True love' does not exist. Love comes from appreciating the person over time.

2. Two people living together in the same house forever is going to be tough. They are going to get on each others nerves, no matter how 'in love' they were before marriage. So they should be ready to weather the storms when they come and not give up at the slightest or even major challenges. That's what 'for better, for worse is all about.' That's how our parents had long lasting marriages.

3. I intend to make forgiveness a key part of my relationship with my wife to the best of my ability. Nobody is perfect.

4. Marriage is for life. Don't marry anybody using g deciet or lies or out of selfishness. You'll burn out. Don't marry out of pity either.

5. Get my mom to like her or at least tolerate her(my mom can be a handful ). Always have her back when the family is around.

6. Make sure she wears sexy outfit indoors Its important to me

7. Make sure we settle number of kids before marriage. I want 4 ONLY

Happiness in marriage without getting bored is very possible. Marry a friend, confidant, lover, one you can trust and rely on, share your challenges with, live with each other and for each other. Temptations will surely come from time to time but if you are happy with your home and partner, the chances of straying will be very minimal. God help us

@Op I think for someone that gets bored easily like you, you should go for someone spontaneous.great points 5minsmadness!

5minsmadness: Op no disrespect but how old r u?

His folks have been married for 28yrs. Do the maths...

Marriage is not as hard as it is. If u meet someone 'SUPER NICE' dun let 'em go cos of the fear of d unknown. Just go ahead n take a dip

to me...marriage z both sweet n sour
it all boils down to understanding,tolerance,forgiveness,respect,good sex ...even averagesex ...and communication.
the bottom line z....you have to be ready to get pissed off by the same person for the rest of your life.
everybody can't marry their best friend...this z where tolerance and understanding comes into the picture coupled with individual differences.


#Annie#

luvablesam: Just go ahead n take a "DIP"

mhen, u make it sound like "taking a risk"

kreamidiva:

His folks have been married for 28yrs. Do the maths...

What if...just what if he happens to be the last child and they have him 14 years after their marriage

Do the maths

longjohnsilver:
What if...just what if he happens to be the last child and they have him 14 years after their marriage

Do the maths

olobe...*I sight u se7en

Marry a friend,make him/her your best friend.
Be ready to forgive, never expect perfection.
Grow as partners but never lose your individuality.

ifyalways: Marry a friend,make him/her your best friend.
Be ready to forgive, never expect perfection.
Grow as partners but never lose your individuality.

according to what u said, me as a guy now "I shld marry her first as a friend then start making her my bestfriend afta" abi

freecharles: you know people, I'm always scared of marriage. Thank you for asking why? The reason is this:
I get bored and tired of something very fast especially when I see something competing with it. (I so much love 2pac's music I neva tot I cld do without it but the day I started listening to biggie was d day my love for 2pac started going down the drain but not totally sha o )...what am I saying you ask again? My taste change often and I tend to loose interest when I see something better (don't know abt marriage yet cos I ain't tried it yet). I see couples stay married for 28yrs (God bless you my popps and mum), 40yrs, 60yrs and more and I couldn't help but ask HOW DEY DID IT.

so married men and women, tell us how u sustained your marriage but for single peeps like me (#throws salute), how do u think a marriage can be sustained?

Also lets talk abt other various marriage issues people

Your questions are too generic.

Narrow them down to the barest specifics, man.

I appreciate your honesty and since you know this about yourself well don't get married. I know society (especially Nigerian society) frowns at unmarried people but seriously who ever said marriage was for everyone? Remain single and keep tasting all the different flavors out there . A word of advice- pls make sure you are honest with your partners and let them know you are not interested in any thing long term

Meddler: I appreciate your honesty and since you know this about yourself well don't get married. I know society (especially Nigerian society) frowns at unmarried people but seriously who ever said marriage was for everyone? Remain single and keep tasting all the different flavors out there . A word of advice- pls make sure you are honest with your partners and let them know you are not interested in any thing long term

rili

longjohnsilver:
What if...just what if he happens to be the last child and they have him 14 years after their marriage

Do the maths

Looooll... u're funny.

Pls do the maths ooo