Am in a dilemma, I have been engaged to this guy for 6 months now and the closer the date to the wedding gets the scarier it gets.I dont love this guy. The thing is, in my quest to marry a guy a love I have refused a total of 4 suitors and am not getting any younger. I believe so much in mutual love when it comes to marriage. Please what should I do? Am really scared, if I refuse this guy again I might not get another chance (marriage proposal) and if I go ahead with the marriage I might end up in a loveless marriage, I have tried praying and fasting but am not getting any answers yet. Please what should I do? I really need advice.

Dear OP, I hope you know marriage is a life time thing. So better think about if before you make a mistake that can ruin you.

Well,,for mi i will say"""dnt marry d guy"""
D"Im nt getting any younger" slogan has led many girls into marriages dey nw regret!!!

MARRIAGE IS FOREVER SOMETHING O
Except say u fit divorce....den u can go
if u c say d guy no b am,,,,den u divorce!!!

Love is a spice that gives it the taste.. Understanding is the driving force. Believe it or not with time, no matter the amount of love that was initially felt, it wears out.. It's the level understanding of your partner that keeps you guys attracted. As it is said, accepting the similarities and respecting the differences is the key to marriage. Now that understanding and that's what's up..

ellastic: Am in a dilemma, I have been engaged to this guy for 6 months now and the closer the date to the wedding gets the scarier it gets.I dont love this guy. The thing is, in my quest to marry a guy a love I have refused a total of 4 suitors and am not getting any younger. I believe so much in mutual love when it comes to marriage. Please what should I do? Am really scared, if I refuse this guy again I might not get another chance (marriage proposal) and if I go ahead with the marriage I might end up in a loveless marriage, I have tried praying and fasting but am not getting any answers yet. Please what should I do? I really need advice.

I dont know what you shld do ooo

Love is not necessary but companionship matters. My analogy is - think of a best friend you had or still have, there is no amourous love neither is there sex (since you are not homo) but you guys enjoy each others company! That's what marriage is based on ! Someone you can come to an understanding with, a symbiotic relationship! Wait the four past relationships? Did you have the same problem? Then you are the one with a problem !

Marriage has become much like calculus dis days, people live through it will logic, as a matter of fact, when that butterfly feeling or that organic chemistry we now view as love expires, something will see you through. Most of the married people you see around might be honest enough to verify this.

In other words, there are so many other things to look out for when considering marriage, love is just one of them.

My candid advice is that, if deep down inside of you, you
are convinced that this man loves, you should go ahead and marry him.
you will get to appreciate and love him after the wedding
because your lack of love for him and others in the past could
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Marriage is a lifelong investment. You are not yet even certain if he's one you see in your future growing old together and reminiscing on some good ol days. Why would you want to risk and compromise such? Are you rushing into it to please others? Or doing this for personal happiness? At a point marriage gonna feel to you like you are trapped so, The trick is to look for someone who deserves you once you are ready cos love it self is a fleeting sensation. And if the lucky man understands and appreciates what value you freely bestowed on him magic happens. The question is what value are you bringing into the lucky guys life?

Abeg love is very important in marriage...if u don't love d person is like you're hurting yourself and d one you wanna marry