my friend's father died about 2 years ago. his last wife who was in her mid thirties was about 5 months pregnant then. now she has given birth and the baby is well above one year. now the family is saying that the eldest son who has divorced his own wife, should marry d wife his father bequeathed so that he can help to raise d child and have somebody to take care of him too. D woman did not object but the man his showing some serious concern and worry. he is yet to give his own opinion. what should he do. the man is seriously confused.

men,this is serious looking at it from a purely practical aspect if the wife has no hang ups about it,it makes sense because then the child will have security and the wife being young needs a man in her life because its not fair for her life to be over just cause her husband is deceased,morally some might have a problem with it

HElls no!!

Will explain my reasons later

lucabrasi:

men,this is serious looking at it from a purely practical aspect if the wife has no hang ups about it,it makes sense because then the child will have security and the wife being young needs a man in her life because its not fair for her life to be over just cause her husband is deceased,morally some might have a problem with it

So you`d actually advice someone to marry someone for the practical aspect?

I think it is sad that in some society`s women are unable to take care of her kids alone ,
unless , she also likes the brother of her deceased husband and they both would marry out of " love " ,

monatoetje:

So you`d actually advice someone to marry someone for the practical aspect?

I think it is sad that in some society`s women are unable to take care of her kids alone ,
unless , she also likes the brother of her deceased husband and they both would marry out of " love " ,

please re-read my comments,i saif if the lady in question is ok with it,obviously from the poster's story the woman is ok with it and they r waiting on the man to actually come on board so wat r u on abou?

annyplenty:

my friend's father died about 2 years ago. his last wife who was in her mid thirties was about 5 months pregnant then. now she has given birth and the baby is well above one year. now the family is saying that the eldest son who has divorced his own wife, should marry d wife his father bequeathed so that he can help to raise d child and have somebody to take care of him too. D woman did not object but the man his showing some serious concern and worry. he is yet to give his own opinion. what should he do. the man is seriously confused.

this is a common practice in 9 j a even in yoruba- land

@ topic if he does not want the woman , no need to be confused he should speak up! abeg wey the confusion in this matter now?

Cant a man make his own choice?

surely women arent that scarce anywhere?


I heard of a man who did this, and from then on, his life went downhill.

On the other hand, this is perfect karma if the guy is a user and abuser of females.


Personally, I'D think it should be an abomination though. don't know why it isnt.