vikel2104: It is not uncommon to have people coming to someone's house unannounced. Some persons don't have any problem with it but there are others who feel that the visitor should pre-inform them before coming.
I would prefer a prior notice before one visits. This is because the person may not meet me at home or I may not be in a position to entertain visitors at that time. A prior notice will enable me receive you better. Personally before I go visiting someone, even my friends, I first of all call them to know whether or not they are at home and not busy. I think this is common courtesy.
What is your view on this?

It can be very annoying especially when you have other plans. I mean, its very annoying that in this day and time one will just wake up and decide to go visit and spend the night somewhere without pre-informing the host.
I have two experiences that happened recently and believe me I didn't expect what I did in both occasions but thank God I went for "confession" and God forgave me

We parted nicely sha.

since 'na only you waka come' without my invitation, naso you go take 'waka go kwanu'

only my mum can visit me unannounced, others are on their own if they try it.

hmmm I'm having one unannounce visitor serving him like hell.

with technologies like cell phones and other means of communicating your intentions, there is no excuse.

Gboliwe:
It can be very annoying especially when you have other plans. I mean, its very annoying that in this day and time one will just wake up and decide to go visit and spend the night somewhere without pre-informing the host.

exactly.

No way,the person can knock forever, I won't open the door, security won't even let the person near the gate if I didn't say I was expecting someone and who I might be expecting.

You can't go to someone's house without notice no matter who you are,the person you're visiting may be broke,may be having personal issues that needs utmost privacy. ...

It's better to inform the person b4 coming

Spare me the long text. I dnt wanna read them. Back to the subject matter. Accept the visitor, for the first vist. Give them ur rules of not visiting without preinformation. They will understand. Dnt reject them unless you are heartless!

Naima00: What you say is definitely right and manner's are important but who will tell the grannies and old aunties that they need to call before they show up to someone's house lol

Except when they are too sure of meeting (@least gateman, house_help) someone @home. Unlike some of us who could travel @any given time for one important meeting or business. Otherwise, they would definitely call before arrival, to avoid story that touches.

really annoying.

Missy89: wont even open my door

hmmm, let's assume im your boyfriend?

ll accept u but u won't b entertained.Datz jst Childish

HARDDON:

hmmm, let's assume im your boyfriend?

You cant just show up at my door. you make an appointment.

Missy89:

You cant just show up at my door. you make an appointment.

huh? aint u forgetting something? we aint in an official settings, i'm your dam..n guy!

U v 2 look as dis in different perspectives. If u live in d village where ppl live very close 2 each oda nd r blood relatives or environs where fones dn't exist, dere's a high chance dat most visits would b without prior info... dat does not xclude d fact dat ppl may stiil not like it. however, in an organised nd large set up like eko or abj, I wuld prefer som1 livin at surulere 2 call me at festac b4 comin 2 ma place cos as a human bein, I wuld hav schedules. Dats wat I thinks shuld b d norm. In dat same lag or abj again, u'r neigbor may not inform u b4 visitin.... I wuldn't mind however if i'v time 4 dem.....

ephemm: Just last week an acquaintance whom I have not heard from for over 4 years, first sent me a request on FB, which I accepted, next thing he sent me messages asking if I can help he secure a job as he is currently out of job; I told him I'll try my best and let him know if there's any suitable opening.

Then just by weekend, he sent me a message saying he is on the way to my place and he'll like to spend the night at my house
He was 3hrs away from me when he sent the message, I ignored the message and did not host him. I wonder how someone will embark on an 11hours journey without informing the host.

To him now, I must be a very bad person; if that's being bad, I don't want to be good.

oga, has he offended you before?

@least a notice.but it doesnt mean i shouldnt treat them d best way i can,what if i pick up a homeless person/stranger on the street to provide shelter for them was i given any prior notice.anyone is welcomed 24/7...a bigger me in Jesus Name.honestly to me not housing a visitor is cruel,even if i am a big man that travels and the person meet gateman and d gateman calls to confirm if the person is a known person,haba make he enter and make maid cook am better food till Oga come.No one knows tomoro

having a campanion or visitor @ my house na him sweet pass,even back in school there was a time we were 4 in a room,even though we quarrel,its was one of the memories i cherished.not housing anyone under any circumstances is either becoz of hatred,wickedness,pride or a poverty ridden mentality.honestly why wld we do such to a fellow humanbeing like us except the visitor in question is a bad person,but i wont still treat them bad.many 9ja babes wey no want mother inlaw self,shey na them go want visitor

Unacceptable.

People cant just turn up at mine anytime they want.

this just happened to me.
my younger bro was coming to my house and he did not tell me he was coming, only for another brother of mine staying with me to tell me that Alex was 45mins away, on his way to my place. I said ok. I packed my things and left the house for them.( I had just sent money roughly a week ago to the one on his way and he knows that if he comes, i will still give him transport.) so i left and stayed somewhere else for the three days he stayed and he left back to school.
These guys think u pluck money from trees!

Somalia to Nairaland? Interesting, una no get forum?

Naima00: In my culture (Somali) with the older generation its almost unheard of to call or "book an appointment" (as they see it) when going to visit someone so their visits are always unannounced unless they are travelling long distances and so for their own benefit they will call and make sure your home at least to avoid a wasted trip lol. However with the younger generations or especially people in the diaspora that is most definitely dying out and so you are most likely to be made aware when your going to be visited. However unannounced visitors means you always be ready and prepared for people to drop by at any time which can be a nightmare ie Your house should always be clean and you should always have extra food. You are not allowed an off day or expect to look bad. lol Culture!

Emmaesty: U have a wonderful culture. If only some Nigerian cultures were like this, we'd have a cleaner country

thanks but it can be a nightmare when you are just chilling in your house maybe planning on a nap and someone knocks on your door and not only do you have to open the door but wait on them too with a smile on your face and they have full right to roam ur house as they wish. Iv had this a couple of times and though it was an uncomfortable beginning I looked back at the visit after with a smile.

wiringdpt: Somalia to Nairaland? Interesting, una no get forum?

no we do have a forum and I'm a member there also but I just like to interact with people outside of my country to broaden my horizon. Interaction with people outside of your own community helps you to be more open minded and accepting of others and their ways.

Naima00: no we do have a forum and I'm a member there also but I just like to interact with people outside of my country to broaden my horizon. Interaction with people outside of your own community helps you to be more open minded and accepting of others and their ways.

You should've ignored that m0ron.

KingSolomonI: this just happened to me.
my younger bro was coming to my house and he did not tell me he was coming, only for another brother of mine staying with me to tell me that Alex was 45mins away, on his way to my place. I said ok. I packed my things and left the house for them.( I had just sent money roughly a week ago to the one on his way and he knows that if he comes, i will still give him transport.) so i left and stayed somewhere else for the three days he stayed and he left back to school.
These guys think u pluck money from trees!

too bad,@least u didnt give him money.but it wld have been more better to stay and receive him and explain things to him.even if its only water u can offer,haba offer it the best way you can,nothing last foreva.if your bro makes it big tomoro and get married,u went to his house maybe u need an urgent cash to boost bizness etc then his wife treated you bad coz u showed up unexpectedly coz of situations beyound ur control,how wld you feel.all am saying is fingers aint equal

Naima00: thanks but it can be a nightmare when you are just chilling in your house maybe planning on a nap and someone knocks on your door and not only do you have to open the door but wait on them too with a smile on your face and they have full right to roam ur house as they wish. Iv had this a couple of times and though it was an uncomfortable beginning I looked back at the visit after with a smile.

exactly what am trying to pass across

logica: You should've ignored that m0ron.

thanks its ok sometimes you gotta kill them with kindness

Its common with some jehovah witnesses

Shekau don't need to give any notice when he comes visiting..

TOPCRUISE: Its common with some jehovah witnesses

Laughing my ass off.. #OnPoint.

When there ain't mobile phones and limited means of communication , people show up at my house unannounced particularly relatives from the village. I never felt comfortable with it but what can I do? Naija and culture things , I just had to conform.. This mobile phone communication era gave me voice and allowed me to set ground rule on any visitors. If anyone decides to visit without giving me a prior notice that person should be ready to face disappointment of a futile journey. In this wicked world one should be conscious of its security. More so, to avoid unnecessary friends and family palavar.

ephemm: Just last week an acquaintance whom I have not heard from for over 4 years, first sent me a request on FB, which I accepted, next thing he sent me messages asking if I can help he secure a job as he is currently out of job; I told him I'll try my best and let him know if there's any suitable opening.

Then just by weekend, he sent me a message saying he is on the way to my place and he'll like to spend the night at my house
He was 3hrs away from me when he sent the message, I ignored the message and did not host him. I wonder how someone will embark on an 11hours journey without informing the host.

To him now, I must be a very bad person; if that's being bad, I don't want to be good.

He was coming to become a parasite