u propose to the lady and u feel she is ur all and all until u suddenly meet another and she's like d embodiment of all u've ever wanted in a lady.how do u leave the former lady u proposed to without hurting her?

You can always leave if you really want to.
It's the "without hurtung her" part that is unrealistic.
Please be realistic.

ckc:

u propose to the lady and u feel she is ur all and all until u suddenly meet another and she's like d embodiment of all u've ever wanted in a lady.how do u leave the former lady u proposed to without hurting her?

true

how do you leave her?
I thought you know how to walk
you proposed already and you wanna leave
you dey craze
you close eyes b4?
abeg change ur wayz b4 she course you oh

its possible,a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

Go ahead and sing her Craig David's 'I'm walkin' away'
you can even decide to sing her 'Don't love you no more' but while at
that,pray this new girl doesn't pound ur heart to pieces.

cooldud62*:

how do you leave her?
I thought you know how to walk
you proposed already and you want to leave
you dey craze
you close eyes before?
abeg change ur wayz before she course you oh

this is a sensitive matter,
if you don't know what to say, just move to another topic.

people break up 20 year marriages let alone ordinary proposals.

@poster,
i will advice that you examine yourself completely before taking that decission.
If you were able to propose to the first lady,
Then you loved her to some level.
The remaining level can be gradually attained.
LOVE IS A JOURNEY. Not something that happens in  flash.
Many people have been in that situation and many regretted the decisions they took.
I suggest that you think twice and thrice,
If you can't help it, go for the blow. She will not take it lightly but
like someone said above,

jeni_kadi:

its possible,a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

jeni_kadi:

its possible,a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

,

jeni_kadi:

awwww,a broken engagement? if so its better,really,its easier to get over it dan a broken marriage

. . .

;d

u're between a rock and a hard place. when this exact thing happened to my cousin,i remember how she bawled her eyes out. its a scary situaion and it goes 2 way. either this new girl is ur true God sent partner or just a devilish distraction. sit down and seek God, apply wisdom and cross ur fingers. Better yet, u could do eenie meenie minie mo

pamboogie:

u're between a rock and a hard place. when this exact thing happened to my cousin,i remember how she bawled her eyes out. its a scary situaion and it goes 2 way. either this new girl is ur true God sent partner or just a devilish distraction. sit down and seek God, apply wisdom and cross ur fingers. Better yet, u could do eenie meenie minie mo

yea u r right

poster needs to be careful,she might be a distraction to take him off his real partner,or she might also be the rightful partner dat God sent,since he does not want them to end up divorced after a few yrs of marriage

Same way you leave 1 you never proposed 2 4 another

LMAO @ruudie

my brother,what you are about to do it isnt easy atall,i have been these situation before and i tell you 4yrs after marriage to the other person, it still hurts my heart so bad that i took that decision even though i have the best of marriage now,you need to be careful, take things easy,never trust what came in a flash and lastly pray and commit both ladies into God's hand,am sure God will lead you.

HI CHINEDUM,

FIRST AN FOREMOST, I EXPECTED U TO HAVE PRAYED AND RECEIVE GOD'S APPROVAL B4 PROPOSING

BUT IF NO, TRY AND PRAY, TALK TO UR PASTOR IF U'RE REALLY SERIOUS

WHO KNOWS U MIGHT END UP NOT MARYING NONE OF THE LADIES.

IF U NEED TO DROP THE FIRST LADY, PLS APPLY WISDOM, COUSE NO WOMAN WANTS TO BE DUMPED.

This is serious oooh, seek God directions and it will be well wit u.

carnal:

my brother,what you are about to do it isnt easy atall,i have been these situation before and i[b] tell you 4yrs after marriage to the other person, it still hurts my heart so bad that i took that decision even though i have the best of marriage now,.[/b]

why should it if u have the best of marriage now?

@poster like jumoke said and a few others,pray about it.
u need a clear mind so u dont walk away from the right to the wrong.
the new person might look like all u want.But there are some things u wont see now till later.
Its certain people and tastes change,but one thing I am certain about is true love doesnt.
Whatever made u believe that d initial person u proposed to has ur all in all then above all other ladies
might be a pointer to the fact that she is the right one.Though its very possible she's not and the new lady is
Whatever u choose at this point, know that u and u alone would be totally responsible for it
All d best
Cheers!!!

@senatorJD, you might be right with your question but i want you to know that at some certain point in life we are responsible for our decisions and for these decision i made i take absolute responsibility and i still miss the next person as a friend.

well @carnal as long as you miss her as a friend, then its way ok.
yeah we all are responsible for our decisions both good and bad

of course we are responsible for our decisions good or bad and i sure miss her as a friend even though i try as much possible to avoid any contact that will lead to anything as a result of what she feel somewhere in her heart for me too.

carnal u sould like u r still inlove with her and also regret ur marriage,its obvious

jeni_kadi:

carnal u sould like u r still inlove with her and also regret ur marriage,its obvious

Jeni am kinda thinking so as well.
Carnal why avoid her except u still have deep feelings for her? Fine wisdom is staying away from what might tempt you,but from what u wrote,it kinda seems u would have preffered being with her.

well you just leave her cos there really is no easy way to do it. just don't insult her in the process or add insult to the injury.