This are my worst trial times; I couldn't imagine myself going through all these. I woke up at night thinking of what my life has turned into. This man has ruined my life.

I was born over 40 years ago, from a moderate family of 3. My mum and dad did their best to send us to school. During my days in the university, I only dated one guy who I genuinely love and appreciate, I call him gaby. He was so cute, nice and jovial. We started dating when I was in 200 level and he was in 300 that time. When he graduated and I was in final year then, gaby said he wasn’t goin to serve, he said he was going to the U.K to do his masters because his parents were rich. He finally left for the U.K. We only talked only the first month he got there and after that he stopped calling me and the phone number he gave to me with which I use in reaching him stopped going through and there was no mobile phone then unlike now.

After my graduation, I waited for 2 years if gaby will come back and look for me but it never happened. I decided to move on with my life. I got loads of proposers but there was none that could match my taste. Do not get me wrong because some people might be thinking I was waiting for the perfect one, no one is perfect but I was just waiting for the right person. The suitors that came are either temperamental or daddy’s boy or even lazy which I don’t like. Some men believes that when they come from a rich home, they don’t need to work, they depend on their father’s wealth but that is not so.

10 years gone by and Mr Right didn’t show up. I was on pressure from my family members. Everybody wants me to marry. I don’t want to rush into marriage just because I want to marry. If I marry the wrong person, nobody will bear the consequences with me. The only thing they will tell me is “go back to your husband’s house”. I want a man I am comfortable with, a man I can grow old with and spend the rest of my life with. Some people mocked me that I clocked 38 yet no marriage but still I tell them ‘was I born to get married’.

I went to the market this faithful day, I say an old friend of mine. We have not seen for over 5 years now. We greeted and hugged each other very well. We went to a nearby store which she said she co-owned and we started chatting. She even got me some presents because the former day was my 40th birthday. She told me that gaby has finally relocated to Nigeria and he’s asking after me. I was so surprised, she told me that one of our old friends saw him and told her. She told me that they said he was married and later divorced. After we chatted and talked, we exchanged our mobile numbers.

3 days later I got a phone call and it was gaby. He said he got my number from one of my close friends. We talked and he told me to come meet him in one of this new generation fast food joints. I went and behold gaby was still looking young as ever. He hugged me not minding if I was married. When I looked into his eyes, I still felt he still loves me. We spent about 4 hours talking. He told me that he was back in Nigeria for good and his 15 years old marriage was over, he just divorced his Nigerian wife in U.K. Both of them had a 9 year old son together. He said he still loves me and ready to get married to me if I can forgive him and take him back. I was too excited that I never asked him why he didn’t call any more after he left me. For the marriage offer, I accepted immediately because he knew I wasn’t married, some of my friends have told him.

We started preparing for our marriage. I brought him home to see my parents and everybody in my family was so happy. The felt the bondage of unmarried spirit have left me.

Our wedding was a blast, there was too much to eat and drink and the who is who was there. Two months after our marriage, gaby told me he will be visiting the U.K to see his son. At first I refused but I don’t want to be a wicked step mother, I don’t want to separate him from his son. Final he left for the U.K. This is the 3rd year I have been waiting for my husband to return from the U.K he said he was visiting. Till date he didn’t call me and I have not heard from him. I tried contacting his family and they said he had made up with his former wife and they are now living happily. I went to few of his friends they do business together and they told me another story. I wish I had much money; I would have visited the U.K and get to know the facts of what is going on. But please tell me, why is this man ruining my life likes this? First he left me in the university. He later came back, I was 40 when he married me and left me again after marriage.

http://www.hovabuzz.com/news/388-he-ruined-my-life-by-leaving-me

If someone shows you who he is believe him. He left the first time, what could stop him from leaving again?

I can't really remember the name of the movie but Im sure Ive watched this nollywood movie before.

Desperation cloged your reasoning.

Chair cover
great God
idowuogbo
coogar
chillisauce
efemena
Mr Brown jay
luvable sam



You are all wanted here. Your attention is needed.if you hear your name make una relocate here o

Girls who always wished they married that sweetheart who they hear is married now and living happily, this just goes to show you that the guy you left for your husband is not always necesarily the best chioce for you.

This would make a very nice script for a nollywood movie.No jokes I think a scriptwriter could bulk it out and it would be a best seller Desmond Elliot playing lead with Uche Jombo playing the estranged wife.

If true, did she actually agree to Marriage marriage o not dating or courting at the very first meeting at the Fast food joint? No observation of his behaviour for someone who left you and you had not seen in almost 20 years? My Dad used to say a leopard never changes his spots but even if we believe in redemption one has to observe for a very long while to see and notice if there is indeed repetance.

Sophyrocks
cococandy aka Loretta
Kanwulia aka mgbeketoto
ewuro aka jidegirl
pickabeau
Red Benson



make una come chook mouth for this matter o

Sambarry aka kulyie. I hail o.


Anyway she should just go to a court and get a divorce on grounds of abandonment.

End of matter.
Everyone must not be married.

SAMBARRY: Sophyrocks
cococandy aka Loretta
Kanwulia aka mgbeketoto
ewuro aka jidegirl
pickabeau
Red Benson



make una come chook mouth for this matter o

Smh....... words fail me!

onismate: This are my worst trial times; I couldn't imagine myself going through all these. I woke up at night thinking of what my life has turned into. This man has ruined my life.

I was born over 40 years ago, from a moderate family of 3. My mum and dad did their best to send us to school. During my days in the university, I only dated one guy who I genuinely love and appreciate, I call him gaby. He was so cute, nice and jovial. We started dating when I was in 200 level and he was in 300 that time. When he graduated and I was in final year then, gaby said he wasn’t goin to serve, he said he was going to the U.K to do his masters because his parents were rich. He finally left for the U.K. We only talked only the first month he got there and after that he stopped calling me and the phone number he gave to me with which I use in reaching him stopped going through and there was no mobile phone then unlike now.

After my graduation, I waited for 2 years if gaby will come back and look for me but it never happened. I decided to move on with my life. I got loads of proposers but there was none that could match my taste. Do not get me wrong because some people might be thinking I was waiting for the perfect one, no one is perfect but I was just waiting for the right person. The suitors that came are either temperamental or daddy’s boy or even lazy which I don’t like. Some men believes that when they come from a rich home, they don’t need to work, they depend on their father’s wealth but that is not so.

10 years gone by and Mr Right didn’t show up. I was on pressure from my family members. Everybody wants me to marry. I don’t want to rush into marriage just because I want to marry. If I marry the wrong person, nobody will bear the consequences with me. The only thing they will tell me is “go back to your husband’s house”. I want a man I am comfortable with, a man I can grow old with and spend the rest of my life with. Some people mocked me that I clocked 38 yet no marriage but still I tell them ‘was I born to get married’.

I went to the market this faithful day, I say an old friend of mine. We have not seen for over 5 years now. We greeted and hugged each other very well. We went to a nearby store which she said she co-owned and we started chatting. She even got me some presents because the former day was my 40th birthday. She told me that gaby has finally relocated to Nigeria and he’s asking after me. I was so surprised, she told me that one of our old friends saw him and told her. She told me that they said he was married and later divorced. After we chatted and talked, we exchanged our mobile numbers.

3 days later I got a phone call and it was gaby. He said he got my number from one of my close friends. We talked and he told me to come meet him in one of this new generation fast food joints. I went and behold gaby was still looking young as ever. He hugged me[b]not minding if I was married[/b]. When I looked into his eyes, I still felt he still loves me. We spent about 4 hours talking. He told me that he was back in Nigeria for good and his 15 years old marriage was over, he just divorced his Nigerian wife in U.K. Both of them had a 9 year old son together. He said he still loves me and ready to get married to me if I can forgive him and take him back. I was too excited that I never asked him why he didn’t call any more after he left me. For the marriage offer, I accepted immediately because he knew I wasn’t married, some of my friends have told him.

We started preparing for our marriage. I brought him home to see my parents and everybody in my family was so happy. The felt the bondage of unmarried spirit have left me.

Our wedding was a blast, there was too much to eat and drink and the who is who was there. Two months after our marriage, gaby told me he will be visiting the U.K to see his son. At first I refused but I don’t want to be a wicked step mother, I don’t want to separate him from his son. Final he left for the U.K. This is the 3rd year I have been waiting for my husband to return from the U.K he said he was visiting. Till date he didn’t call me and I have not heard from him. I tried contacting his family and they said he had made up with his former wife and they are now living happily. I went to few of his friends they do business together and they told me another story. I wish I had much money; I would have visited the U.K and get to know the facts of what is going on. But please tell me, why is this man ruining my life likes this? First he left me in the university. He later came back, I was 40 when he married me and left me again after marriage.

http://www.hovabuzz.com/news/388-he-ruined-my-life-by-leaving-me

At the bolded, the whole story appeared disjointed, as if she got married before they met the 2nd time.

Anyways, desperation na bastard. The guy obviously lied about his marital status and about relocating to naija and used the grand opportunity to have a naija wife back home while he goes off to be with his family abroad. A very common practice amongst these abroad men. Its a pity she fell prey for his antics.There are many women in this situation waiting on their abroad husbands waiting and waiting for years. It would have been a different case if she was aware. Her desperation to marry at all cost, she dwelling on the relationship they once had, made her blind and foolish. When a man claims he is divorced, you must ask for proof and do your underground investigation. You must find out reasons why he is divorced. The fact that you were once dating before and lost contact does not mean you must quickly marry this person. A lot of water must have passed under the bridge that it is necessary to know this person very well before deciding to marry. Too bad.

I wish I had much money; I would have visited the U.K and get to know the facts of what is going on

A middle aged woman with so many years in a career?

ok

He didnt ruin her life, we must not always blame others for our challenges.
They had a relationship they broke up, he moved on, I dont know what she was doing.
He came back, she just jumped in probably just wanted a husband, she gambled it didnt pay off, she should move on, if she wants kids, now is the time to get a spe-rm donor and have a child, whinning the rest of her life and blaming a man who never actually loved her or ever showed her he did is irresponsibility.

Life happens, dust yourself and move forward.

I have not seen how he ruined her life.

stale!! I've read this story before.

although it is sad to hear, some people get themselves into trouble then blame it on others...... as much as this guy played this lady, she has to accept some responsibility. going to the UK is not going to solve any issues here, and she should move on with her life, instead of continue hoping for that bastard to come back. what would be the point of forcing someone to be with you if they didnt want to? if that man wanted to be with her then he would be in 9ja right now.