fingard02k: you will still need him

MRbrownJAY: @OP
i understand how you feel but i would advise you to reconsider..... whatever you do wont change how you feel about that man, whatever you do wont change who he is, whatever you do wont solve your financial problems. i understand that you expect this man to be YOUR DAD, but circumstances in his life may make it difficult for him to do so.

the man is broke and there is nothing you or him can do about it, blaming HIM because you didnt get the money for admission is certainly not the way to go about this issue. if you want to disown people for that reason, then disown your mother as well since she was not able to help you too.

here is something to remember: whether you like it or not, whether good or bad, whether talking or disowned, this man will remain your biological father.

it is never too late for someone to make amends for their actions, so although it may not be whe
n YOU need him, it could still happen.

sometimes YOU have to make the 1st step.... what stops you from going to meet him, to engage him in convos, to spend time with him etc? not all adult act like adults, and its ok so long as you know who you are dealing with.

Yomieluv: Do you really need all you did? You should have allowed sleeping dog lie,than raising unnecessary dust. You ought to prove your worth in life,by turning out successful,than hating on someone who doesn't care you exist..learn to love life.

fingard02k: you will still need him

Sijo01: You're a warrior, keep fighting and you will survive.

Slimcurtis1:
you are too defensive of him, well the said he who wears the shoe knows where it pinches him right? what haven't I done to get close to him yet he kicks me away like I have leper.. he is just mean and wicked and the best is to disassociate with him.

Slimcurtis1:
dude you seem to be crossing the line, did I ever make mention of being gay in the post? where did you get that from?. his hatred for me started since childhood not now, you can imagine how long I have endured him

fingard02k: you will still need him

eigmaticme:

I see you my friend. Don't you sleep? Or you are in a diff time zone?
It's your friend in the FFR, we crossed path in the fashion section one time, remember?
Hope you are good? Have a good and blessed weekend
Don't mention my name o(that is if u no who this ) I am hiding from someone, just type out the 1st alphabet

And who are you hiding from? With your new name and all..

MRbrownJAY:

ok it is your life, and you are the one living it. suerte!



you have to give us as much details about him but, most importantly about your person, in order for us to be able to give you advices as accurate as possible. the fact that you want to hide your gay status (which is an IMPORTANT factor when living in 9ja society) while this is a faceless forum and nobody knows you, can only be counter productive. again, we are not here to judge your se.xual orientation, but i am just trying to be honest with you about certain things. the sad truth is that 95% of Nigerian parents would disown their own children if they were gay.

you wanted advices and i gave you mine.......dont try to kill the messenger simply because what you hear is hurtful (but true).

Slimcurtis1:
am sorry but when did make mention of being gay and how did You come to such conclusion?

onirugbon1:

Don't worry. I have seen your countenance in your pix. It looks suspect but not conclusive. I will set up a panel to investigate and you dont wanna be found guilty.

Slimcurtis1: I have never had a normal relationship with him, it was strained from childhood, am 18 now and it seems to be getting worse each year.
my parents divorced when I was just one, am 18 now I grew up without knowing what having father was like, I rarely see him and when I do it doesn't even last upto 5mins,to me it meant a lot to me to him nah.
he never for once supported me emotionally, financially, he just doesn't give a damn if we are alive,his actions said it.
I got admission last year and things were really tough for mum (she lost her job ).I phoned him and told him about it he replied that he has no money having paid for two of my step mother's siblings, I was devastated and later lost the admission.
I interspect in all I have gone with him and concluded on 'he doesn't love me'.maybe cause am ss or some personal reasons.
I wrote him a text concerning my feelings and why we ought to cut ties, he's yet to reply albeit but my mind is made up, it's the only way I can escape his emotional torture.. life is too short to be associated with toxic and life draining people. I'M A SURVIVOR

Slimcurtis1:
you can really tell if people are gay by their countenance... it takes a thief to know a thief... am not gay and it has absolutely nothing to do with the thread, why accusing me? you have to know me to pass judgment... well like the other guy said it's a faceless forum.. looks can be deceptive ...bye