goodday fellow nairalanders..
I married my husband about 3years ago n blessed with 2 adorable kids..but B4 then he told me of a Lady he once dated but stopped dating because she found bigger boys...

we have been living peacefully and still do until recently he told me that the lady's husband was transfered to our town and for that she too comes to see her husband every weekend from her station...

since she came in.she had invited my husband over to introduce to her husband..( Only God knows what she introduced him as)..n quietly complained to my husband that her marriage of 5years is on the line cos of no child issue...

now if she comes she keeps sending my husband text message to direct them on where to eat n drink in the town n my husband would direct her tru text..it was one of the occasions when I was with him DAT the text came in n he told me what was up

my problem is...she used to be in this town..will she swear she has no friend at all to show her around town other than her fellow married ex?
secondly..for her marriage to be on the verge of seperating n my husband's still in tact
thirdly..for a woman who has not given birth In her 5yr marriage n from gist I learnt she has aborted for my hubby in the past
for her to be communicating with him try text messages.am sure she doesn't want her own husband to know she is communicating n DAT can be dangerous

I told my husband to b careful DAT women in her position easily remember their past he said I reason myopically

me I don't want to loss my bobo oooo.plz help am seriously not finding this funny

Hahaha .....pinging tinz go soon turn to pricking tinz Call your man aside and warn him! He's not a tourist guide o ....make e face hin own wife o before the other lady go soon ask am the to come teach them how to 'do the thing'

From your previous posts it seems you have challenges communicating with your husband, while I dont share your sentiments as regards the Ex, it is your right to voice out issues like this you are uncomfortable with but not obsessively. Simply state your views and listen to his own reason for communicating and his views on the issue, talk and come to a middle ground, He is your husband, talk with him but dont let your fear drive you into a frenzy.

Tell ur hubby to mind hez buiz.

It is a good sign he is telling you about her. Besides what will be will be. Just voice your concerns and take your mind off it. If your hubby is a reasonable man, he will comply. If he is not, you can talk the whole talk in the world and he will still do the unreasonable bit.

Just have your say again in a non-confrontational way, and live your life peacefully.

Communication is the key to this issue on ground...talk with ur hubby.

there is fire on the mountain run run run run

swtcharissa: goodday fellow nairalanders..
I married my husband about 3years ago n blessed with 2 adorable kids..but B4 then he told me of a Lady he once dated but stopped dating because she found bigger boys...
we have been living peacefully and still do until recently he told me that the lady's husband was transfered to our town and for that she too comes to see her husband every weekend from her station...
since she came in.she had invited my husband over to introduce to her husband..( Only God knows what she introduced him as)..n quietly complained to my husband that her marriage of 5years is on the line cos of no child issue...
now if she comes she keeps sending my husband text message to direct them on where to eat n drink in the town n my husband would direct her tru text..it was one of the occasions when I was with him DAT the text came in n he told me what was up
my problem is...she used to be in this town..will she swear she has no friend at all to show her around town other than her fellow married ex?
secondly..for her marriage to be on the verge of seperating n my husband's still in tact
thirdly..for a woman who has not given birth In her 5yr marriage n from gist I learnt she has aborted for my hubby in the past
for her to be communicating with him try text messages.am sure she doesn't want her own husband to know she is communicating n DAT can be dangerous
I told my husband to b careful DAT women in her position easily remember their past he said I reason myopically
me I don't want to loss my bobo oooo.plz help am seriously not finding this funny

Tell your husband you are not comfortable with his friendship with the lady and you want it to stop.

Okafor's law.

Naija women and insecurities
Why are you shaking like a headless chick
Communications is the key
Abi you dey fear say somebody wan take over ya duties
Lol
Talk in a sweet way and manner
Your husband will change
Gradually don't rush

sexybash: Naija women and insecurities
Why are you shaking like a headless chick
Communications is the key
Abi you dey fear say somebody wan take over ya duties
Lol
Talk in a sweet way and manner
Your husband will change
Gradually don't rush

Naija women and their insecurities, why are you shaking like a headless chicken? Did I read that right? When I say women are their worst enemies Efemena will want to chop off my head.

@ Sexybash
Any sensible woman in the poster's shoes would naturally be concerned and not necessarily insecure. Her reaction is a normal one and has nothing to do with insecurities. Mind you we are talking about an ex that had an abortion for the husband, never underestimate the power of an ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

If this were some random woman with no ties or history with the husband then perhaps you could say the poster was being insecure but even at that insecurity in a relationship is a normal emotion and nothing to be ashamed of especially when you don't understand some moves your partner is executing.

sexybash: Naija women and insecurities
Why are you shaking like a headless chick
Communications is the key
Abi you dey fear say somebody wan take over ya duties
Lol
Talk in a sweet way and manner
Your husband will change
Gradually don't rush

you just abandone us like this disappear. glad you back. I heard the news and I am happy for you that you go what you want at last! stay blessed!

I agree with your husband. You actually reason MYOPICALLY.

KanwuliaJara: I agree with your husband. You actually reason MYOPICALLY.

thanks but hope u don't find ursef in my shoes

sihom:

Naija women and their insecurities, why are you shaking like a headless chicken? Did I read that right? When I say women are their worst enemies Efemena will want to chop off my head.

@ Sexybash
Any sensible woman in the poster's shoe would naturally be concerned and not necessarily insecure. Her reaction is a normal one and has nothing to do with insecurities. Mind you we are talking about an ex that had an abortion for the husband, never underestimate the power of an ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

If this were some random woman with no ties or history with the husband then perhaps you could say the poster was being insecure but even at that insecurity in a relationship is a normal emotion and nothing to be ashamed of especially when you don't understand some moves your partner is executing.

thank u jor...u feel my fears

If I talk to my husband ,he no hear, i will talk to the woman 's husband. You can't put fire on mine and be sitting pretty in yours. You have every reason to be concerned, " you reason myopically"? Most men will say that till they are caught pants down, then poor old devil takes the blame .

swtcharissa:
thanks but hope u don't find ursef in my shoes

Only one problem ma'am. . . . . .you ain't gat NO SHOES!

thorpido: Tell your husband you are not comfortable with his friendship with the lady and you want it to stop.

Okafor's law.

Can that be reversed? Won't they say the guy is insecure and so on. That it is just nothing. That he is being childish.

i feel ur plight sis,men and their "ex" nawa o!...cnt they let go? Me no get advice to give o!all i can say is prepare your mind for the worst and xpect the best!

satope1: Can that be reversed? Won't they say the guy is insecure and so on. That it is just nothing. That he is being childish.

Childish?There is nothing childish about this.This is an ex-girlfriend that is rumoured to have had an abortion for him.
Many guys will say there is nothing until they are caught pants down.

thorpido: Childish?There is nothing childish about this.This is an ex-girlfriend that is rumoured to have had an abortion for him.
Many guys will say there is nothing until they are caught pants down.

You don't understand. I mean if the op were male. Would your thinking and advise be the same?

satope1: You don't understand. I mean if the op were male. Would your thinking and advise be the same?

what ever gender the person falls into, if communicating with your ex is causing/going to cause problem in your marriage then don't just start it. Just put yourself in your spouse's shoes and see how it feels then take a decision.

satope1: You don't understand. I mean if the op were male. Would your thinking and advise be the same?

I'm male.If the op were to be male,it would still apply.The ex is not someone her husband just met,but someone they have had intimacy together.

beeevan: If I talk to my husband ,he no hear, i will talk to the woman 's husband. You can't put fire on mine and be sitting pretty in yours. You have every reason to be concerned, " you reason myopically"? Most men will say that till they are caught pants down, then poor old devil takes the blame .

True talk, you are very wise.

Godmystrength: what ever gender the person falls into, if communicating with your ex is causing/going to cause problem in your marriage then don't just start it. Just put yourself in your spouse's shoes and see how it feels then take a decision.

Great advice.

Godmystrength: what ever gender the person falls into, if communicating with your ex is causing/going to cause problem in your marriage then don't just start it. Just put yourself in your spouse's shoes and see how it feels then take a decision.

Ok better. The impression i have seen her tells the opposite that was why i was asking for clarification.

satope1: Ok better. The impression i have seen her tells the opposite that was why i was asking for clarification.

I can bet that when the reverse is also the case, some females also ask your kind of question and also feel the same way too.

Godmystrength: I can bet that when the reverse is also the case, some females also ask your kind of question and also feel the same way too.

Yeah true. But not so common.

satope1: Yeah true. But not so common.

you can't say....... maybe because you haven't seen enough.

2sExy1: you just abandone us like this disappear. glad you back. I heard the news and I am happy for you that you go what you want at last! stay blessed!

thanks
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