Why do you mothers leave the kids at home with their dads but call every 5 minutes to see what's going on? have they eaten? what did they eat? how much food did they eat? did you change the diapers yet? did they get any sleep I wonder how the babysitters / day care centers would feel if you bugged them this much - they'll propably tell you to come and take ur kids!

Even when you ask us to help out with the kids, you already have a mindset we'll never get it right, so why bother then?

The kids belong to us so we love them as much as you do.

Stop being paranoid and have little trust in the fathers!

#$@%#$%@%!!

kokoye:


Stop being paranoid and have little trust in the fathers!

#$@%#$%@%!!

yes sir!

that is how mothers are, is not as if they don't trust the father, it just human nature that is how
mothers are

u´ve said it all.

sexyLeamon:

that is how mothers are, is not as if they don't trust the father, it just human nature that is how
mothers are

so dont complain if we at times act a little withdrawn.

Encouragement is always a good thing.

Have you said this to your wife? She might not even know that she is doing it. I do it myself but I am aware of it now and apologise especially when I know the boys were extra hyper that day. I probably would never have known if my husband did not tell me. It can build resentment. If you have to talked to her about it do so.

Yea that's a good point. . . . . .

and the again she just might be skeptical from past horrid experiences. . . . . . . .

well some fathers are very ignorant

They believe as long as they do "bbay talk with the kid for like 10 mins. that's all they have to do

If a guy normlly plays with the kids, helps out with the diapers, feeding, clean up, clothing etc, I highly doubt the wife will worry cos they will know that you know what you're doing cos they've seen you do it.

sexyLeamon:

that is how mothers are, is not as if they don't trust the father, it just human nature that is how
mothers are

well said

Outstrip:

Have you said this to your wife? She might not even know that she is doing it. I do it myself but I am aware of it now and apologise especially when I know the boys were extra hyper that day. I probably would never have known if my husband did not tell me. It can build resentment. If you have to talked to her about it do so.

Good point.

well, I wasnt talking about ignorant fathers  or those who have created horrid experiences , because I aint guility of any of those.

I believe that's how mothers are like sexyLeamon mentioned.

Even when you talk to them about it, they still stylishly try to find out what's been going on.  and it makes me laugh all the time.

I did not change a diaper for the first 5months of my son's life because his grandmas were around so everyone thought I could not do it. But c'mon, it aint rocket science - I watched them do it once or twice and it was all I needed.

Before they all woke up one morning, I had given my boy a shower, fed him and dressed him up real good - the three of them (grandmas and wifey) woke up to meet us playing in the living room and their jaws dropped. First thing they did was make sure a diaper was on him and it wasnt leaking!

I just smiled wickedly and whistled as I went into my room.

We can do this but we give you the feeling of control - because we love you!

kokoye:


Before they all woke up one morning, I had given my boy a shower, fed him and dressed him up real good - they three of them (grandmas and wifey) woke up to meet us playing in the living room and their jaws dropped. First thing they did was make sure a diaper was on him and it wasnt leaking!

I just smiled wickedly and whistled as I went into my room.

We can do this but we give you the feeling of control - because we love you!

Hahahaha, that was cool. At least, you showed you could do it, that's a real nice story.

kokoye:

well, I wasnt talking about ignorant fathers or those who have created horrid experiences , because I aint guility of any of those.

I believe that's how mothers are like sexyLeamon mentioned.

Even when you talk to them about it, they still stylishly try to find out what's been going on. and it makes me laugh all the time.

I did not change a diaper for the first 5months of my son's life because his grandmas were around so everyone thought I could not do it. But c'mon, it aint rocket science - I watched them do it once or twice and it was all I needed.

Before they all woke up one morning, I had given my boy a shower, fed him and dressed him up real good - they three of them (grandmas and wifey) woke up to meet us playing in the living room and their jaws dropped. First thing they did was make sure a diaper was on him and it wasnt leaking!

I just smiled wickedly and whistled as I went into my room.

We can do this but we give you the feeling of control - because we love you!

that is sooo sexy

kokoye:

Why do you mothers leave the kids at home with their dads but call every 5 minutes to see what's going on? have they eaten? what did they eat? how much food did they eat? did you change the diapers yet? did they get any sleep I wonder how the babysitters / day care centers would feel if you bugged them this much - they'll propably tell you to come and take ur kids!

Even when you ask us to help out with the kids, you already have a mindset we'll never get it right, so why bother then?

The kids belong to us so we love them as much as you do.

Stop being paranoid and have little trust in the fathers!

#$@%#$%@%!!

It is natural I do that too. The honest truth is that 99.9% of day care centers/baby sitters are run by women ( mothers) so the mother knew exactly that the person their child is with knows exactly what to do even if she is not there but men it is hard to leave your child with your hubby without monitoring the kids especially when they are on the internet forget it that one is another story.

Before they all woke up one morning, I had given my boy a shower, fed him and dressed him up real good - they three of them (grandmas and wifey) woke up to meet us playing in the living room and their jaws dropped. First thing they did was make sure a diaper was on him and it wasnt leaking!

I just smiled wickedly and whistled as I went into my room.

Lol. Good job. She shouldnt worry about anything then.

If it really bothers you do, It'd be better for you to discuss it with her instead of withdrawing from such things

kokoye:

well, I wasnt talking about ignorant fathers or those who have created horrid experiences , because I aint guility of any of those.

I believe that's how mothers are like sexyLeamon mentioned.

Even when you talk to them about it, they still stylishly try to find out what's been going on. and it makes me laugh all the time.

I did not change a diaper for the first 5months of my son's life because his grandmas were around so everyone thought I could not do it. But c'mon, it aint rocket science - I watched them do it once or twice and it was all I needed.

Before they all woke up one morning, I had given my boy a shower, fed him and dressed him up real good - they three of them (grandmas and wifey) woke up to meet us playing in the living room and their jaws dropped. First thing they did was make sure a diaper was on him and it wasnt leaking!

I just smiled wickedly and whistled as I went into my room.

We can do this but we give you the feeling of control - because we love you!

Are you sure? if you are that is great

rubi:

Are you sure? if you are that is great

You better ask somebody

I did not marry until I was sure I was ready to be a loving and devoted husband and father.

kokoye:

You better ask somebody

I did not marry until I was sure I was ready to be a loving and devoted husband and father.

You will reap the fruit of your labor

Amin ooooooo

Your prayer just generated another thread

I understand how your wife feels, I must confess I would do the same thing.
The first time I left my son alone with the Dad, I think I called about two times before I told myself to stop it.
I got back to the house to find the two of them in the bath tub having fun!.i am sure the guy had more fun that day than he had ever had with me.

It is just that at a particular age babies can be difficult to manage, I was washing my face in the bathroom one day only to open my eyes to find my son chewing bathing soap like chewing gum! How do you expect me to feel comfortable  leaving him alone with the Dad who can watch football and forget he ever had a kid?

Shinatu:

How do you expect me to feel comfortable leaving him alone with the Dad who can watch football and forget he ever had a kid?

How do you expect a father to feel comfortable leaving the child with the mother who can gossip away on the phone and forget she ever had a kid?

kokoye:

How do you expect a father to feel comfortable leaving the child with the mother who can gossip away on the phone and forget she ever had a kid?

hehe, true that!
Fathers just care as much, it's not just the mothers.
Just as mothers have their faults, fathers do too.

kokoye:

How do you expect a father to feel comfortable leaving the child with the mother who can gossip away on the phone and forget she ever had a kid?

Haba kokoye, We all know how this Football dey catch you people now! gossip no dey do us like that

Not me o.

Not since 1984 when Zamalek defeated IICC Shooting Stars at home in Ibadan.

or when Italy scored a last minute goal against Nigeria during the 2004 World Cup.

My nerves cant handle such things anymore

Talk about Basketball , yea!! 20 hoops within 30 seconds.

maybe you should defend better teams

kokoye:


or when Italy scored a last minute goal against Nigeria during the 2004 World Cup.

My nerves can't handle such things anymore

I taught it is only me that have that kind of shock.

kokoye:

How do you expect a father to feel comfortable leaving the child with the mother who can gossip away on the phone and forget she ever had a kid?

It is not true the brain of a mother at home moves like calculator/computer she's alert more than her hubby when it comes to handling kids

yea yea yea.

Flatter yaself. some computer processors have been dealt with wear and tear

Awww. . . .kokoye, you sound like a real cool dude. Your family is lucky to have you.

spikedcylinder:

Awww. . . .kokoye, you sound like a real cool dude. Your family is lucky to have you.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwww S-p-i-k-y!!!

My head is swellinggggggg

Tell me some more.

Much appreciated.