To clear the air first, "Omugo" is a 'local' Nigerian tradition where the mother of either the husband or the wife comes over after child birth to take care of both the woman and the baby for a little period of time.

Now to the matter,
A man who happens to be the only child of his parents got married to the woman of his dreams (an only child too).
Both parents are eager to carry their first grand child.
The couple lives in a single room with little or no space to harbour only ONE guest.
The wife just put to bed and both mothers are eager to come for the "omugo".
The question is who comes first and why?
Is it the mother of the husband who will focus more on the child than the wife or the mother of the wife who will be interested in both?
Don't forget that the family of the husband claims ownership of the child in most cultures and the mother of the husband is so desperate to carry her first grandchild.

You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

Interesting, let me think.

Unionised: You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

Guy study the scenario well using African/Nigerian mentality before jumping into conclusions

thankyouJesus: Interesting, let me think.

I'm waiting o bros

korel9:

Guy study the scenario well using African/Nigerian mentality before jumping into conclusions

That "scenario" is the mountain you are making out of a mole hill.

I expect both parents to be reasonable people.

So no issue here sir

Unionised:

That "scenario" is the mountain you are making out of a mole hill.

I expect both parents to be reasonable people.

So no issue here sir

So you think the typical Nigerian mother will take it in good faith when she's told she has to wait for at least three weeks before seeing her FIRST grandchild that she's waited for for years knowing fully well that her inlaw is there with the child?

I don't think so

korel9:

So you think the typical Nigerian mother will take it in good faith when she's told she has to wait for at least three weeks before seeing her FIRST grandchild that she's waited for for years knowing fully well that her inlaw is there with the child?

I don't think so

Sir, seeing the child and staying to care for the new born ARE TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS.

You DEVIATE...

Unionised:

Sir, seeing the child and staying to care for the new born ARE TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS.

You DEVIATE...

So also is the eagerness to carry one's FIRST grandchild sir

korel9:

So also is the eagerness to carry one's FIRST grandchild sir

Well, this is what must happen...

While one granny stays, the other must be contented with regular visits until, by arrangement, roles are reversed.

Play the HOME POLITICS well, in the interest of peace.

SHALOM

It's no biggie.
The woman's mom should come first. A woman newly delivered of a baby needs some intimate care which may or may not include having her private and abdominal area compressed with hot water or application of some healing ointments in the case of a tear during delivery or things like that.
I as a woman would be more comfortable being nayked with my mother than my MIL.
I would be more comfortable having my mom give me intimate care than my MIL.

In most areas it's the mother of the girl that goes first,the MIL goes if the girl's mom is unavailable or after the early stages are past when she's only required to help out with the new baby since the new mother can take care of herself then.

Most importantly,it depends on the relationship between the two women(girl and MIL)

I av 2 kids now and my mum did d 'omugo'. D mother to d lady shud come first cos she'll b more comfortable with her mum than MIL. After avin my 1st, my mum was with me for 2wks and I was well taken care of; then my MIL came into d picture. Hmmm didn't find it funny @ all. I virtually cooked myself( cos I didn't like d way she was preparing d meals), had to clean my baby up wen she is tru cos I wasn't comfortable with d way she does her tins. Infact, she even told me herself dat we do tins d modern way n dat she doesn't understand our pattern. For my 2nd, she didn't even bother comin. But she is really nice and carin.

Some husband knws d kind of mother dey ave so to ave peace dey prefer d wife's mum,wen I had my son my mum came first cos my hubby insisted I'll be free with my mum dan his mum,all I do is sleep wake and eat,he said if it were his mum she'll start making trouble after som time my mum left and she came by dat time am a lil bit stronger.

The girl's Mum should be d 1st to come, unless her Mum is late then her MIL,but if otherwise her mum should. Her MIL might not be able to give her that motherly care. In Igboland,tradition demands that d girl's mother should come 4 'Omugwo',it's her right.

For goodness sake it doesn't matter!

But for ease of comfort, wife's mother should come first. Husband's mother can come and visit for a whole day if she likes and carry baby until she's satisfied.
Shikena!

Unionised: You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

Thank you, and this is just how it should be.

cococandy: It's no biggie.
The woman's mom should come first. A woman newly delivered of a baby needs some intimate care which may or may not include having her private and abdominal area compressed with hot water or application of some healing ointments in the case of a tear during delivery or things like that.
I as a woman would be more comfortable being nayked with my mother than my MIL.
I would be more comfortable having my mom give me intimate care than my MIL.

In most areas it's the mother of the girl that goes first,the MIL goes if the girl's mom is unavailable or after the early stages are past when she's only required to help out with the new baby since the new mother can take care of herself then.

Most importantly,it depends on the relationship between the two women(girl and MIL)

Seconded, thirded and infinity-ed.
Most husband's mothers expects the woman to even take care of her even from the first day of getting home from the hospital and expects the wife to treat her as a visitor who has come to enjoy the fruits of her son's labour.

If common sense do exists between the two mothers, they should be able to choose between themselves.

But with African/Nigerian mentality, common sense might be hard to be used in this scenario. Its both mothers responsibilities though.

Btw, I first thought "omugo" (Silly Person) is what OP was referring to. To a lame man, omugo could also means eniti o go in Yoruba i.e. A Silly Person.

Or did I got it wrong?

Any grand mum available

Woman na

any one jawe

the Wife's mum nau ...she will be more comfortable with her mum

I don't know sha...

This shouldn't be a debatable issue cos tradition had long time ago took a very proactive measures to address this
First: using my tradition as a case study(IGBO), the full right of omugo trip lies on the hands of the wife's mother and the rest follows.
Second: it behoves on the mother of the wife to allow the man's mother to first make the trip depending on the plans beforehand.
So,op@the mumsy of the girl suppose go the omugo...ka omenani wee zuee ezuee nu!!!!!!!
But on the contrary,
They should give us the male folk chance to go the omugo naaaa!!
Nnaaa!!!, I huu ihe Ndia na ebu alota omugo eeeeh!!!!
Akpiri anyi ana achozi ka odapu!
Lols!

OCTAVO: .

mad man!!!!

egopersonified:

Seconded, thirded and infinity-ed.
Most husband's mothers expects the woman to even take care of her even from the first day of getting home from the hospital and expects the wife to treat her as a visitor who has come to enjoy the fruits of her son's labour.

some MIL can be terrible

b4 nko..wife's mum

korel9:

So you think the typical Nigerian mother will take it in good faith when she's told she has to wait for at least three weeks before seeing her FIRST grandchild that she's waited for for years knowing fully full well that her inlaw is there with the child?

I don't think so

Nobody shows up in my house! Current trend only few dare! That thing is for idle mothers...busy ones bring the daughter and kid to their homes. Change ur mentality.

Unionised: You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

I don't think Korel9 is really a nigeria.This is no issue.The Mother of the Lady (the wife) has the first right to go for Omugur.They don't debate this.

Omugwo is an exclusively igbo culture and has no provision for husbands/fathers mum.

dads mum going for an Omugwo is an adulterated cultural practice.