If you’re finding it hard to figure out if he’s for real or not, the following signs which I will briefly discuss will help.

Extensive/advanced planning.
I believe distance plays an important role in this aspect. If you guys are living in the same town/city, why does he have to plan like a week or more in order to take you out on a date? If you’re the real woman in his life, dates shouldn’t be ‘perfect’. Dates should come spontaneously. I strongly believe date nights are meant to connect to your lover in an atmosphere of love and tranquillity that will enable you to really communicate and set goals for the future, it’s not about winning and dinning ALONE.
No future plans for you in his discussions/jokes about the future.
Well some guys can lie…I mean a lot. However, detecting if you’re in his plans is quite easy. I don’t know of women but men who lie forget about the lie. Probe him about his plans, his dream home…I didn’t say “house” etc. give a space of some weeks like 10, ask him those sets of questions again then do a comparison. : )

No public life.
Well don’t be fooled. A man who is really proud of you will display you to those in his life and the public. Some men will say, “I don’t like public life where everyone knows about us”….well, that’s the greatest lie in history. Naturally, men flaunt with women they love and adore. This is the line between public and private life. Public life is both of you doing things in public like going to places like restaurants day and night, shows, church…including social media pictures of you guys doing stuff. Now, this is what should be private…anything to relates to each other’s family like when you’re meeting your prospective in-laws, what you eat, your arguments, your disagreements, your strength and weaknesses, your decisions about the future, your sex life and most importantly, your routine. Those are things that should remain private-that’s your private life. But many women are led into believing otherwise. It’s a tactic. It works and it’s working.

Phone never rings
Have you thought about that for a minute? Does his phone even ring? Is he comfortable whenever his phone rings? Well, a man whose phone doesn’t ring is really a bad sign for your life. It is obvious you’re not in his plans as the real woman may place a call to his phone. This is another deal breaker, if his phone rings and you feel it’s more than friend who has called and you’ve verified on several occasions, quit that relationship. He’s done with you. You deserve better while you’re still young and beautiful. N.B: What is the duration of those calls, short or long? They will be short.

Routine
Do an assessment of the relationship, is the relationship on a routine or ‘natural’? Routine here means, you’ve a fixed time you visit…including holidays when he’s free, a fixed time for everything. Well, that is a wrong footnote. Have you tried anything out of the routine? What have you found out? How did he react? Except you love a regimented relationship, I think you should be worried.

“Not available”
We are all familiar with the phrase, our phone service providers do a lot of that to us. During holidays, Christmas, New Year, valentine’s, his birthday, your birthday…where is he? If he’s around, how long? How comfortable? There are some situations that make a man unavailable but dear, not on all those days I have listed. If he his however not available for all, do you ever get invited to spend that time with his family?

“I don’t like pictures”
Do you have an idea how many ladies have been saved from impending doom with just having a picture of their man on their phone? There was a lady so close to me, she found out her boyfriend had like 2 other girls in life. How? A mere picture and the discussion started in a popular salon in town.

Surface relationship
If he only calls whenever he wants to have se.x, dear, you’re on a long thing. How do you guys resolve matters, talk or sex? I have a silly theory though, if a man loves you, sex won’t be a priority to him. Assuming he does have sex with you, have you noticed the duration of the sex? I mean if the sex is always superb…full version… I think he’s trying hard to ruin your sexual organs because he has no plans for you, probably he’s on drugs or some stimulant. If a man has got to think about you in a positive way, he should respect you sexually.

His uncle’s house
How many girls have been deceived by “my uncle’s house”! Relationship is all about chemistry and aura. As a woman, sensitivity in a sensible way is required. If you’re aware he’s parents live in town and he always takes you to a place he calls “uncle’s house” or a place like a boys’ house, dear you’re in a ‘slaughter house’…being that you’re not the only one who has been there.

Unless you don’t mind being the side chick…

As a side chick your will also find out that he likes you to suck his d-ck often and might be f*cking you in the a**hole and other nasty sh*t

myads890: As a side chick your will also find out that he likes you to suck his d-ck often and might be f*cking you in the a**hole and other nasty sh*t

Exactly

Men? None of dem is eva trustworthy....mtsew

kellyshuga: Men? None of dem is eva trustworthy....mtsew

Nobody actually is trustworthy.

No be only side chick...... Front fowl too

this relationship of a thing can sometimes be so tiresome

sometimes it can be difficult to find out no matter how u try all those things u said. na only baba God go helep us

AfricanApple: this relationship of a thing can sometimes be so tiresome

sometimes it can be difficult to find out no matter how u try all those things u said. na only baba God go helep us

The main problem is, when we fall in love, they become blind on a daily basis to those points. That's why it's nice to have A GOOD friend...I said 'good' friend...a friend who wants you to be ok in life. It's now the 'job' of this friend to watch your back and say "hey! I feel something isn't right"

kellyshuga: Men? None of dem is eva trustworthy....mtsew

including the Op. Lol

NifemiOlu:

The main problem is, when we fall in love, they become blind on a daily basis to those points. That's why it's nice to have A GOOD friend...I said 'good' friend...a friend who wants you to be ok in life. It's now the 'job' of this friend to watch your back and say "hey! I feel something isn't right"

no matter how good a friend is she can never no the heart of a man the only person who can help is the lady herself. No matter how much u love a man also take out time to find out if the man also love u.

Those niggas aint loyal!

real22: including the Op. Lol

I'm loyal oooo

@op nice one

kellyshuga: Men? None of dem is eva trustworthy....mtsew

Eh ya! Sowie! When a gal talks dis way u'll know she has been played like a ping pong by some bad boiz. Ndo! Accept my apology on those boiz behalf. I hope they arent too many o make dem never spoil the 'ile-ise' finish for the man wey go eventually have mercy on ur plight.

nikkypearl: Those niggas aint loyal!

Have u seen a loyal b'itch before? Nah! They aint loyal too and so are niggas. U go after a guy's pocket....u think he doesnt see that? U ladies shd quit deceiving urself. What goes around doesnt just come around. It usually comes around to hurt u. *sowie, truth hurts*

NifemiOlu:

The main problem is, when we fall in love, they become blind on a daily basis to those points. That's why it's nice to have A GOOD friend...I said 'good' friend...a friend who wants you to be ok in life. It's now the 'job' of this friend to watch your back and say "hey! I feel something isn't right"

u know, GOOD friends are hard to come by, so u see we don't usually see that friend who will watch our back, on d hand even if u have a good friend who watches your back, you may not believe them when they say 'hey, something isn't right cos bad eggs have spoilt d good ones.


best thing is to be learned, informed, learn to learn from other people's mistake

generalissimo: Eh ya! Sowie! When a gal talks dis way u'll know she has been played like a ping pong by some bad boiz. Ndo! Accept my apology on those boiz behalf. I hope they arent too many o make dem never spoil the 'ile-ise' finish for the man wey go eventually have mercy on ur plight.

lol u are not serious, biq mouthed boy