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Are You A Good Black Woman? What Makes You One.... by Olivia111(f): 6:07pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Almost any Black woman you talk to will claim she is a good Black woman. Unfortunately, just saying it don’t make it so. I’ve stepped up to the plate and defined exactly what makes me a good Black woman. 1. I don’t defend the actions of Black women when they are reprehensible. I am equally willing to call out the pathos of Black women as I am Black men. I don’t feel the need to defend the actions of my gender simply because we share the same chromosomal makeup. 2. I enter into each new relationship with a man expecting the best. I come to every relationship with an open mind and an open heart. When we disagree, I express my concerns and feelings without projecting negativity towards him. I take the time to listen carefully to his perspectives and arguments without getting defensive. I take the time to collect my thoughts and speak from a place of calmness before I express my concerns. 3. I have spent years in solitude trying to know myself, learning what makes me tick, learning how I came to develop the patterns that have shaped my life and choices. I’m aware of the triggers that spark bad choices and I willfully walk away from situations that I know are going to be potentially defeatist to me. 4. I do not judge men on their wallets, their dick size, their car, or their job. I judge men based on their integrity, their character, their compassion, their vision, their progressiveness. While I look for certain beliefs systems to be the same, I’m open minded enough to know the difference between differing lifestyle choices and differing core values. 5. I give praise, support, encouragement, and affection in abundance. I recognize that men need an extra little boost because they have been so emotionally stunted so I’m more than willing to lift up, support and assist men when they need a little self esteem boost. 6. I apologize when I’ve done something wrong. I forgive when someone sincerely seeks forgiveness. I don’t bring it back up, I don’t hold it over their heads, I don’t create melodrama to prove how wronged I was. 7. I choose which battles I fight wisely. I recognize that some things are insignificant in the scheme of life and I don’t sweat the small stuff. If you leave the toothpaste top off, I can put it back on just as easily as say something about it. If you have to have the toilet paper come from the bottom, I don’t really care. I make sure that before I make an issue out of something, that it’s significant and not just a selfish desire on my part. 8. I try to be the sort of person I want to attract to my life. I am honest, sharing my flaws and shortcomings openly, hoping that the person that I’m with will be equally as honest and open about his shortcomings so that we can form a relationship based on honesty. 9. I’m selective about with whom I share my body. I do not go out to fulfill my sexual needs with someone unless I know for a fact that they are interested in pursuing a long term relationship with me, unless I know that they are vibrating on the same level and have similar goals. I do not exchange my body for money EVER. 10. I recognize that for all the work I’ve done, that I have a long way to go and that I’m not in any way perfect. I don’t define myself by my hair or my nails, I don’t put more value in the price of my outfit than I do in the knowledge that I fill my head with. I don’t equate my worth with the salary of the man who I’m with. I refuse to let my identity be shaped by the media. Now, queue the comments from women saying, “Yeah, that’s me.” Rather than adopting my list, real good Black women will create her own list individual and unique to her. A real good Black woman will take the time to reflect on what changes she can make in her life to continue to grow and evolve to being an even better Black woman. 2 Likes |
Re: Are You A Good Black Woman? What Makes You One.... by Nobody: 6:08pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
You are also very humble Olivia 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Good Black Woman? What Makes You One.... by Olivia111(f): 6:22pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: You are also very humble Olivia Thanks. I feel humbled too. 1 Like |
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