Many schools in the country don't really give comprehensive sex-education. And, unfortunately, most parents are uncomfortable to talk to their kids about sex. Hence, youngsters end up getting partial or even incorrect information from the internet.
Some also get misleading information from peers and the wrong people.

In my opinion, teenagers MUST receive proper information about safe sex practices before they engage in sexual practices.

But, who's responsibility is it to give it to them?

lalasticlala: Many schools in the country don't really give comprehensive sex-education. And, unfortunately, most parents are uncomfortable to talk to their kids about sex. Hence, youngsters end up getting partial or even incorrect information from the internet.
Some also get misleading information from peers and the wrong people.

In my opinion, teenagers MUST receive proper information about safe sex practices before they engage in sexual practices.

But, who's responsibility is it to give it to them?

both the parents and the school but it has to start from the parents. Also, parents do the largest part.


And BTW, sex education shouldn't be delayed till teenage years, it actually starts earlier in simple terms that they can easily understand.

Charity,they say;begins at home.

Under normal circumstances, it should be parent but Parent of this 'New World' find it absurd to discuss such with their offspring.

Perhaps, teacher on the other hand is not viable to disclose such in 'school'.

My opinion

My parent never thought me sex education. My school didn't either..

Learning by experience since 2002....

But I've thought my younger ones sha.

Including my babe too.. Her own is more of practicals than theory.

Guykhena:
Umm I think the school...
Cus parents aren't always comfortable bringing such topics up to their kids(there's always an awkward moment),,,,

So for me,I think the School is the safest bet...

Not trying to condemn your opinion, but you know we're here to share ideas, to learn from one another.

Why should the school be the best bet, when the kids spend at most nine hours in the school out of the 24 hours we have daily, when those there do not understand the peculiarity of induvidual kids in their care?


And why will responsible parents not be comfortable discussing sex education with their children.....what is wrong in letting your kids know the real names of their sex organs and their functions?

Its supose to be parents but there is a 50 percent possibility that the parents would not teach the child. That where the school comes in to play their part. If school fails peer group will never fail.

Both parents and school should be responsible, but a greater responsibility lies with the parents. Sex education should not be viewed as a one big talk fixed for a special day, rather a continueous conversation between the parents and their wards, which can even start as early as 3years by first making them understand the basic areas of their bodies and puberty and as time goes, they are introduced into other grey areas using very simple words. Such conversations between parents and their kids establishes confidence and assurance in the child which will always make him or her to open up to thier parents if they are faced with other conflicting views else where on sexuality

greatgod2012:



Not trying to condemn your opinion, but you know we're here to share ideas, to learn from one another.

Why should the school be the best bet, when the kids spend at most nine hours in the school out of the 24 hours we have daily, when those there do not understand the peculiarity of induvidual kids in their care?


And why will responsible parents not be comfortable discussing sex education with their children..... what is wrong in letting your kids know the real names of their sex organs and its function ?

where did I mention it being wrong? A bit confused here,,,, cus I know "Not-Comfortable" is different from the word "Wrong"... And at bolded am pretty sure there's a thing in school called "Biology"(just pointing out)..
A survey carried out in 2012 showed a 'large' percentage of parents shy away from sex education when it comes to talking to their kids,,and when they do get into the conversation they always tend to manipulate words(which leaves the kids confused) instead going in raw(its uneasy for most,and an "Awkward Moment" fills the room)....

But when it comes to School,there's no string attached,they give it to the kids as it is,, and kids grow up with mindset that they go to school to learn,and what the teachers give to them,its more easier for kids to grab it in, than what parents give to them(hardly pay attention)..

You would agree with me that there are some instructions a teacher may pass unto a kid(in this case student),and the kid won't hesitate in carrying it out ,but when it comes to parents its an another ball game entirely...

............continues.....


For example, my almost 6-years old daughter knows her privates parts and also know that nobody has the right to touch any of it, like her bottom, breast(chest area), vagina, nobody, not even her brother or any other person for that matter, if anybody tries to touch her in any of those arears, the action is called "harassment" and such action should be reported immediately, even if she has to shout if she suspect that the person seems more powerful.



And again, what could be uncomfortable in telling my 9+ years old that anytime from now she would start to experience certain developmental changes in her and that the changes means she is growing from childhood to mid-adulthood and that such changes may include monthly shedding of blood through the va-gina which is an indication that she can be put into the family way which would definately lead to disruption of her wonderful dreams of her life.

Also, what is uncomfortable in telling the the beauty of getting legally married before moving around with protruding bellly.


Abeg, i can't be shy or feel uncomfortable to discuss sex educatin with my children, it will go a long way to help them avoid avoidable mistakes.


The same goes with my male children too.


Parenthod is more than feeding and clothing children, it is an all-encompassing status that is based on choice.
May God help us all parents.

Guykhena:

where did I mention it being wrong? A bit confused here,,,, cus I know "Not-Comfortable" is different from the word "Wrong"... And at bolded am pretty sure there's a thing in school called "Biology"(just pointing out)..
A survey carried out in 2012 showed a 'large' percentage of parents shy away from sex education when it comes to talking to their kids,,and when they do get into the conversation they always tend to manipulate words(which leaves the kids confused) instead going in raw(its uneasy for most,and an "Awkward Moment" fills the room)....

But when it comes to School,there's no string attached,they give it to the kids as it is,, and kids grow up with mindset that they go to school to learn,and what the teachers give to them,its more easier for kids to grab it in, than what parents give to them(hardly pay attention)..

You would agree with me that there are some instructions a teacher may pass unto a kid(in this case student),and the kid won't hesitate in carrying it out ,but when it comes to parents its an another ball game entirely...

yes, you're right to some extent, and that is also where i am also going, do you know some parents don't tell their kids the real names of their private parts, they feel shy and uncomfortable to mention the real names, you'll be hearing things like........"totoros", "toitoi", "kokoro", "your thing", and all other funny names. These things are wrong and it has to be corrected, the very first step to giving se-x education is to get your kids get familiar with the real names of their privates.

its d responsibility of the parent thoughvd teachers have their roles to play but do not forget that they have many kids to take care of, therefore they can't solely concentrate on one child.
parents should summon the courage and kill that shyness to teach their children what needs to be known

d reason why parents find it difficult to talk to their kids about these things in d first place is becos of how we have been brainwashed by ancient believe that sex should be something of secret, forbidden to be talked about, never to be thought about except in respect to reproduction...imagine the Hypocrisy... we still have that.. what would I call it... instinct in us

Schools and parents.

greatgod2012:


yes, you're right to some extent, and that is also where i am also going, do you know some parents don't tell their kids the real names of their private parts, they feel shy and uncomfortable to mention the real names, you'll be hearing things like........"totoros", "toitoi", "kokoro", "your thing", and all other funny names.

Exactly,that was why I made mention of "Manipulating Words"...

greatgod2012: These things are wrong and it has to be corrected, the very first step to giving se-x education is to get your kids get familiar with the real names of their privates.

But parents should be careful and not take it too far. Cus some might end up passing a 'pointless phobia' into the kid young mind,,and some grow up to be introverts,,take this conversation b/w an average African Parent and her kid..

Mum: Don't near any boy,they're devilish,don't let any boy touch any part of your body or even get close,keep away,if you see a boy coming right run left and keep running bla bla bla


Imagine the above ^^^ going into a 6years old mind,growing up 'most' end up getting a phobia of men(I don't need to tell you the consequence) ...

I mean if parents are to indulge in such conversations it should be when the kid mind is a bit developed and able to take it in,,,,



Parents should be strategic when bringing up such conversations(best bet,when their kids is getting to the stage of puberty,,,,let's say as from age 13,,,, but before then the 'School' comes into play to keep things in check)

Parent ofcourse

Guykhena:

Exactly,that was why I made mention of "Manipulating Words"...


But parents should be careful and not take it too far. Cus some might end up passing a 'pointless phobia' into the kid young mind,,and some grow up to be introverts,,take this conversation b/w an average African Parent and her kid..

Mum: Don't near any boy,they're devilish,don't let any boy touch any part of your body or even get close,keep away,if you see a boy coming right run left and keep running bla bla bla


Imagine the above ^^^ going into a 6years old mind,growing up 'most' end up getting a phobia of men(I don't need to tell you the consequence) ...

I mean if parents are to indulge in such conversations it should be when the kid mind is a bit developed and able to take it in,,,,



Parents should be strategic when bringing up such conversations(best bet,when their kids is getting to the stage of puberty,,,,let's say as from age 13,,,, but before then the 'School' comes into play to keep things in check)

Don't get me wrong sir, not that they shouldn't be touched, but their private parts. Thanks.

greatgod2012:



Don't get me wrong sir, not that they shouldn't be touched, but their private parts. Thanks.

It was an example I gave,,wasn't referring to you exactly......

KillerBeauty: Its supposed to be parents but there is a 50 percent possibility that the parents would not teach the child. That where the school comes in to play their part. If school fails peer group will never fail.

from worse to worst( d peer group will definitely be made up of kids in the same kinda shoes-ignorant as well/faint/sketchy idea about it) which in turn turns sour.

Parents need to step up. It also boils down to if these 'parents' were also taught by their 'parents' which translates to the confidence in passing down a similar pattern.( an expert in bed may be clueless when explaining it to a child) its really bad!

It takes a VILLAGE. . . with the right curriculum and extra-curricular activities!

Both!

It should be 100% the parents. If you give the school that kind of authority then don't try to control how in depth they go with the sex education.

lalasticlala:
But, who's responsibility is it to give it to them?

it is education and both , responsibility of home and school !!

Little survey sha, students tend to be more promiscuos in terms of exploration immediately they are educated about sex .........

Immediately students reached ''reproduction'' as a topic in biology and the teacher spill it all out as it is , you will just think sex has been made official afterward !!

donroxy: it is education and both , responsibility of home and school !!

Little survey sha, students tend to be more promiscuos in terms of exploration immediately they are educated about sex .........

Immediately students reached ''reproduction'' as a topic in biology and the teacher spill it all out as it is , you will just think sex has been made official afterward !!

lol. Really?

both

the parents., especially the mother is the first friend & teacher of a child.

if the parents fails in sensitive and important issue as this, there's little the teachers @ school can do.

peer pressure is another aspect the teachers at school cant do much about.

The parent. Teach your child before someone goes sex- ually harasses them in the guide if teaching them. If you cant handle the responsibility of kids don't have them but please don't have them and shove them off to strangers to handle

Parents job

peers

I wonder the criteria for pushing threads on Fp and this beautiful and enlightening thread is yet to make d fp.

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this thread deserve fp.

I'm giving my kids sexx education just like my mum gave us on so many occasions, dad even chipped in sometimes.

sex education is necessary in this era of increase in sexua.l immorality and perverts. so its a 50/50 role 4 both parents and schools.

greatgod2012: ............continues.....


For example, my almost 6-years old daughter knows her privates parts and also know that nobody has the right to touch any of it, like her bottom, breast(chest area), vagina, nobody, not even her brother or any other person for that matter, if anybody tries to touch her in any of those arears, the action is called "harassment" and such action should be reported immediately, even if she has to shout if she suspect that the person seems more powerful.



And again, what could be uncomfortable in telling my 9+ years old that anytime from now she would start to experience certain developmental changes in her and that the changes means she is growing from childhood to mid-adulthood and that such changes may include monthly shedding of blood through the va-gina which is an indication that she can be put into the family way which would definately lead to disruption of her wonderful dreams of her life.

Also, what is uncomfortable in telling the the beauty of getting legally married before moving around with protruding bellly.


Abeg, i can't be shy or feel uncomfortable to discuss sex educatin with my children, it will go a long way to help them avoid avoidable mistakes.


The same goes with my children too.


Parenthod is more than feeding and clothing children, it is an all-encompassing status that is based on choice.
May God help us all parents.

nice one