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Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by simplyOJ(m): 7:50am On Oct 01, 2014
Several women/ladies (married & unmarried) at this time are going through several traumatic, abusive relationships yet choose to remain. I equally know a few who wont take this sh.........t. Am sure some even wont hesitate to 'forget' scissors in the stomach of any man that tries that with them. Some men are sufferring similar faith, but the ratio of the women tends to out weigh that of the men. Even some of these ladies go to the extent of confronting other ladies to stay off this same woman 'panel beater' of a man.

I used to have this couple (not married) as a neighbor when i was single. This couple battle....I mean, BATTLE. I could visibly feel the fibration of their fight on the wall in my room. You dare not intervene, that would be your undoing, they will both pounce on you.. The next day, you will see the lady all dressed up heading for work with a black eye only to re-enact similar or worse 'war scenario' in just some few days ahead.

Ladies, what's the driving force?

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Orunto: 8:11am On Oct 01, 2014
Women are generally more emotional than men. The bottom line in any meaningful relationships is for everybody involved to see his or her physicians of varying skills regularly.
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:27am On Oct 01, 2014
Op,your topic is myopic,why use "ladies",when men too are also in an abusive relationship.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:37am On Oct 01, 2014
"He would change" mentality at it peak.....Love is blind

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Tallesty1(m): 8:46am On Oct 01, 2014
Yomieluv: Op,your topic is myopic,why use "ladies",when men too are also in an abusive relationship.

Many people don't believe it
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by simplyOJ(m): 9:14am On Oct 01, 2014
Yomieluv: Op,your topic is myopic,why use "ladies",when men too are also in an abusive relationship.

If you read it again, you will realize i talked about men going through similar situations ( I even know of one), but compared to that of the ladies, the ratio is higher, probably because theirs are most time reported and seems believable to say a woman is abused than a man, but it does happen, men too are also abused in a relationship.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 9:34am On Oct 01, 2014
Tallesty1: Many people don't believe it
abuse doesn't mean physical assault only,it could be psychological,eg a nagging wife..

Abuse is abuse,either physical,psychological,or emotional..

I got your point.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 9:36am On Oct 01, 2014
simplyOJ:
If you read it again, you will realize i talked about men going through similar situations ( I even know of one), but compared to that of the ladies, the ratio is higher, probably because theirs are most time reported and seems believable to say a woman is abused than a man, but it does happen, men too are also abused in a relationship.
so true,but women too abuse men psychologically,and emotionally. Where can we classify a nagging woman?

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by dridowu: 9:54am On Oct 01, 2014
I will rather walk away than stay in abusive relationship/marriage that may lead to untimely death.
My signature says it all

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 10:09am On Oct 01, 2014
Apart from financial benefits, a lady would stay in an abusive relationship simply because she is mentally unstable.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by simplyOJ(m): 10:32am On Oct 01, 2014
Yomieluv: so true,but women too abuse men psychologically,and emotionally. Where can we classify a nagging woman?
Abuse in marriages could go either way. It's just that, most time the man engages physical strength while the woman engages her mouth. But seriously, that mouth own dey pain die. You will told what you dont want to hear and if you take it to heart, you will loose your self worth and if you happen to be a man without self control, the dentison of the woman will be on the floor or she ends up with a black eye.

If she is the type that nags, find out what makes her nag (there has to be something she is not comfortable with), and if you make affort as a man to adjust and the nagging continue, then know that is her hobby, that one na to hand am over to God or (OYO)

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 11:01am On Oct 01, 2014
simplyOJ:
Abuse in marriages could go either way. It's just that, most time the man engages physical strength while the woman engages her mouth. But seriously, that mouth own dey pain die. You will told what you dont want to hear and if you take it to heart, you will loose your self worth and if you happen to be a man without self control, the dentison of the woman will be on the floor or she ends up with a black eye.

If she is the type that nags, find out what makes her nag (there has to be something she is not comfortable with), and if you make affort as a man to adjust and the nagging continue, then know that is her hobby, that one na to hand am over to God or (OYO)
so true.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by SAMBARRY: 11:30am On Oct 01, 2014
Because some women enjoy violence. That's their own way of feeling loved that is what explains the fact that they will have bruises all over their body from over panel beating and when they get to work and their fellow colleagues asks them why all this plaster on your body they will lie on okada and say it's okada accident. Them plenty.





Next bad news.afterall no more good news on nl again lipsrsealed undecided

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by beeevan: 7:53pm On Oct 01, 2014
Some are born losers, throw rugs to be beaten when dirty undecided.
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Oct 01, 2014
Because they are the neck, the neck is nothing without the head. Where dem wan go?

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:24pm On Oct 01, 2014
Kikikikikiii!
Nairaland sef

Chillisauce, i just dey vex o.
Today i wanted to upload one fine soup i made, d ediot no gree cheesy
Imagine.
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Oct 01, 2014
Husbands are scarce na! You can't blame the women. If she leaves the abusive marriage,another woman will come and stay in the marriage so its better for her to stay, for better for worse.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 8:29pm On Oct 01, 2014
moca: Kikikikikiii!
Nairaland sef

Chillisauce, i just dey vex o.
Today i wanted to upload one fine soup i made, d ediot no gree cheesy
Imagine.

Fine soup? Eh, pls unload abeg. Meanwhile I'm a vegetarian now. smiley

But I still get meat for freezer wey I suppose chop. How I wan do am
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by cococandy(f): 10:11pm On Oct 01, 2014
Kai u just took it from my mouth.

Op they are the neck. Then man is the head.how can you think when you move away from your head where your brain is?
Chillisauce: Because they are the neck, the neck is nothing without the head. Where dem wan go?
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by cococandy(f): 10:13pm On Oct 01, 2014
Fedex the meat come my side. wink
Chillisauce:

Fine soup? Eh, pls unload abeg. Meanwhile I'm a vegetarian now. smiley

But I still get meat for freezer wey I suppose chop. How I wan do am
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by shizzle11(m): 10:20pm On Oct 01, 2014
Some women enjoy violent relationships and wont feel good if the relationship is non-violent, weird isnt it?
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 10:27pm On Oct 01, 2014
Sophyrocks: Apart from financial benefits, a lady would stay in an abusive relationship simply because she is mentally unstable.
well said
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 10:29pm On Oct 01, 2014
Chilli, its afang. My first attempt and ol boi, it was superb! kiss

I wish i can go all vegan. But now im 50.50.
Staying healthy is the bam.
Na so everybody dey look me for house cos i barned lots of things.

Cococandy, easy o on d meat o, let what happened to me not happen to u tongue
I hv learnt d hard way and dont wanna repeat the mistake again cheesy.

@op, sorry for derailing o.
Women and food matter dey God hand cheesy

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 11:09pm On Oct 01, 2014
"What will people say?"mentality.

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Sunnycliff(m): 5:37am On Oct 02, 2014
She is gaining what u can't see without a telescope and microscope
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Austindark(m): 5:38am On Oct 02, 2014
I don't know why o
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Nobody: 5:38am On Oct 02, 2014
May be we should ask Tiwa Savage...

Any man that physically abuse a lady is a coward. Women can be annoying but if one cannot bear it, simply take a walk. I have been in a relationship before where the lady begged me to beat her instead of allowing her to quarrel alone without a reply from me. She said it makes her feel like a bad and mad person, shouting and daring me without a reply.


OP, some ladies are abusive too...

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by kingzjay(m): 5:38am On Oct 02, 2014
Are you asking me?
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by chinex276(m): 5:39am On Oct 02, 2014
Talking abt friendzone, wen a lady is trapped, mehn na till death do dem part.
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In oda NEWS

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Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by englishmart(m): 5:39am On Oct 02, 2014
Marriage is for better for worse na.

Have you forgotten?
cheesy grin
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by Dygeasy(m): 5:39am On Oct 02, 2014
cococandy: Kai u just took it from my mouth.

Op they are the neck. Then man is the head.how can you think when you move away from your head where your brain is?
gringringrin

*falls off toilet seat*
Re: Why Would A Lady Remain In An Abusive Relationship? by soloxxng: 5:39am On Oct 02, 2014
Story for the gods

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