an obstinacy that is as hard as life itself, wouldn't break unless there's no more life, the privilege of having all partners and stake holders push me to the position of leadership without any suggestions from me "in every kind of relationship(casual friends, intimate. groups.....etc)". I have never been deterred by the difficulties of life, I do not hold anyone responsible for problems I encounter.

I see leadership as a privilege to decide for others over few but important issues that concerns their well being, hence I do not in anyway abuse this privilege.

I can be as cold as ice when its time to implementing justice, as warm as a cup of coffee in a cold night to console a victim,and as hot as fire to protect the innocent.

have it all, or so I thought.

but yesterday I did a rethink over few of similar statements told to me in different events of life happenings.
statements such as
*you think you can do it all? : by my brother

*people like you makes it difficult for people like us: by a lady on NL.

*just because you can't be broken, doesn't mean others can't & if you don't care others do: by 5minmadness

* if you were in my shoes: by a feminist

my brother holds me responsible for his difficulties just because I seem to fight out every problem and win why he doesn't have that obstinacy to overcome same problem, making him look weaker(even though I love him much)

the NL girl sees children as useless for reasons I know nothing about but in any case those children are not useless and are innocent

5minmadness sees me as an hindrance against solving a problem for paying back the thought of the girl who sees children as useless by seeing her also as the same (I sincerely apologize)

most feminist thinks men are their problem "why in the real sense men can also be those that protect the interest of women, even the very law that protect women are created and mostly implemented by men".
the feminist who told me "if you where in shoes" does reason this way 'men are my obstacle"

now here is the issue

I do not hold anybody as the cause of a difficult situation, I face them as it comes and who ever intentionally tries stop to me, I go against.
and I do not jugde anyone unless that person is a threat to an innocent person or group of people.

WHERE I NEED ASSISTANCE:

am I becoming what I detest ; "judging people unjustly"?

people who attack or detest the innocent just because those innocents are slightly attached to the source their problem or difficulty. shouldn't they be told their wrongs or jugded ?
( I only learnt yesterday that some of this cases may be mental disorder )

I realy need to know as it will help my daily decisions as a leader.

You have no issue



Inculcate some empathy when passing your message across

Dazall

There is a way to tell a man to go to Pluto and he will like u for it even if he has to go for his own good

pickabeau1:
You have no issue



Inculcate some empathy when passing your message across

Dazall

There is a way to tell a man to go to Pluto and he will like u for it even if he has to go for his own good

thanks, I get what you mean.

just that in most of this cases, both the person/persons involve and the persons or people advocating for them seems to totally ignore the fact that might they be wrong and that their attack or actions might be against someone else who doesn't even contribute to the problem they are passing through.
and because of this, most times they come across to me as being self centered and bias, thinking only about what and who angers them and doesn't care if they are doing the same to someone else who is innocent.

but in all I will adhere to your advice and try as mush as possible to hold my anger even when they don't believe they may be wrong.

I realy do appreciate.

Dcholeric:
an obstinacy that is as hard as life itself, wouldn't break unless there's no more life, the privilege of having all partners and stake holders push me to the position of leadership without any suggestions from me "in every kind of relationship(casual friends, intimate. groups.....etc)". I have never been deterred by the difficulties of life, I do not hold anyone responsible for problems I encounter.

I see leadership as a privilege to decide for others over few but important issues that concerns their well being, hence I do not in anyway abuse this privilege.

I can be as cold as ice when its time to implementing justice, as warm as a cup of coffee in a cold night to console a victim,and as hot as fire to protect the innocent.

have it all, or so I thought.

but yesterday I did a rethink over few of similar statements told to me in different events of life happenings.
statements such as
*you think you can do it all? : by my brother

*people like you makes it difficult for people like us: by a lady on NL.

*just because you can't be broken, doesn't mean others can't & if you don't care others do: by 5minmadness

* if you were in my shoes: by a feminist

my brother holds me responsible for his difficulties just because I seem to fight out every problem and win why he doesn't have that obstinacy to overcome same problem, making him look weaker(even though I love him much)

the NL girl sees children as useless for reasons I know nothing about but in any case those children are not useless and are innocent

5minmadness sees me as an hindrance against solving a problem for paying back the thought of the girl who sees children as useless by seeing her also as the same (I sincerely apologize)

most feminist thinks men are their problem "why in the real sense men can also be those that protect the interest of women, even the very law that protect women are created and mostly implemented by men".
the feminist who told me "if you where in shoes" does reason this way 'men are my obstacle"

now here is the issue

I do not hold anybody as the cause of a difficult situation, I face them as it comes and who ever intentionally tries stop to me, I go against.
and I do not jugde anyone unless that person is a threat to an innocent person or group of people.

WHERE I NEED ASSISTANCE:

am I becoming what I detest ; "judging people unjustly"?

people who attack or detest the innocent just because those innocents are slightly attached to the source their problem or difficulty. shouldn't they be told their wrongs or jugded ?
( I only learnt yesterday that some of this cases may be mental disorder )

I realy need to know as it will help my daily decisions as a leader.

It's 5minsmadness, not 5minmadness!

Just seeing this post, no thanks to the misspelled moniker.

Empathy is the keyword.
When you empathise you pass your message across better.