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leyo8965:
I write this with tears in my eyes, I am a victim of broken home where i end up having a number step mums, step brothers and sisters and to be honest it is the WORST experience for me and my younger ones in our life time.
We know married people do have thier issues but atleast for the sake of the children dont bring divorce into it. For those of u who are parents and may be having marital problems please do sort it out for the sake of your kids.

idivorce should not be allowed in a home were they are kid they should be forced to settle out there differencies I feel sad for you tke hearth dearie

leyo8965:
I write this with tears in my eyes, I am a victim of broken home where i end up having a number of step mums, step brothers and sisters and to be honest it is the WORST experience for me and my younger ones in our life time.
We know married people do have thier issues but atleast for the sake of the children dont bring divorce into it. For those of u who are parents and may be having marital problems please do sort it out for the sake of your kids.

This is the reason most woman end up enduring their marriages. They always consider the kids before their happiness.

When I look at marriages of those days and compare to now it just breaks my heart,it takes two to tango,no matter how bad it might be couples should Atleast try their very best to sort issues out in other nt to affect the future of der kids.divorce should just nt be the only option.

@leyo8965

I am sorry for what you went through and I believe that divorce should be the last resort.
However, it is better for some people to go their separate ways. I have seen some dysfunctional families and for the kids in some of these families divorce would be a relief and not the worst thing that could happen to them.

perry2020:
When I look at marriages of those days and compare to now it just breaks my heart,it takes two to tango,no matter how bad it might be couples should Atleast try their very best to sort issues out in other nt to affect the future of der kids.divorce should just nt be the only option.

@bold

Why?

leyo8965:
I write this with tears in my eyes, I am a victim of broken home where i end up having a number of step mums, step brothers and sisters and to be honest it is the WORST experience for me and my younger ones in our life time.
We know married people do have thier issues but atleast for the sake of the children dont bring divorce into it. For those of u who are parents and may be having marital problems please do sort it out for the sake of your kids.

even at d detriment of the woman's life?

what difference will it make if violence nd infidelty are involved?

wuld u rather prefer growing up in a violent home or loosing a parent in d process than growing up with both parents alive but living seprately?
marriages ar not what they were decades back coz then ,fathers respect nd take full responsibility of their family while d wife was submissive and well groomed.

nowadays how many men stick to their wifes alone without extra-marital affairs which has a high risk of stds or unwanted pregnancies?

how many men perform their responsibility as a husband to his family?
how many men walk away even if d wife provokes him to anger rather they blive hitting a woman settles it

my point is nobody wishes to divorce after marriage but due to a fault from both parties and inability to handle issues maturely and with Godly wisdom are what give rise to divorce.

i wunt support domestic violence and infidelity in marriage coz they impact negatively to the children and in some cases causes death.

anytin asides from this two reasons can be resolved.

carefreewannabe:


@bold

Why?

Coz then I would say they were much mur matured and they could handle things better,the ladies were very well brought up and taught to submit to their husbands and men to provide for their family and respect their wives, call it endure bt their marriages still lasts a long tym.no human being is perfect we all have our difference so issues must always come up,men will keep being men,we ladies will always nag till eternity it's just abt understanding,most young couples des days get married for the very wrong reasons even doe back then they were sumtyms forced or hooked up bt dey still got to understand each other and could endure bt civilization,covetousness,lack of endurance just ruins alot of homes,
your wife doesn't know how to cook you send her out or start cheating,no.... it shouldn't be you teach her or let her go learn sumwhere,
u suspect ur spouse is cheating,you haven't even caught him or her red-handed u pack ur load out,your mother in law is giving u tough time next thing you leave the house,your husband gets a woman pregnant u leave the house for them,back then in my side dunno about other traditions but woe betides that child that is married and leaves her husband's house because they have issues your parents would beat you back to ur husband's house bt now they even accept them joyfully,extra-marital affairs seems so just,having kids before marriage is trending,its just so sad coz it's always the kids that get to suffer when separation comes.
I am nt saying when things get outta hand divorce shouldn't be the case,when violence,abuse,diseases comes in its a no no even I mysef knt stand it bt today little little issues separate a lot of couples coz they ain't willing to work on their weaknesses.

Sometimes divorce is actually better for the children. Parents should also not stay in an unhealthy environment especially one with domestic violence because it has negative impact on the children. The best decision my Mother made was to leave my father and take us with her, I'm forever grateful go her for taking that bold step

perry2020:

Coz then I would say they were much mur matured and they could handle things better call it endure bt their marriages still lasts a long tym.no human being is perfect we all have our difference so issues must always come up,men will keep being men,we ladies will always nag till eternity it's just abt understanding,most young couples des days get married for the very wrong reasons even doe back then they were sumtyms forced or hooked up bt dey still got to understand each other and could endure bt civilization,covetousness,lack of endurance just ruins alot of homes,
your wife doesn't know how to cook you send her out or start cheating,no.... it shouldn't be you teach her or let her go learn sumwhere,
u suspect ur spouse is cheating,you haven't even caught him or her red-handed u pack ur load out,your mother in law is giving u tough time next thing you leave the house,your husband gets a woman pregnant u leave the house for them,back then in my side dunno about other traditions but woe betides that child that is married and leaves her husband's house because they have issues your parents would beat you back to ur husband's house bt now they even accept them joyfully,extra-marital affairs seems so just,having kids before marriage is trending,its just so sad coz it's always the kids that get to suffer when separation comes.
I am nt saying when things get outta hand divorce shouldn't be the case,when violence,abuse,diseases comes in its a no no even I mysef knt stand it bt today little little issues separate a lot of couples coz they ain't willing to work on their weaknesses.

I don't think that marriages in the past lasted because people were more mature and willing to endure more.
Many marriages lasted because people had no other choice than to remain married no matter what.

@bold

This is one of the reasons why I am not heartbroken that times have changed.

Divorce should always be the last resort. If both parents have tried different avenues to make it work but the marriage is simply no longer repairable, then divorce would be inevitable. No one should endure a bad and/or unhappy marriage and definitely NOT for the sake of the kids. Staying in such a marriage would not benefit them in any way.

aderonila18:
Sometimes divorce is actually better for the children. Parents should also not stay in an unhealthy environment especially one with domestic violence because it has negative impact on the children. The best decision my Mother made was to leave my father and take us with her, I'm forever grateful go her for taking that bold step

People who will divorce, will divorce, I don't know why nlers ( most of who are unmarried or else hypocrites), like beating themselves up over other people's situation.


Shouting everyday over a matter doesn't make the shouter immune to the same ( in this case, divorce).

Who says you can't get divorced and still think of your children's best interest?
It only means the children were never loved in the first place!
Divorce is not an excuse to abandon the needs of your children.

Divorce is better than hanging around dysfunctional parents!
Amen!!!!