@op. your pics look like sombody who as taking weeds(heiboo) to the extreme. no wonder you started imaging that poor guy staring at you. pls stop taking weed, i repeat, stop taking weed

Ceasar1:


Hell right, like he owns her an explanation abi?

See they don't have anything going on between them. I mean they ain't even friends, there's nothing. He doesn't even know she likes him.

So it's only proper that he's treats her that way.
It's normal.

Just because she likes a guy doesn't mean he should like her back or pay attention to her at all.

Friendship doesn't just fall from the sky. If she wants acquaintance and more, she should work, create and promote the atmosphere.

Or sit and crush silently from behind.

On behalf of the whole of my village ancestors and forefathers combined, I donate to this guy,

"a million likes"!!!!!!!!!

If not that you mentioned the guy do walk with a girl, I would have thought you are talking about me. This is actually happening to me but I keep on ignoring her. We have greeted thrice but shy me never take it beyond that.

I hope Dis not blessing ooo+ooo........... From psychology......... If its u, Don't panic........ Ur crush of life is Here..........

If you are in insurance dept,the guy likes u and has been telling me about you.

Sunshinelady:
. I wanted to say same thin to d 'I too know' person. Som ppl com here to form English professor, forgetin dat wat makes social media fun most times are d slangs, short forms & colloquial language we use. Doesn't necessarily mean dat d writer doesn't knw d right English to use. Pple like givin demselves high bp for nothing, correctin English slangs on NL , facebk, etc, as if dem dey pay dem..smh

thank u jare. Tell her 4 me ooo.Wia in Ogun?

msrita:



I don't wanna take that risk sister,you know he might misinterpret the whole thing and if he's a jerk he'll go about telling people I'm falling for him and add some loads of lies. Believe me some guys can and would do that.

Funny Chic... If only girls knew. That guy could totally be afraid the same way you are.
All this people saying he should man up, man up... definitely the type that would disgrace a girl who likes them.

MadCow1:





[b]Rita...

You know what to do so why are you seeking more advice?

Walk up to him, talk to him and if possible get him to take a walk with you whilst talking.

I been think say you ugly, but your picture make mad sense. Many guys who are shy like me would not talk to a girl they like and even act strange towards her.

In school, the girl I had a crush on for years was friends with my female friends and yet I never flowed with her. I was soo shy, I couldn't be free where she was. Me who comes into a place and takes over with jokes and stuff would be silent in her presence. I never yabbed her, joked with her or even held any small talk with her.

One day she actually walked up to me and said; 'Are you busy?' I said No.. And she said please come keep me company, I need to get to the hostel and back for something.. We started walking and all it took to loosen my tongue was when she asked:: 'Why do you hate me?'.... Needless to say the rest is history..

Go and talk to the guy and break the silence.. atleast set up the conversation path so he is free to talk. He sounds like a shy guy.

Don't thank me, thank him..

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'why do you hate me?' Lol

@ op,
All you need to do is to create a friendly environment for friendship to blossom. Get him talking in an environment comfortable for him and an open topic first. Then you can have a reason for another conversation the next day, and that's how it starts. Even if its asking him why he seems too quiet or asking him what he thinks about the last lecturer that didn't come. Just try to occupy his 2 minutes free time when he seems alone.

Its best you shrug off whatever thing you have in mind towards him. With all you have said,he notices you, but doesn't give a hoot about you. Its so damn obvious,shower love and attention to those who are always around you and care little or less about this guy who thinks the world revolves around him.

Don't and never appear desperate to any,there are a thousand and one guys out there. A single one is no reason for you to be in distress. Diss him like he doesn't exist

Missmossy:
Its best you shrug off whatever thing you have in mind towards him. With all you have said,he notices you, but doesn't give a hoot about you. Its so damn obvious,shower love and attention to those who are always around you and care little or less about this guy who thinks the world revolves around him.

Don't and never appear desperate to any,there are a thousand and one guys out there. A single one is no reason for you to be in distress. Diss him like he doesn't exist

Who told u he doesn't give a hoot about her,she said they 've greeted a few times.Don't promote dis arrogant attitude of "he must talk 2 me first" dis is d 21st century gal why can't she just start a conversation!

walk up to him maturedly and express yourself freely,there is no harm in that and trust me u will be glad u did babe

Missmossy:
Its best you shrug off whatever thing you have in mind towards him. With all you have said,he notices you, but doesn't give a hoot about you. Its so damn obvious,shower love and attention to those who are always around you and care little or less about this guy who thinks the world revolves around him.

Don't and never appear desperate to any,there are a thousand and one guys out there. A single one is no reason for you to be in distress. Diss him like he doesn't exist

You are so wrong. Now you are just talking like sm1 who thinks the world revolves around her. What you don't know is this: many a shy guy would love the help of the girl in question in indicating interest. Do you think he could bear rejection from her if he asked?

Please think again.

Missmossy:
Its best you shrug off whatever thing you have in mind towards him. With all you have said,he notices you, but doesn't give a hoot about you. Its so damn obvious,shower love and attention to those who are always around you and care little or less about this guy who thinks the world revolves around him.

Don't and never appear desperate to any,there are a thousand and one guys out there. A single one is no reason for you to be in distress. Diss him like he doesn't exist

excuse me everyone, are there no new fashioned girls in the world anymore?
I mean... This is just why the stupiid phrase "All guys are the same" won't be thrown into a flame to be burnt once and for all and be gone.
You keep letting the wrong guys choose you. You just sit there wherever you are and let them keep trying their lucks until you fall for one of them and in no time, breakup comes in, almost all the time like...like its written in a book which contains everything about your destiny.

Why would you not pick a better guy yourself after carefully studying him instead of letting them pick you?
#women&theirLogicSha..

But I bet you, if you're reasonable enough to figure out what you what in a guy and from a particular guy, if you've checked your gain and loss with his kind of person and you feel your relationship with him will be profitable to you or the both of you and you make the first move, you won't regret it.

U want to go snash anoda gel bf i tink .say away to avoid trouble ,b4 him girl : call u "boy frd snasher !!' ashow !! U no dy shame " lol

Your story sounds like you're acting a script picked from my life story back then in school, there was ds pretty grl that liked me so much then,I liked her too but I find it hard to walk up to her and tell her my mind cos am d reserve type, she couldn't express her feelings too because of our Africa mindset and belief, but she took a step and I finished it up, now I know you want to ask me the step she took, okay she became close to some of my friends, she told them am proud, when I heard that I was forced to meet her and explain things to her and that was how it all started, painful we broke up later in life for religious reason. So, u can take a step too.

Keep on sharing ur feelings sister. GOD will answer u one day.

My little coin and I tell you it works. Tell someone close to him to scold him for always eyeing you. If he is mature, he will understand.

Sometimes I wonder why we find it difficult to do this ‘approaching thing' the truth is that only 2Things can happen. acceptance or rejection so what is the big deal?

you will be surprised that another is in the same shoes with you. bettere walk up and tell him how u feel before your best friends take ur place. This is the information age and you gotta behave like a person in this age.

@op
get his phone number, send him a message on whatsapp

i love reverse pyschology..

all u have to say is, HI..
and in a few months, he would think he made the 1st move..

if d guy still dey dull.. free am abeg.. he is too messed up.. he needs a pyschoanalyst.. steer clear.. or jst send me a pm..

just saw dis but don't have d tym to read through d pages.

my opinion:
first u mentioned dat hw is ur faculty mate ,dat means u can only be in same class at same tym if u are having a faculty course..I can imagine d population in dat lecture venue at that moment, but u still catch his glance,dat simply implies dat he has bn secretly searching for u with his eyes amidst d crowed...

I ve bn in ur situation, he was kinda quite,reserved,performs gud in class,his dressings so on point, his speech very fluet and I won't forget to add his looks (handsome,dts a fact day can't be taken from him)....
afta succeeding in starting a conversation with him ,we got talking and a bit close ,I soon realised how dirty he was and regretted ever wanting to be friends with him...

well ,dis guy I talked about might not be same as d dude u ve der. but one thing is certain, carefully examining ur post "u ve his attention and he wants to get urz"....kip to ur little hi and hlo.,u can add a little by complimenting something abt him,u can go an extra by asking him to transfer something to u from his fone, maybe music etc,even if u don't need it.

if he still forms the difficult guy,my dear,I suggest u let go. u can't kip showing nice attitude to someone dat is not being nice to u..

dis feeling of being friends was created ,give it a little negligence it ll die if its not worth the stress and platonic approach..

I won't be surprise if u come back here to say "he is not worth it after all "


GOODLUCK ANYWAY,BEST WISHES.

msrita:
So I really like this guy, we're in the same faculty and level but different departments so we share the same lecture venue for all our lectures.

He's really cool and quiet and that's what I like most in a guy. I stare at him a lot though I try not to and I catch him staring at me sometimes too , sometimes we turn at d same time to stare at each other, the issue is he seems to be ignoring me, I mean he talks to almost every one I relate and associate with ,but he acts as though he doesn't see me , he'll walk up to where I'm standing with a group of friends and greet everyone there except me ,sometimes he passes too close for someone who doesn't like me , his body brushes mine lightly, well we've greeted a few times .

I get a lot of attention from guys in my class dunno if that's why he doesn't wanna get close or because the most wanted guy in my class is my best friend though people believe we are dating and I'm an easy person , it even shows on my face. But common I like this guy naturally and wanna be friends with him , I don't think further than that or maybe I do, and oh! He has a favorite girl in our venue , he walks mostly with only her ,u hardly even catch walking with guys its either only him or her. So what's your take on this people, please no harsh comments ,a sister is just sharing her feelings. Thanks.

He probably knows that you get a lot of attention from other guys and he wants you to know that he won't be one of those guys who worship the ground you walk on and make your head swell.

I also have a feeling that your situation is a little bit that a bruised ego since a man is showing you no interest, something you really aren't used to. Dude knows his game.

Anyhoo, forget that African-women-don't-approach-men crap; you lose nothing by letting him know that you like him. If he doesn't like you back, dust yourself off, swallow the humiliation and keep walking. C'est la vie. You won't get everything that you want.

Good luck!

just pasing by

my first post on nairaland...

If he's ignoring you then ignore him back.

coolbibz:


I've seen myriad of stupidity in my days, yours takes the crown.

well i av nothing to say other than to tell to watch your tongues becos of d unseens.

hehehehehe he said i will ignore u so hard nd u will think u r invincible i was dere when he said so lol
free d guy he av a favourite girl already what else do u wot
bt i guess he z ignoring u cos he knws what u av in mind.... hahahahaha

numericalguy:
OP, how do u expect such a nice and cool dude to approach you when you have baricaded yourself by hanging on the arm of the "most wanted guy" in your level. So much so that most people think you are dating. You get loads loads of attention from all the guys in your level buy flirting with them.

Must you have every guy in your class? He's the last one remaining and you must have him even when you know he has a favourite girl.

I don't think you really love him. You only want to conqure him since he's probably one of the few guys left that is not really bothered by you.

msrita:
So I really like this guy , we're in the same faculty and level but different departments so we share the same lecture venue for all our lectures.

He's really cool and quiet and that's what I like most in a guy. I stare at him a lot though I try not to and I catch him staring at me sometimes too , sometimes we turn at d same time to stare at each other, the issue is he seems to be ignoring me, I mean he talks to almost every one I relate and associate with ,but he acts as though he doesn't see me , he'll walk up to where I'm standing with a group of friends and greet everyone there except me ,sometimes he passes too close for someone who doesn't like me , his body brushes mine lightly, well we've greeted a few times .

I get a lot of attention from guys in my class dunno if that's why he doesn't wanna get close or because the most wanted guy in my class is my best friend though people believe we are dating and I'm an easy person , it even shows on my face. But common I like this guy naturally and wanna be friends with him , I don't think further than that or maybe I do, and oh! He has a favorite girl in our venue , he walks mostly with only her ,u hardly even catch walking with guys its either only him or her. So what's your take on this people, please no harsh comments ,a sister is just sharing her feelings. Thanks.

Ọmọ e fit be say i don dey get secret crush like that .... Although my faculty is like secondary school ,they control most aspect of your life...i miss 100L