I have seen very beautiful ladies who are stressfully aging without husbands. I was amazed recently when a met woman, a manager of no mean repute. I greeted her as I would any married woman and admired her diligence. On another occasion, she was with a young boy who she was assisting to settle some scuffles. I stopped short of asking if he is her son. I had very often imagined that the husband must be favored to have a lady so beautiful, hardworking and respectful. One day it happened that I was with a relation who is an acquaintance of the lady in question and I was innocently reciting my imaginations/observations about her. My recitations were cut short when that my relation said, “beautiful yes, hardworking yes, respectful yes, faithful yes, trust worthy yes but she is not married and she is in her mid 30s”. I was shocked to the marrows
I did some investigations and discovered that she was not alone in this condition. In my neighborhood, there are many just like her whereas I have seen many ugly ladies getting married. Years ago, I knew a lady with a completely withered left leg who was rumored to be engaged to handsome dude who adores her. We lived in the same Hall at the Uni. She got married few months after to everybody’s amazement.
I did another investigation to find out the possible reasons for this anomaly. In no particular order (since my investigation was not duly scientific) top ten reasons for this anomaly

1.History of too many dates: a lady who can barely take few steps on the street without guys identifying her with statements like, “I know this gurl we dated for 2months”
2.Temperament: very abusive, descends on anybody with vituperations on the slightest provocation
3.Religious fanatism: Female workers in some Churches (with Presiding Senior Prophets) hardly get married. They burn out their youthfulness and vigor in such places
4.Too selective: One of my correspondences had rejected sixteen suitors when she was between 22 and 26 years old. In fact, she had actually snubbed so many ‘greetings’ considered too friendly.” He is short, black, big headed, has an old modeled car and what will friends say when they see me with this kind of guy”
5.Doctrines: Some Nigerian GOs are wicked. They have successfully captured and imprisoned many of their female followers with doctrines of thou shall not marry somebody who is not our member.
6.The Osu system: This is a serious impediment especially in parts of Anambra and Imo States. Some Bishops in Roman Catholic and Anglican had made efforts in cutting the wings of this tradition. I am not sure the campaign is sustained
7.Overbearing Parental control: Most parents are impossible. They reject their daughters suitors with flimsy excuses like “he is not rich, he is not from our State, tribe and Church”
8.Associated family misfortunes: some families are associated with terrifying mysteries and occultic manipulations
9.Location: An educated lady in the midst of riff-raffs will struggle to choose among the proposing village champions. Some of my correspondences have actually lived at places where suitable gentlemen are scarce or locations where they are barely noticed
10.Job specification: tasking- marketing jobs, jobs which barely give her time for herself banking, medical jobs, workers in some new generation churches. Ladies in the entertainment industry suffer from ill-perception by the society

Nyc analysis but I stil tink d high cost of traditional marriage especially in some south eastern societies/communities also hinder deir women 4rm gettin married. Recently I discovered a list is 2 b fulfiled 2 get d main LIST, imagine. So if a decent gal is waitin 4 her man say a fresh graduate 2 gada n safe enough 2 pay her brides wealth, 30yrs might just b considerd yung.

@greyworld
That was captured in too selective and number 7. I avoided lengthy details. He isn't rich is a common excuse

They run away from atheists, who inversely make good husbands.

Topgainer:
@greyworld
That was captured in too selective and number 7. I avoided lengthy details. He isn't rich is a common excuse

Lol .......well just sayin "he isn't rich" sm hw sound lyk d gal is ova demandin or possess high demand. Ma broda on a mur serious note sm of our customs shud b addressed especially durin dis economic melt down nera of joblessness. 1 doestnt nid 2 b a milionaire 2 marry a wife. Ma opinion anyway. One luv

Number 3 and 5 are the biggest.

They get so close to the pastor,
no man wants to play the second best .

And even if pastor isnt married he will hardly marry one of the over dedicated sisters.
Chances are he will go to his village and bring one youngie as a wife.

Aversion to beauty products.

larrymoore:
They run away from atheists, who inversely make good husbands.

@OP
Actually Number 4 (Being selective) is a major culprit and actually doesn't border on one's religion. Number 4 also covers 5 and 7 actually.

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Every week I see one of these stupid posts about why "so and so women won't get married".

@mmsen, that you have nothing to learn from topics does not mean someone else has not learnt something. Such topics will continue to surface even after this, somebody will be enlightened to make informed decisions as I was with some other topics
Among the listed, I'm greatly pained to know that some Senior Prophets are so wicked to imprison their female workers through craftily formulated unchristian doctrines. You shouldn't have problems with that

There are many women, the world over who have suffered and continue to suffer with some of these traits but are married.

This post is nonsensical.

mmsen:
There are many women, the world over...some of these traits...

Can't you see your interpretations are not for this topic. The topic didn't say All Women, World over, all encompassing. It says Nigerian, Christian, may not. Supposing , the investigation was done with a sample size of all unmarried Christian women in Nigeria to make it thorough, there will still be escapees, who will never conform with the results of such study.
So why working yourself up or rather which camp do you belong? Reading in between the lines of your posts makes you a suspect

Topgainer:

Can't you see your interpretations are not for this topic. The topic didn't say All Women, World over, all encompassing. It says Nigerian, Christian, may not. Supposing , the investigation was done with a sample size of all unmarried Christian women in Nigeria to make it thorough, there will still be escapees, who will never conform with the results of such study.
So why working yourself up or rather which camp do you belong? Reading in between the lines of your posts makes you a suspect

1. I'm not female.

2. If I mention that women all over the world possess these traits and yet manage to marry then that wold include xtian women.

This was a silly thread.

I wish people would stop rehashing the same stagnant nonsense.

Make original posts or don't do it at all.

8. Associated family misfortune: Most times things happen that even the victims lack any logical explanations for. Most have resorted to Spiritualists or Prophets who adopt metaphysics in trying to bring some logical explanations to some of these phenomena. One of such is a family of 8 with 6 girls, all pretty ladies, all graduates and decent enough. Only one of them who happen to be my friend and schoolmate is married. The rests( ages 31 to 40) are single. Still in the same family, their senior uncle have daughters who are much older than these ones in the same condition.

In as much as I think that for every one truth told by Spiritualists there could be concomitant ten lies . Such inquiries made by this family were met by terrifying tales of some occultic curse operating within the family

in case!!

7. Some ladies have looked back to attribute their delayed marriages to unreasonable interference by parents. It is not uncommon for parents to have an important say in who their daughters should marry but such a say should be preceded by investigations as to determining the suitability of the families or would be in-laws
A conservative Ibo family will probably be looking at certain traits in those investigations, e.g. Is this family associated with crimes, rituals, intractable mental illness, flirtations, divorce or men fond of beating up their wives
These days many parents are more interested in what is his father's name? Does guy work with an oil company, Is he an importer
Most Christian ladies will condone unreasonable interference from parents with the misconstrued 'honour thy parents' passage to their own detriment

Marraige is over-hyped. If i were a woman and unmarried,i'll accept my lot and make d best outta the rest of my life. I'll adopt children or stay completely alone.
I'll still b as selective as i want with suitors - no compromising.
The bulk about marraige is simply to please some social standard.
For a society that doesnt care about u, except to criticise u.
Not like every married couple gets a N1m+a new car/house by d "society". Nothng,just criticism
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I dont see how marraige makes a person happier or more fulfilled. Some marraiges are internally hollow.
Life is too short to try to please anybody. Please God please yourself and ur good to go.
Last i checked in d bible, not gettg married is no sin.

asalimpo:
Marraige is over-hyped. If i were a woman and unmarried,i'll accept my lot and make d best outta the rest of my life. I'll adopt children or stay completely alone.
I'll still b as selective as i want with suitors - no compromising.

Last i checked in d bible,there's no not gettg married is no sin.

If I were a woman and unmarried.............
Very easy to say. She, who wears the shoe knows where it pinches
Some go along to do as you' ve said but that's when they are in their 50s and all hope seems to be lost. Even at that they know the benefit and wish their lot was different
A young widow was consoled by an elderly woman that she should be grateful to God at least, that many of her mates are yet to find a husband, she not not only had a caring husband for few years but children to console her
The purpose of this thread is to highlight some of the modifiables and to help in making necessary adjustments early

Marriage is overhyped. Many single women would have been perfectly happy if not for busybodies like you guys looking down on them and making them feel inadequate. Its not by force you must marry, if the woman herself is not complaining then save your pity for someone who needs it. There's plenty of married people who are complete miserable. And there's plenty of people who are happily divorced.

You need to stop projecting your own desires on everybody else. Not everybody wants what you want. And learn to mind your business.

EvilBrain1:
Marriage is overhyped. Many single women would have been perfectly happy if not for busybodies like you guys looking down on them and making them feel inadequate. Its not by force you must marry, if the woman herself is not complaining then save your pity for someone who needs it. There's plenty of married people who are complete miserable. And there's plenty of people who are happily divorced.

You need to stop projecting your own desires on everybody else. Not everybody wants what you want. And learn to mind your business.

Evilbrain1

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sftg

A spouse is'nt somthng u buy else evry1 tht wanted to b married wud walk into a shop and buy1.
Solvg d marraige problem.
But those tht want and can't get yet are to do wat? Beat themselves up, feel inferior ,settle for less?
Wat's d point in lookg down on a respectable adult simply because they've got no spouse?
Why shud som1 b taught to feel unworthy because theyre single?
If you're married fine. If not fine. Enjoy your life either way, while aimg for d best.