This is long but it will surely help you and open your eyes to modesty in dressing.. So, think twice before reading.. Don't complain about the longetivity of the post..

Are you modest?
Do you cause your brother or sister to stumble?
When you leave the house do you present yourself in a godly way?
Every single person reading just mentally
jumped to clothing, without me having to
mention appearance or apparel at all.

There is a reason for it, too modesty, particularly
female modesty, is one of the most bitter
and public arguments in American Christian
culture today—and it all revolves around our
skirts and our hair.

The exact percentage of
acceptable skin shown has been
ascertained, the lines marked out on thighs
and shoulders above which nothing may be
revealed and the materials of which jewelry
might be made has been parsed out.
As a young woman in the church, it seems the
only sermon or study ever directed towards
me specifically regards my power to make
men sin.But what about my sin?

Stumbling Blocks

"Therefore let us stop passing judgment on
one another. Instead, make up your mind
not to put any stumbling block or obstacle
in the way of a brother or sister." (Rom.
14:13, NIV)

There are dozens of pleas on the Internet, in
magazines and from pulpits from straight
men to the objects of their desire. They ask
women to cover up their bodies so that they
do not present a stumbling block for their
brothers in Christ.
This is a valid request.
It is not right to go to a brother who
struggles with lust and disrobe casually or
flirt sexually.
But these pleas go further:
they ask that women should guard against
prying eyes at all times, and they suggest
the endlessly detailed standards with which
we have all become familiar in the modern
church. In this way, without ever thinking it
of themselves, they put a stumbling block in
front of their sisters in Christ. That is also
not right.

If the weight of my testimony as a child of
God rests on my physical body, then I
become an object of sin. In this context, in
order to fully participate in the body of
Christ, I must turn inward and focus on my
physical self, creating a barrier between
myself and worship. The focus shifts away
from God and instead becomes vanity. It is
not only a matter of feeling blamed, or
being unwilling to alter my behavior to help
others. It is a matter of needing my walk
with Christ to be considered equal to that of
the men at my church.

Modest Is Hottest

Do me a favor and reflect on last Sunday.
Try to picture any of the young girls who
attended your church. Hair plaited back, a
skirt that goes to exactly mid-calf, a sterling
silver cross around her neck, glittery ballet
flats, plain and pinkish makeup. You can
probably call up the image quickly; I can
think of quite a few.
Now try and recollect a young man from
your parish.
This image is likely a lot less
clear and well-defined, but I imagine you
thought of a couple of young men in
pressed button-down shirts, then another
couple of young men in T-shirts and shorts.
Did one style of male dress resonate as
"immodest"? Probably not. But what about
"less appropriate for church"? Certainly,
many Christians would agree that one style
of male dress shows more respect for God
and His presence, a willingness to exercise
humility in presentation. This hits a lot
closer to what the Bible is calling us to
when it says "modesty."


"But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not look
on his appearance or on the height of his
stature, because I have rejected him. For the
Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on
the outward appearance, but the Lord looks
on the heart'" (1 Sam. 16:7, ESV).

In our haste to avoid the temptations of lust
and flee from sin, we Christians often do
two things. In the first place, we remove the
responsibility from the one committing the
sin (and forget the lust that women in the
church also feel—there are plenty of
immodestly dressed men in attendance any
given Sunday). In the second place, we
neglect the other aspects of modesty: the
modesty of spirit, the modesty of faith, the
modesty of giving, the modesty of prayer.
We cater our outward appearances to be
modest, but that is not solely what the Lord
is looking at, and it is not the metric by
which the Lord will judge.

Clothe Yourself in Grace

"Likewise, you who are younger, be subject
to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you,
with humility toward one another, for 'God
opposes the proud but gives grace to the
humble.' Humble yourselves, therefore, under
the mighty hand of God so that at the
proper time he may exalt you" (1 Pet.
5:5-6, ESV)..

In my research for this column, I was able to
find many resources for modest fashion,
including common guidelines and
arguments about stumbling blocks. But I wasn't able to find anything on modesty of
the spirit. However, when I searched for the
individual tenants of modesty—humility,
graciousness, meekness, a quiet spirit—I found a wealth of writing and apologetics
and speculation. The problem isn't that we
are unfamiliar with these points. It is that
we have shifted focus away from them,
severing their ties to modesty and therefore
how much time is spent on them at the
pulpit.

In 1 Peter 3 we are instructed (like in many
other places in the Bible) to not allow our
adornment to be outward, in jewelry and
braided hair and scandalous dress. But this
statement is followed in the same breath
with another: "[Adornment shall not be
outward] ... But let it be the hidden man of
the heart, in that which is not corruptible,
even the ornament of a meek and quiet
spirit ..." (KJV). It mirrors perhaps the most
beautiful description of what a righteous
human spirit can be: the Beatitudes, where
we are told exactly what godly modesty
entails.

Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted
because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
(Matt. 5:3-10, NIV)

In reading that our unclothedness is shameful
and our pride is sin, many of us stop there
and move no further. We seek only to cover
or root out the wrongful adornments and do
not seek to find the adornments that are
beautiful before God. In doing so, we miss
the beauty of sanctification. We are sinners,
but we are also God's children, and there
exists in us every capacity to be meek and
quiet and peaceable, hungering and
thirsting for righteousness. A modest spirit
is one of reliance on God in our struggles
and pains, and that is what I'd like to see
men and women of God crying out for in one
another.

http://www.charismamag.com/life/women/21666-what-christians-ignore-about-modesty

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AlfaSeltzer:
ajibam, are you really a babe?

What if I am a babe?
What if am not?
That's your problem..
Don't derail the thread!

Nicely said only that I'd rather the ladies complain about guys dressing too so as to point out to those of us that are wrong. And I wantus to know that the tree always produces like fruits. If our inner man is right and our fruits are wrong then something is missing. God will help us all