This goes to the Ladies. You are in serious relationship with a guy, later you now find out that, the guy has a son. what will you do?

Thats easy, leave his lying behind !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

~smurf:

Thats easy, leave his lying behind !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Should a guy do the same to a lady? For a guy to willingly take care of his son, shows a level of responsibility on his part.

Well if he didn't know that he had a son, then we can work this out. If he did know all along and he didn't tell me. Well there would be some serious reconsiderations made.

Akinagirl:

Well if he didn't know that he had a son, then we can work this out. If he did know all along and he didn't tell me. Well there would be some serious reconsiderations made.

What happens to love conquers all? If you truly love him, what reconsideration should be made?

Pataki:

Should a guy do the same to a lady? For a guy to willingly take care of his son, shows a level of responsibility on his part.

Is it stated anywhere that the son is staying with the dude?

Pataki:

Should a guy do the same to a lady? For a guy to willingly take care of his son, shows a level of responsibility on his part.

I think u got a point there but still, i dont like babay mama drama,

Hmm, for him to have kept such a secret away from me  

What next?
He was born as a woman!?  
He's actually 15!?  
He. . . .!?  

To be honest, you don't really know what you would do until you get to the situation, at this point in time, I'd probably go on about how I would leave him etc but you never know, 'love conquers all' [size=5pt]sometimes[/size], so I guess my answer is, I don't know  

dont believe in that cliche at all

naaa!!! that is deceit on an incredible scale!

You can't just leave. Things are not always what it seems. . . .
If I really love him, I don't think leaving him immediately will be one of my options.
Sit down with him, talk it out, ask myself if I really want to get into that kind of r/ship. . . .I mean, just talk it out. Is the son's mother the jealous type? Does the son like me? etc. . . .

If later I've done my research and still not comfortable with the situation. . . .odabo, am out!

In most cases, no woman will want to be a second wife, they will start there koni koni way

hmmmmm. if im not married to him, il reconsider our relationship. If I am, then il go with the flow and be nice to the kid. Afterall its not the kids fault

It depends on how long I've dated him. If we've only dated for a few weeks and he never mentioned it, I could understand. Some people really find it very difficult to open up. . .

But if we've been dating for months and he's been doing every thing possible to hide it from me, then he had better have a very good reason why, else I wish him and his son a happy life together!!

That can only happen in some part of Naija.

BabeX:

hmmmmm. if I'm not married to him, il reconsider our relationship. If I am, then il go with the flow and be nice to the kid. Afterall its not the kids fault

O se o jee.

break up dishonesty is one of the thing I hate in a relationship

ha ba

That is deceit

The problem is not with him having a son but with him keeping it a way from you.
He wants you to find out when you are married to him or what is he up to?

Wel i can neva tolerate that. its lying to the highest degree.

Not that he want say it until they get married, he was thinking how the girl will feel. cause they are really in love.

Initially u never mentioned the other lady if there were married, still married, divorced or not even married but in love. But now u mentioned they're still inlove which should leave you to doing something i'll advice a lady to do to me if it was me

Ask of him what he wants of you since you both knows he has a son, and not just a son, but a responsibility.

Candid talk!!

Most of Ladies don't think that way. They don't no that they can fall into the same situation