I just saw this post written by a wise old man about Marriage

I once heard a wise man say, “At the end of their life, no ever says, ‘I wish I had spent more time at the office!’ “Another one said that “Men and women can have it all – just not at the same time.”

Life is precious.It is often tough.It is sometimes very sad. It has moments of triumph and tragedy.

I married a very smart, beautiful and accomplished woman 30 years ago. We raised a beautiful family, went through some very tough times financially, had some rough years of relating to one another, but today I can tell you I love her more than when I married her. But when I say “love” I don’t mean the emotional rush of passion.

She would have been “justified” in leaving me many time.I would have been “justified” in leaving her many times. But just as love is a choice, not a puddle that you fall into, we decided we would never even let the subject of divorce be mentioned in our home. It gives immense comfort and strength knowing your partner is “committed” when times get tough.

I have seen too many men take their wives for granted, neglecting the simple things – and then wonder years down the road why affection has left their relationship.I am sure no woman reading this would do such a thing, but I have known women who with their words and actions have cut the manhood off of their husband – and then wonder why he acts like a passive dolt. Sex is a very important part of a married man’s life, but it is far more about “Respect” than physical gratification.I could spend a lot of time explaining that one.

It is generally not the huge storms that fell trees in the forest, but the small, unseen invader who slowly eats the life out of the tree, until one day it simply falls over under a slight breeze. Life happens in the day to day.It can pass you by if you don’t slow down once in a while.

Marriage is about relationship, not competition, turf battles, or winning arguments.Cultivate forgiveness.It is very hard – but absolutely essential. If you are not willing to completely lay down your life for your partner – face it – YOU are most likely not marriage material.I am speaking to both men and women. Marriage is a 100% - 100% relationship. It is not 50/50.Be sure that you marry someone you “like” and enjoy spending time with. Most of life is spent together in moments of “like” not “love.”


In my view – and it is just my own – I think men are looking for women who revel and celebrate in their femininity – not resent it.God, biology, chance or whatever you want to call it – made women the bearer of children.This is a beautiful and wonderful.While it is not easy – it is one of the things that makes life “real.” If you are fortunate enough to have this experience, realize that is a season of life that like all others - will pass.Don’t live so far in the future that you miss the miracles in front of you today.

Commitment really does mean “commitment.”Being their through the good and the bad.Men, and I suspect most women don’t want someone with an ax to grind or are mad at society,
at God, the culture, or whatever.Be willing to laugh at yourself.

Just a few thoughts – worth what you paid for them.

noted

Wise words.