Marriage refers to the mutual relationship ordained by Allah for the believers as an act of worship between two people who love, trust, care, understand and respect each other for the sake of Allah; so as to attain jannah, procreate children, fulfill their sexual desires, unite and enjoy companionship forever with its continuation in paradise
in shaa Allah.

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Three matters should not be delayed: prayer when its time comes, burial when the funeral has arrived, and the marriage of a single woman when a well-suited man has proposed.” [Tirmidhi]


Why should you delay marriages then?
The Prophet (pbuh) addressed the youths encouraging them to get married as soon as they are capable of shouldering the responsipility of marriage saying:
“O youth! Whoever amongst you is able to marry, let him marry, because it helps him keep his eyes away from lustful looks and preserve his chastity. And whoever is not able to marry, let him observe fasting, as it is a shield for him (i.e. protection from lapsing in fornication).” [Agreed Upon]

Early marriage doesn’t mean that the spouses could be not mature and responsible, the Qur’an hints saying:
“If you find them of sound judgement.” (An-Nisa': 6) That means puberty or marriageable age is not enough to be qualified for marriage. If a son is capable to run a household life and he is able to maitain mentally, psychologically and financially and everything of his wife, then early marriage is the only way to keep our children away from haram.

Marriage is a great tradition of the Prophet (SAW). Brothers and sisters in Islam, why are you still single? Are you not tired of having wet dreams and staring at the opposite (non-mahram) gender?

Is it financial issue? Money is not an enough excuse for you because some companions were almost penniless as at the time they married. Allah promises to enrich
married couples from his bounties. If unemployment is your excuse? Allah promises to make a way for you from sources that you couldn't have imagined.

Is it tribalism? Allah said He created us from a single pair of male and female and made us into nation and tribes so that we may know each other.

Is it your fear of heartbreak? [/b]The prophet said; what hit you couldn't have missed you and what missed you couldn't have hit you.

[b]Is it because you dislike early marriage and you want to graduate from school before marriage? Allah said: "Perhaps you dislike a thing but in reality it's good for you and perhaps you love a thing but In reality it's bad for you"

Is it because you want to have your own car/house first? The Prophet said: whoever trust Allah sincerely, Allah will provide for him just the way He provides for the birds who go out in the morning empty and return home satisfied.

Dear single brothers and sisters, what then is your excuse and why have you refused to marry? Don't you believe in the words of Allah and the sayings of the Prophet?

Trust in Allah and get married irrespective of your situation once you met the right brother/sister. Allah said: "Has the time not come for the believers that their hearts should be affected by the Qur'an and to embrace the truth which has been revealed" -(Surah hadeed:16)

Once a person reaches puberty, he naturally starts getting inclined to the other gender, because he/she has feelings and emotions running through the veins and hearts which has to be fulfilled either through the halal way or haram way.

Some people are born with high level of shahwa (sexual desire) while some have low hawa. This is why you see today in primary and secondary schools, small children now go to the bushes and uncompleted buildings to have haram fun (zina and its preliminaries). On valentines day, that's the day of zina especially in tertiary institutions.

If every family follows Qur'anic injunctions in conjunction with the sunnah of the Prophet and forms the habit of giving out their children or encourage their children to marry as soon as they are mature emotionally and a male child is financially buoyant, then many people will be married with their chastity intact.

Another thing that increases temptation in people is all these TV and western media we watch everyday. It's part of the agenda of the unbelievers to create a Godless society where people will now fornicate like chickens, that's why they entice through their movies with lots of
romantic scenes and this is what corrupts young minds today; may Allah protect us.

“Early marriage is recommended as long as the requirements of marriage are met including the ability of each of the spouses to fulfill his marital duties and protect his/her partner against temptation. The husband should also be able to shoulder the financial responsibilities at the sufficiency level. There is no specific age for marriage according to Shari`ah but the criterion is the capability of both spouses.”

BROTHERS AND SISTERS, is time to access yourself properly and marry that brother/sister you have found compatible in order to complete the other half of your deen and earn reward from Almighty Allah who prescribe marriage to all Muslim.


Maa Salam

finally somebody dares to ask...
op you hit the nail on the head.
currently busy but will contribute later inshaAllah.
until then expecting to come back and see both the common and uncommon answers to this oft repeated question.

People delay marriage for many reasons but as for me,it was due to educational commitment and alhamdulilah, I don't engage in any conjugal relationship but the best is to marry early and save your self from fornication

It's by nature...

Urges must surely come.. . may Allah be our sustenance





Ameen.

Jazakallahu khair for this precious reminder/admonition, may we all be rightly guided.

^^Amiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiin

Nice post although I think you might have insulted chickens in it and as a patron of the birds, I am almost offended .

I am single for many factors but I feel many of them are being removed and I now have a plan to do so although not immediately but let us call it work-in-progress.

Whilst we are encouraged to get married as soon as we have the capacity, singles should also be educated on what it takes to stay married so that we don't get a high percentage of dysfunctional marriages or divorces.

May Allah grant we singles excellent spouses and sustain the current happy marriages (Ameen).

Jazakallahu khayran for this post.

Allah answer prayers,I am putting my problems in front Him,if praye aanswerred,I will get marrried inshAllah

May Allah lead and guide us. Marriage is a beautiful thing.

Can a Christian marry a muslim

Pls I need answers..

I want to make sure that I have my own house, job and resource b4 I will marry. nowadays marriage is very expensive, jumaat kar33m.

Shey dem go force theirself un

Money isn't an excuse thou bt unemployment is

hormordunneey:
Money isn't an excuse thou bt unemployment is

Well said, I can't marry if I don't have a source of livelihood. The money doesn't have to be much but just steady

Marriage, marriage, marriage. May Allah make it easy fr us.

Its good to settle down but dont settle into poverty...not easy mehn...

Nice one brother.... May ALLAH guide us to d rit woman

the cost of marriage has skyrocket

fear of poverty

[b]I graduated from University 8 years ago, i was jobless for good 5 years before one of my Aunt help me secure a state Govt teaching Job. Through out my struggling period, no woman sees any future or potentials in me. Though, Im a born Comedian and many girls appreciate my sense of humor, but no one want to identify with poverty
Im yet to married because i had two heart-breaks that almost cost me my life. The first Girl friend's Dad didnt allow me to marry her daughter cos i was a Teacher then i tried to persuade her that things will get better, But her Dad couldnt see future in me.
Few month later, i was match-made with an abuja based muslim girl through a family friend. when i opened up to the lady that im a teacher, she asked if im willing to look for federal job or other high paying Job, i said NO, cos i knew what i was doing. i told her that im a Blogger and within a year, inshallah, i will be earning millions. She laughed at me and gave me conditions that before she could marry me, i must have a job that pays not less than 100k and i must be ready to relocate to ABJ.
I almost gave up my dream of becoming a successful blogger. i arranged with a friend in abuja who got me a teaching job at one international sch there and they were ready to pay me 120k. i rushed to call my girl friend and informed her about the Good news. Alas!! She replied it was too late, that she has found he guy with secured future. i nearly commit suicide then. Well, just one month after she dump me. Google sent me Half a million naira as my accumulated blog adverts.
Inshallah today, Im the proud owner of Entertainment and Gossip blog www.Vibenigeria.com where I earn almost 7 figures from Google adverts every month. I just even open another tutorial blog www.TipsMill.com where i research solutions to what many people are searching for, ranging from Health, relationship, marriage, Business idea, Technology and more.
Exactly this time last year, the bike i use to ply around knocked and i couldnt afford to repair it.Poverty was my middle name then, seeing what i looked like then can even scare a potential wife . Mehn, Thunder Fire Poverty
I live more comfortable now and i employ 3 people that earns Higher 5 figures monthly from me.

Now, Many women are professing their love for me now as if i be learner
Anyway sha, i wish im married, but Allah knows the best

Since then, i have lost hope in women, i find it difficult to fall in love again. Im a well-read mallam, But im happily single. only in love with my blogging business[/b]

N.B
Nairaland and Linda Ikeji really played dominant role in my blogging career, inshallah, im going to publish my story on my birthday 9th Jan. here on how i become a successful blogger within a year. its going to make front page and im sure linda ikeji is going to publish it too

Barka Jum'mah to y'all

op I agree with all but your first question!


marriage is not something you rush into because you think you are ready, we are all ready to get married but keeping it up is the problem, if u must know destiny works with reality! u don't sit at home and say because it is stated somewhere in the Qur'an that whatever is yours will be yours doesnt mean you should not work towards it.


marriage and money are now the same in our generation unless you are ready to put somebody's daughter in what the Hausa people call ALLAH SARKI lifestyle'


if you don't have money don't go and get married oo!

Marriage in the prophet's (SAW) time is different from our time, the expectations are different.

so brothers pls get ready before you seek.

jazakallah kayran......shukran brother
may Allah makes it possible for all us
....AMINN!!!!جذكلله كيرن

People can use the Muslim Singles Matching Service if they are really interested
https://www.nairaland.com/1935933/muslim-singles-matching-service-msms

May Allah Make it easy for us all.

Meanwhile, Jumah Mubaraq to everyone.

We all like marriage,but am stil a student,I no hav money,house so how can I marry?

Jazakumullahu Khaeran.

Not yet married cos i need constant income .
Jazakhumullahu Kaeran

maclatunji:
People can use the Muslim Singles Matching Service if they are really interested
https://www.nairaland.com/1935933/muslim-singles-matching-service-msms

erm . . .married men can also use the service, not so?

I'm still single due to the scarcity of Muslimmah and nowadays ladies that have the fear of Allah. # still-searching