Good morning Pals. I hope I'm posting this on the right section.

Over the past couple of years, I have been considering this life and mourning its futility. Yet on a positive note, dat state has made me very mindful of the fact that living with the Grace and Presence of God (I strongly believe in Him) and approaching the future with Hope in Him are the only consolation for this vain world.

We are born innocent, grow up in innocence and with little emotional crises even for some of us whose parents had barely enough to keep us basically happy (trauma-free).

The we begin to mature, mingle, find real friends and commit ourselves to relationships. Some persons come to form indispensable part of our lives (so we take it). And we begin to assume and carry life responsibilities.

Then comes the inevitable critical stage of life. U begin to earn your own living; then you begin to realize dat the more you earn (wit your life breaking down with d stress and strains of more earning), the more u see the need to earn even much more. In other words, the more you lose the equanimity of early life, childhood.

But the crises of work, earnings and financial insufficiency is not the real problem.

It is the fact that the time now arrives when your emotions become stuffed up with offshoots of the futility of life: to the extent that without the Grace, Presence and Hope in God or some deity you may choose, the only exit door for a calculating mind would be Suicide. Why do I say this?

All u see around you is responsibilities: emotional responsibilities. You see ur parents and other foundation members of your life NATURALLY going down dat u feel the reality of losing them sooner or later - their company, comfort and counsel. Yet, u have actually begun to lose some people dat have become so attached to your life and contribute greatly to you happiness. Yet you realise that apart from your immediate family, so many other individuals/families deserve your attention. Yet you realise that you cannot meet up with supporting the way you heart desires it, the families of your departed fellows; reason being that your resources (both emotional and material) are limited, while the number of those who deserve your attention keeps increasing, naturally still.

What a life! Or should I say, what a Mentality I have? How do I cope, I mean on the emotional aspect? Please advise.

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This your grammar wan give me early morning headache

That is life for you, our parents went through it and we are going to do same.

Spend time with your parents, show them you care, call often even if you don't have time to visit as much as you want. Take care of them to your own best ability. They won't be here forever so value them like gold.

As for giving out, I wish I have enough to go round everybody that need one thing or the other. Give the best you can and also pray for those in need.

All the best!

okirewaju:
This your grammar wan give me early morning headache

That is life for you, our parents went through it and we are going to do same.

Spend time with your parents, show them you care, call often even if you don't have time to visit as much as you want. Take care of them to your own best ability. They won't be here forever so value them like gold.

As for giving out, I wish I have enough to go round everybody that need one thing or the other. Give the best you can and also pray for those in need.

All the best!

U really appreciate what I mean. Tank u so much my dear. I have come to realize that we need a dose of callousness to be able to wade through this life. Tanx a million.

I am presently facing d same thing as u are but u know what, I'd say to myself if end up dead cos of responsibility around me den Wu is going to complete history

u c i do my best n leave d rest for oluwa

You have to set priorities because, as you said, our resources are limited.

And you should never forget to take good care of yourself too. A healthy amount of selfishness is needed to do that.

Don't forget, the Bible says, "Love your neighbor as yourself"; to love others, you first need to love yourself, and that includes a healthy management of one's resources.

carefreewannabe:
You have to set priorities because, as you said, our resources are limited.

And you should never forget to take good care of yourself too. A healthy amount of selfishness is needed to do that.

Don't forget, the Bible says, "Love your neighbor as yourself"; to love others, you first need to love yourself, and that includes a healthy management of one's resources.

You are very correct. I'm trying hard to adjust in terms of finances: experience dey say, is d best teacher. My main worry now is the Emotional dimension. Bt I hope to get over it too.

Tanx a lot.

Provie:


You are very correct. I'm trying hard to adjust in terms of finances: experience dey say, is d best teacher. My main worry now is the Emotional dimension. Bt I hope to get over it too.

Tanx a lot.

You're welcome.

Stay strong.

Provie:


U really appreciate what I mean. Tank u so much my dear. I have come to realize that we need a dose of callousness to be able to wade through this life. Tanx a million.

You're welcome!

Walai, I no understand anything here.

Off I go !

That comes with growing older and assuming responsibilities, it gets overwhelming. The good news is that as you get even older all those things don`t affect you so much again. You learn to accept life and accept your own limitations to change things.
You can only do your best and try and be a decent person.
Learn to accept the things you can`t change it helps a long way in life. So much vanity on his world so many fights over pointless things. You just need to make sure it all does not weigh you down.

@Provie

You have strong empathic emotions and there is nothing wrong with that. Empaths tend to get "frozen" by strong negative feedback and emotions, this the problem. The way out is to channel your energy into solving one crisis at a time while you focus on the more positive aspects of life. Do not let anything weigh you down and even if you get so quickly unlock yourself by focusing on a positive attitude and problem solving. You need to always put in mind that you are human and limited so you can't be a hero to everyone.

mutter:
So much vanity on his world so many fights over pointless things. You just need to make sure it all does not weigh you down.

You are so on point there. And I really pray for d positive attitude. Tanx so much.

LordReed:
@Provie

You have strong empathic emotions and there is nothing wrong with that. Empaths tend to get "frozen" by strong negative feedback and emotions, this the problem. The way out is to channel your energy into solving one crisis at a time while you focus on the more positive aspects of life. Do not let anything weigh you down and even if you get so quickly unlock yourself by focusing on a positive attitude and problem solving. You need to always put in mind that you are human and limited so you can't be a hero to everyone.

@ LordReed thank u very much for your sound advice.

So much maturity and sound advice on this section. Life seems to be good after all.

Op, You're not alone... Most times the thought of losing or not seeing my loved ones especially my parents ever again hurts me badly. .. Can't even explain why I harbour such feelings

But over time, I have learnt not to take life too seriously because shit must happen. .. I try to care and love my parents/loved ones the best way I can now just as I do for myself....


Actually All is vanity but we must keep struggling for survival. ..Just try and make the best use of every second you got now.....Another thing, you can never be devoid of loved ones in life, one goes, another comes... Parents may go but your spouse, children, siblings, friends will be there for you. .

Provie:
Good morning Pals. I hope I'm posting this on the right section.

Over the past couple of years, I have been considering this life and mourning its futility. Yet on a positive note, dat state has made me very mindful of the fact that living with the Grace and Presence of God (I strongly believe in Him) and approaching the future with Hope in Him are the only consolation for this vain world.

We are born innocent, grow up in innocence and with little emotional crises even for some of us whose parents had barely enough to keep us basically happy (trauma-free).

The we begin to mature, mingle, find real friends and commit ourselves to relationships. Some persons come to form indispensable part of our lives (so we take it). And we begin to assume and carry life responsibilities.

Then comes the inevitable critical stage of life. U begin to earn your own living; then you begin to realize dat the more you earn (wit your life breaking down with d stress and strains of more earning), the more u see the need to earn even much more. In other words, the more you lose the equanimity of early life, childhood.

But the crises of work, earnings and financial insufficiency is not the real problem.

It is the fact that the time now arrives when your emotions become stuffed up with offshoots of the futility of life: to the extent that without the Grace, Presence and Hope in God or some deity you may choose, the only exit door for a calculating mind would be Suicide. Why do I say this?

All u see around you is responsibilities: emotional responsibilities. You see ur parents and other foundation members of your life NATURALLY going down dat u feel the reality of losing them sooner or later - their company, comfort and counsel. Yet, u have actually begun to lose some people dat have become so attached to your life and contribute greatly to you happiness. Yet you realise that apart from your immediate family, so many other individuals/families deserve your attention. Yet you realise that you cannot meet up with supporting the way you heart desires it, the families of your departed fellows; reason being that your resources (both emotional and material) are limited, while the number of those who deserve your attention keeps increasing, naturally still.

What a life! Or should I say, what a Mentality I have? How do I cope, I mean on the emotional aspect? Please advise.

life is useless

Best not to get emotionally attached to people

engrtee:
Best not to get emotionally attached to people

Yea u right. Bt by d time u realize dat, it's already too late as wil hav been not just attached but engrafted into people.