I dnt know what is wrong with me every emotional move i've made on ladies always proved abortive,or i end up friendzoned,no matter all the tactics i applied(even the once from nairaland).some day i know i'm gonna get married,thats why i'm trying to practise the so called wooing,bt i end up unlucky..i dnt knw if i'm still not trying well or perhaps,i need to go wash my head in the river..plz nairalanders advice a brother,just for future sake o..thanks.

Is it dat u can't approach or they don't accept?

LaurelP:
Is it dat u can't approach or they don't accept?

wel dere is no much boldness in my approach,and if i eventually approach any1,i wil be turned down,despite all my efforts..

sholikay:
wel dere is no much boldness in my approach,and if i eventually approach any1,i wil be turned down,despite all my efforts..

What efforts?
How do u approach?

How old are u bro

One or more of the following may be your problem. Look at them and take correction where necessary.

1. You dress badly.
Women don't take serious men that dresses badly. Dressing badly here doesn't mean you wear rags. You may wear costly materials and still end up a bad dresser. Very important here is first, iron your wears. Then knowing how to combine colors also matters. For instance, black belt must always go with black shoe and not brown belt, black shoe. Next, smell good. Don't forget your mouth must also smell good.

2. You can't arrange your thoughts well.
Don't put the cart before the horse. Don't say one thing now and later you said, "oh I forgot to ask you this..." If you feel like rehearsing your thoughts with your friends, fine! Eventhough it may not be necessary. But don't cramp them. Just calm yourself down and talk.


3. You feel to woo a woman is serious business.
No sire! A woman is just like any other human. You don't need to be so serious to an extent that you start sweating just because you want to talk to a woman. First of all, check that the atmosphere is conducive then walk close to her, greet her and talk. Did you just say talk what? Well, it's simple: tell her you like her and wait for her response then follow up from there. Don't just stand there and start pouring out what you cramped. It's not necessary. You ain't in an interview.


4. You are a proud type.
Proud people can't hide the fact that they are. Don't start showing off in front of her. Just be a human. Be bold and look at her eyeball to eyeball. Wear some smiles while expressing yourself. I don't mean if something is not funny, you should just smile like those guys on Cabin Biscuits. Be smart to chip in some jokes where necessary.

5. You maybe still a child.
It'll definitely show by the way you talk. What defines maturity is the mentality. Even if you are still under 20, if you can be bold enough to approach a woman and take control of the discussion, you win!


6. You can't express your intentions.
Don't always fail to make your intentions known to her. Define the kind of relationship you want with her.

7. You feel you must get it done in one day.
No sire! Absolutely no!! Sometimes, we set them up for another day and when such day comes, you wouldn't have to stress yourself with much grammar. Things would just fall in place. Learn how to set your crush up.

Finally, be smart to know who mean business. Don't waste so much time on one person. You'll be wasting your money at the same time. There are so many of them out there. Don't let anybody tell you that you were destined for this or that girl. What matters between you both is understanding. Very important, don't waste even a second of your time with a woman you truly know would be a liability even if her beauty is like that of a full moon.

Goodluck.

^^^^in addition, just be a bad guy. Don't bother much about them. Try practicing on random babes you don't have feelings for.

samuelson06:
One or more of the following may be your problem. Look at them and take correction where necessary.

1. You dress badly.
Women don't take serious men that dresses badly. Dressing badly here doesn't mean you wear rags. You may wear costly materials and still end up a bad dresser. Very important here is first, iron your wears. Then knowing how to combine colors also matters. For instance, black belt must always go with black shoe and not brown belt, black shoe. Next, smell good. Don't forget your mouth must also smell good.

2. You can't arrange your thoughts well.
Don't put the cart before the horse. Don't say one thing now and later you said, "oh I forgot to ask you this..." If you feel like rehearsing your thoughts with your friends, fine! Eventhough it may not be necessary. But don't cramp them. Just calm yourself down and talk.


3. You feel to woo a woman is serious business.
No sire! A woman is just like any other human. You don't need to be so serious to an extent that you start sweating just because you want to talk to a woman. First of all, check that the atmosphere is conducive then walk close to her, greet her and talk. Did you just say talk what? Well, it's simple: tell her you like her and wait for her response then follow up from there. Don't just stand there and start pouring out what you cramped. It's not necessary. You ain't in an interview.


4. You are a proud type.
Proud people can't hide the fact that they are. Don't start showing off in front of her. Just be a human. Be bold and look at her eyeball to eyeball. Wear some smiles while expressing yourself. I don't mean if something is not funny, you should just smile like those guys on Cabin Biscuits. Be smart to chip in some jokes where necessary.

5. You maybe still a child.
It'll definitely show by the way you talk. What defines maturity is the mentality. Even if you are still under 20, if you can be bold enough to approach a woman and take control of the discussion, you win!


6. You can't express your intentions.
Don't always fail to make your intentions known to her. Define the kind of relationship you want with her.

7. You feel you must get it done in one day.
No sire! Absolutely no!! Sometimes, we set them up for another day and when such day comes, you wouldn't have to stress yourself with much grammar. Things would just fall in place. Learn how to set your crush up.

Finally, be smart to know who mean business. Don't waste so much time on one person. You'll be wasting your money at the same time. There are so many of them out there. Don't let anybody tell you that you were destined for this or that girl. What matters between you both is understanding. Very important, don't waste even a second of your time with a woman you truly know would be a liability even if her beauty is like that of a full moon.

Goodluck.

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Just think you're desperate......,they can smell desperation a mile away, and tis not a good thing

@samuelson06; did you just write all that for him Thou can write oh

sholikay:
I dnt know what is wrong with me every emotional move i've made on ladies always proved abortive,or i end up friendzoned, no matter all the tactics i applied(even the once from nairaland). some day i know i'm gonna get married,thats why i'm trying to practise the so called wooing,bt i end up unlucky..i dnt knw if i'm still not trying well or perhaps,i need to go wash my head in the river..plz nairalanders advice a brother,just for future sake o..thanks.

Try this new tactic from a Nairalander, stop chasing after women and work on yourself. When you are done working on yourself, the radius of your magnetic field will cover so much area that you won't need to be chasing after women, your magnetism will work for you.

Following thread keenly

Samuel has said it all

barackodam:
Samuel has said it all

my own samuel?

samflexxy:
my own samuel?

Samuelson

You are the problem not them. Work on yourself as said above.

Try hit the gym and upgrade ur body structure. Only of u are too slim bcs most girls are nt attracted to slim guys. I,m talking frm expirience.

Nokialumia720:
Try hit the gym and upgrade ur body structure. Only of u are too slim bcs most girls are nt attracted to slim guys. I,m talking frm expirience.

i disagree,you wan dent our confidence?

Nokialumia720:
Try hit the gym and upgrade ur body structure. Only of u are too slim bcs most girls are nt attracted to slim guys. I,m talking frm expirience.

Another reason why am girlfriendless.....am excessively slim, maybe that's one of the reason why I don't get a callback after a successful interview

you need to go and wash ur head for river..
ur village winsh dey behind ur matter..

Op I just like your signature

Don't know how to help you tho. Think samuleson06 already done that.

mr op ur problem is that the available u have is nt desirable to u, just make the available desirable and watch hw the available becomes desirable

KAYCEEJUNIOR:
Another reason why am girlfriendless.....am excessively slim, maybe that's one of the reason why I don't get a callback after a successful interview

then work on yourself. You need a lot of protein, egg, milk, beans, meat, fish etc also get a protein powder like casilan 90 which is the best suppliment for building muscles. Moreover, never you hate the gym. Always have a good work out for yourself within few months u gona see good results.

Nokialumia720:
Try hit the gym and upgrade ur body structure. Only of u are too slim bcs most girls are nt attracted to slim guys. I,m talking frm expirience.

shhh.. maybe you are slim, uglyy and swagless.

Fkhalifa:
i disagree,you wan dent our confidence?

i,m not doubting your confidence but one thing u have to understand is that majority of today,s girls have a clear specification of guy they want to date, and the truth is that skinny guys are nt among them. I was skinny before, to get a girl was like a hell for me, but since i start taking protein and hitting the gym my body structure has rapidly turn to six pack and i,m also tall nd dark. So to get a girl now is just as easy as ABCD.

i'm sure you got this from google tho

samuelson06:
One or more of the following may be your problem. Look at them and take correction where necessary.

1. You dress badly.
Women don't take serious men that dresses badly. Dressing badly here doesn't mean you wear rags. You may wear costly materials and still end up a bad dresser. Very important here is first, iron your wears. Then knowing how to combine colors also matters. For instance, black belt must always go with black shoe and not brown belt, black shoe. Next, smell good. Don't forget your mouth must also smell good.

2. You can't arrange your thoughts well.
Don't put the cart before the horse. Don't say one thing now and later you said, "oh I forgot to ask you this..." If you feel like rehearsing your thoughts with your friends, fine! Eventhough it may not be necessary. But don't cramp them. Just calm yourself down and talk.


3. You feel to woo a woman is serious business.
No sire! A woman is just like any other human. You don't need to be so serious to an extent that you start sweating just because you want to talk to a woman. First of all, check that the atmosphere is conducive then walk close to her, greet her and talk. Did you just say talk what? Well, it's simple: tell her you like her and wait for her response then follow up from there. Don't just stand there and start pouring out what you cramped. It's not necessary. You ain't in an interview.


4. You are a proud type.
Proud people can't hide the fact that they are. Don't start showing off in front of her. Just be a human. Be bold and look at her eyeball to eyeball. Wear some smiles while expressing yourself. I don't mean if something is not funny, you should just smile like those guys on Cabin Biscuits. Be smart to chip in some jokes where necessary.

5. You maybe still a child.
It'll definitely show by the way you talk. What defines maturity is the mentality. Even if you are still under 20, if you can be bold enough to approach a woman and take control of the discussion, you win!


6. You can't express your intentions.
Don't always fail to make your intentions known to her. Define the kind of relationship you want with her.

7. You feel you must get it done in one day.
No sire! Absolutely no!! Sometimes, we set them up for another day and when such day comes, you wouldn't have to stress yourself with much grammar. Things would just fall in place. Learn how to set your crush up.

Finally, be smart to know who mean business. Don't waste so much time on one person. You'll be wasting your money at the same time. There are so many of them out there. Don't let anybody tell you that you were destined for this or that girl. What matters between you both is understanding. Very important, don't waste even a second of your time with a woman you truly know would be a liability even if her beauty is like that of a full moon.

Goodluck.

samuelson06:
One or more of the following may be your problem. Look at them and take correction where necessary.

1. You dress badly.
Women don't take serious men that dresses badly. Dressing badly here doesn't mean you wear rags. You may wear costly materials and still end up a bad dresser. Very important here is first, iron your wears. Then knowing how to combine colors also matters. For instance, black belt must always go with black shoe and not brown belt, black shoe. Next, smell good. Don't forget your mouth must also smell good.

2. You can't arrange your thoughts well.
Don't put the cart before the horse. Don't say one thing now and later you said, "oh I forgot to ask you this..." If you feel like rehearsing your thoughts with your friends, fine! Eventhough it may not be necessary. But don't cramp them. Just calm yourself down and talk.


3. You feel to woo a woman is serious business.
No sire! A woman is just like any other human. You don't need to be so serious to an extent that you start sweating just because you want to talk to a woman. First of all, check that the atmosphere is conducive then walk close to her, greet her and talk. Did you just say talk what? Well, it's simple: tell her you like her and wait for her response then follow up from there. Don't just stand there and start pouring out what you cramped. It's not necessary. You ain't in an interview.


4. You are a proud type.
Proud people can't hide the fact that they are. Don't start showing off in front of her. Just be a human. Be bold and look at her eyeball to eyeball. Wear some smiles while expressing yourself. I don't mean if something is not funny, you should just smile like those guys on Cabin Biscuits. Be smart to chip in some jokes where necessary.

5. You maybe still a child.
It'll definitely show by the way you talk. What defines maturity is the mentality. Even if you are still under 20, if you can be bold enough to approach a woman and take control of the discussion, you win!


6. You can't express your intentions.
Don't always fail to make your intentions known to her. Define the kind of relationship you want with her.

7. You feel you must get it done in one day.
No sire! Absolutely no!! Sometimes, we set them up for another day and when such day comes, you wouldn't have to stress yourself with much grammar. Things would just fall in place. Learn how to set your crush up.

Finally, be smart to know who mean business. Don't waste so much time on one person. You'll be wasting your money at the same time. There are so many of them out there. Don't let anybody tell you that you were destined for this or that girl. What matters between you both is understanding. Very important, don't waste even a second of your time with a woman you truly know would be a liability even if her beauty is like that of a full moon.

Goodluck.

wel i'm so guilty of some of what u posted above..i'm so grateful for taking ur time to type this..more power to ur phone and fingers...i wil try work on them.

My brother..if i dont tell u d truth, nobody else will... Leave girls alone.... Grow in wisdom and favour... Get a job...hav money... Build a house..plant ur fields.... And all other things will be added unto you... Even ladies... King solomon was only 12 yrs old wen he became king.. He ad Gid for wisdom, not women or riches...nd God blessed him....u can see dat over a thousand women were at his beck and call..... So be wise... Woman should not be ur priority, if not, u will fail..and fail woefully.. Read the book of proverbs and ecclesiastes... Get wisdom bro... Get wisdom...

SkinnyDude:
shhh.. maybe you are slim, uglyy and swagless.

hiaa!! Who told u i,m ugly? If you are handsome and very skinny u are still ugly bcs ur slimness will make u look unhealthy which is unattractive.

LaurelP:


What efforts?
How do u approach?

firstly i dnt approach physically,i only try to get the girls number,after which i wil start d wooing on phone,bt if she is nt giving in dat moment,i wil nw try the physical approach..tho i'm a very funny guy,and i apply this when wooing girls,and dy always smile or laugh at my humour,bt for me to get a yes na problem,some wil be in partially,bt at the end of the day na friendzoning things o..i cant count the amount of resources i've spent on sum girls(monetarily and gifts),even my sisters have nt benefits such from me.

Nokialumia720:
hiaa!! Who told u i,m ugly? If you are handsome and very skinny u are still ugly bcs ur slimness will make u look unhealthy which is unattractive.

no! cant you see wiz khalifa? does he look unhealthy to you? he takes good care of himself and has swag.. what of phyno?

Nokialumia720:
i,m not doubting your confidence but one thing u have to understand is that majority of today,s girls have a clear specification of guy they want to date, and the truth is that skinny guys are nt among them. I was skinny before, to get a girl was like a hell for me, but since i start taking protein and hitting the gym my body structure has rapidly turn to six pack and i,m also tall nd dark. So to get a girl now is just as easy as ABCD.

you guys should stop saying this. it depends on packaging. the way you carry yourself.

temitemi1:
How old are u bro

i'm in my mid-twenties..got a handiwork of mine,dat fetches me money and also in paying for my educational pursuit.