Ordinarily, I wouldn't have commented on this post, but I find it very Pertinent to ; some very wrong impressions and conceptions needs be corrected especially with our young ones....
I have said this countless times, ladies re their own problem, respect is earned and never conferred, u ' ll be treated the way u present yourself;
I m a mature male, I have all male friends, they are either my colleagues, business partners, relatives or people we have a common tie!! Succinctly put, they re persons we mutually benefit from ourselves, that way the friendship last longer, we enjoy ourselves, go out to comfy spots to drink and gist like friends.....
For a woman that purportedly wants us to be 'just friends' (like my fellow guyz) ,I really don't have any problem with that and can role just fine, but then she must and should have something, a common tie bringing us together, we must have something to mutually benefit from ourselves.. but in Nigeria that we are, and with the economic hardship we witness, how many girls or ladies have anything to Offer? It's true most ladies, should we be truthful with ourselves will only have dealings with guys they have things to benefit from (mostly financially, or academically ), and in turn have nothing to offer; that makes the equation very unbalanced making the male seek what he feels makes it balance...... IMO I believe ladies should first seek redress of their skewed psychology, be for seeking for better respect from the populace n males at large...

N /B I have met very few ladies, that were upright, n we had things that brought us together ,we mutually benefitted, and had no problem at all rolling as FRIENDS

dorlapoh20:
this is strange 90% of my friends are guys and i have never experience such. maybe you move with wrong guys or you are too free with them. There should be decency in the way u relate with them.Stop sleeping in their rooms and don't allow them to sleep in your room too especially alone . am sure there would be a difference

That's it o! That we are friends does not mean we should sleep in the same room na except na my fellow guy or my blood relative. At night testosterone levels get really high in men, that's why we seem to think with our dick at that time.
Abeg make nobody put lion and goat, rat and fish, goat and yam together for one room dey expect magic!

Impulse80:
That's it o! That we are friends does not mean we should sleep in the same room na except na my fellow guy or my blood relative. At night testosterone levels get really high in men, that's why we seem to think with our dick at that time.
Abeg make nobody put lion and goat, rat and fish, goat and yam together for one room dey expect magic!

very correct . i don't know why some ladies tempt guys when you can't give them if they ask.

samisparkle24:

The guy, didnt make a sexual move,he simply put his arms rounf your waist. He is a friend,couldnt he just cuddle you to sleep?
Na guys with low self esteem,hangs with gals. Having a chitchat once awhile,its okay, but, make her a pal, doesnt make any sense

samisparkle24:

Guy,nothing do you,that is how a guy roll. Why keep extra baggage, for what use.
Most of these guys that claims, friendship with gals, are sexually attracted to them, they lack courage to open up. They end up , being galfriend with a dicck, very pathetic

high five!

samisparkle24:


Guy,nothing do you,that is how a guy roll. Why keep extra baggage, for what use.
Most of these guys that claims, friendship with gals, are sexually attracted to them, they lack courage to open up. They end up , being galfriend with a dicck, very pathetic

really

samisparkle24:

It either you are very unattractive, or the guy is gay, or he doesnt got balls to make the move.

Who is this one

samisparkle24:

It either you are very unattractive, or the guy is gay, or he doesnt got balls to make the move.

I cant remember writing anything about visiting this guy in his house alone or something of such. Its not as if am scared of that but for goodness sake precautions needs to be taken!. BTW do i even need to explain myself to you?

whizqueen:

I cant remember writing anything about visiting this guy in his house alone or something of such. Its not as if am scared of that but for goodness sake precautions needs to be taken!. BTW do i even need to explain myself to you?

Madam, no vex, your friendship with your guy friend, no concern me.

samisparkle24:


Madam, no vex, your friendship with your guy friend, no concern me.

Berra

ireneony:
babe that is not true....there was this guy in my department he knew that i have a boyfriend then.....he do come to visit and i will go and visit him too, will also hang out...so oneday he told me he will come over to my side to sleep over, but i refused....but i later agreed cos my girlfriend will be coming over too, since we are all in the same department it will be easy for us to relate, i stay in a flat in school and they will be enough space for everyone....
he came over, later my girlfriend called me she couldn't make it again.
before we slept we chatted...so i allowed him to sleep on the bed while i was sitting on the rug watching a movie i slept off..
it was 1am i decided to move my body i was suprised to see hims sleeping close to me, he even put his hands around my waiste...
i got angry and warned he and went to the parlor to continue....
ever since that incident i stayed cleared from him.

You always have stories to tell. The other day, it was a guy who came up all the way from downstairs to upstairs to rape you in your room. Smh.

RedBenson:


You always have stories to tell. The other day, it was a guy who came up all the way from downstairs to upstairs to rape you in your room. Smh.

why do you have to bring my story in sexualities section to this place

ireneony:
why do you have to bring my story in sexualities section to this place

Lol. Cant remember when i was forbid from doing that.

The lady has options of giving the guy something better than sex. but if she doesn't have much to offer, then sex comes up.

ireneony:
Once a lady become so close to a guy and you start hanging out as friends, the next thing you will see is, he will start asking for relationship or sex...

Guys why Una be like this

If you can ask the guy for money, why won't he demand sex? What is good for the goose, is good for the chicken!!!

Prixus:
I'm actually guilty of this. when I discovered that I had an unusually high sexual appetite n I couldn't just see any girl as a friend I stopped keeping female friends. as of today 80% of the girls around me r girls I've had a thing with, I'm having a thing with or I want to have a thing with. that's y when I meet a new girl I like defining my relationship with her so I know if we r on d same page n want the same thing. I ask direct questions. I don't beat about the bush. ever since I started this I've been able to do away with girls that aren't on d same page with me. funny thing is I get a lot of calls n messages like, " Brume, u just boned me abi cos of all those ur wives".

Same here. Most female friends I've had I've had relationship with them at one point. The rest were friends of friends.

However, one of my best friends ever was a female. I actually wanted to have a sexual relationship with her but it didn't work but we became friends instead. One of my best moments in life was when we were together, she was so fun to be with.

Not all guys do that, besides it depends on how u pose urself b4 d guy, if u seem cheap, y sharp guy no go wan lick beta soup?

ireneony:
Once a lady become so close to a guy and you start hanging out as friends, the next thing you will see is, he will start asking for relationship or sex...

Guys why Una be like this

truth is when most nija girls meet a guy, they think they have found an ATM.
they jovially spend the guys money but have nothing to offer, so many empty vessels

koolg:



truth is when most nija girls meet a guy, they think they have found an ATM.
they jovially spend the guys money but have nothing to offer, so many empty vessels

please take it easy na

ireneony:
Once a lady become so close to a guy and you start hanging out as friends, the next thing you will see is, he will start asking for relationship or sex...

Guys why Una be like this

What is wrong in asking for a relationship or sex?

Berthezda:
so all u do is kpansh up and down the earth?

This guy is crazy!!!! I can't stop laughing

Mynd44:

What is the difference between a guy and a lady?
They are both humans so why can't you be friends with a lady?

I wonder why folks get comfy making sexist comments

Bro,I can't keep a lady as just friend.
Relationship would be a promise but
s3x sure pass.

Dem no born girl well make im dey next room when I dey alone in another room.

why do girls always complain about this? you never hear a guy say i want to be just friends with that girl, so whats so important that it seems to bother girls so much that they cant have a guy as an ordinary friend?

But as for me, reverse is the case.

kessco:
But as for me, reverse is the case.

how?

^

At your above post, the girls always want something extra from me when I only want them as friends.

osemeka:
The lady has options of giving the guy something better than sex. but if she doesn't have much to offer, then sex comes up.

God bless u my brother in the Lord.... women re very greedy, and selfish, u ll see a lady who claims to be a platonic friend with a guy, still searching for benefits to get from him.... what kind of a parasitic relationship is That? If a lady can proof herself to have something other than sex to offer in a platonic friendship , then it'll thrive... If she has nothing, that's when the issue of sex comes in, cause that's where some guyz believe they get to reap. (Although I differ,cus I don't see sex as a reap for me, it is rather a burden)

I tried this the first semester I gained admission It backfired I tried it again during final year it worked. Am never doing that again. I don't keep female friends again cos they too take advantage of guys, send me credit, let's go out Take me out naaa And all sorts of nonsense. Mtcheeew*

May be girls dnt kw how to lov Or mayb she is a laibility(BOOM)

whizqueen:
Who is this one

Some foks are like da

Once a lady become so close to a guy and you start hanging out as friends, the next thing you will see is, he will start asking for relationship or sex...

Guys why Una be like this [/quote]

Once you become a frnd to lady.. Boom d next thing she will start asking for money from you. For a balance equation guys will opt for d pussy