Please I need your honest comments on this. I was in a relationship for four years with a girl I grown to love so much. We were soulmates. And after all those years we became so close and felt nothing would separate us. But September last year saw the inevitable happen. I broke the relationship because of a major disagreement we have failed to agree on for years. Well I don't wasn't to go into details of that.

But after some months I went into another relationship with a girl I held in high esteem. She had everything I wanted in a woman and I was happy again. I told her everything about my past life, my job, how much I earn, my plans for the future and what I expect from a woman I want to get married to. And from her response I felt we agreed on these points so the relationship began.

But not even a month into the relationship she showed her real color. Meanwhile while I was trying to woo her I heard some things about her that weren't palatable. Her ex had to arrest her cos he felt jilted after he spent about 200k on her in just a year and four months. When the case was resolved, I felt she has changed so I continued with the relationship. But like I said, her true colors began to show again. She started demanding for money subtly. As in she won't ask directly but wud alws tell me things she doest have but wished to have. I got her a tab(25k) some dresses and shoes in the space of two months. Even took her to a beach and the slave trade museum in badagry.

You guys won't believe that just the next day after the beach n museum visit she asked for hair money and I told her am broke! Only for her to rain some insult on me. Saying I am not doing enough for her as a bf. That the reason why her hair is fine n long is cos the people before me took good care of it. Adding that if this is how I took care of my ex, she won't have stayed with me for 4 years. And other miserable statements I can't remember now.

So I broke the relationship on the first of this year. She's been calling to say sorry but I told her there is no going back! Now her family and some of my friends thinks I used her as rebound for my first relationship that ended after 4 years.

Its kind of confusing but am sure it wasn't a rebound or what do u guys think. Please honest comments .........thanks.

Rebound? What if she had ruined you, then they'll call you a maga. Bros you did the ultimate thing jor.

bizie:
Please I need your honest comments on this. I was in a relationship for four years with a girl I grown to love so much. We were soulmates. And after all those years we became so close and felt nothing would separate us. But September last year saw the inevitable happen. I broke the relationship because of a major disagreement we have failed to agree on for years. Well I don't wasn't to go into details of that.

But after some months I went into another relationship with a girl I held in high esteem. She had everything I wanted in a woman and I was happy again. I told her everything about my past life, my job, how much I earn, my plans for the future and what I expect from a woman I want to get married to. And from her response I felt we agreed on these points so the relationship began.

But not even a month into the relationship she showed her real color. Meanwhile while I was trying to woo her I heard some things about her that weren't palatable. Her ex had to arrest her cos he felt jilted after he spent about 200k on her in just a year and four months. When the case was resolved, I felt she has changed so I continued with the relationship. But like I said, her true colors began to show again. She started demanding for money subtly. As in she won't ask directly but wud alws tell me things she doest have but wished to have. I got her a tab(25k) some dresses and shoes in the space of two months. Even took her to a beach and the slave trade museum in badagry.

You guys won't believe that just the next day after the beach n museum visit she asked for hair money and I told her am broke! Only for her to rain some insult on me. Saying I am not doing enough for her as a bf. That the reason why her hair is fine n long is cos the people before me took good care of it. Adding that if this is how I took care of my ex, she won't have stayed with me for 4 years. And other miserable statements I can't remember now.

So I broke the relationship on the first of this year. She's been calling to say sorry but I told her there is no going back! Now her family and some of my friends thinks I used her as rebound for my first relationship that ended after 4 years.

Its kind of confusing but am sure it wasn't a rebound or what do u guys think. Please honest comments .........thanks.

You did the right thing and theres no need for you to feel bad.

She was using you, not the other way around. I wouldn't have stayed with her for a second

materialistic babe
Bro run for ur life o
No rebound dey there
Dat girl na serial killer of destiny

Thanks all . That's all I needed.

I didn't know you can arrest someone because you spent a lot on the person and the person broke your hrt .



Hell no! You didn't use her as a rebound... you were just wise enough not to ruin yourself by yourself through her.

Beamborla:
I didn't know you can arrest someone because you spent a lot on the person and the person broke your hrt .



Hell no! You didn't use her as a rebound... you were just wise enough not to ruin yourself by yourself through her.

Not really arrest but the ex have a brother who's a police, so the girl was asked to come to and explain herself. Additionally, the guy said some of the money he spent were borrowed, and he wants the girl to pay back the debt.

bizie:


Not really arrest but the ex have a brother who's a police, so the girl was asked to come to and explain herself. Additionally, the guy said some of the money he spent were borrowed, and he wants the girl to pay back the debt.

Okay! The guy borrowed her the money. Toh! I still find it amusing

Mr man before you come on nairaland to discuss issues, ensure you are been real and truthful. This story sounds like one i pretty know of very well. And if it is you are the one at fault, you show the irresponsibility of men.

whether the call you a rebounder or no real man, you did the right thing. you saw, disliked and zoomed off. that was just the right thing biko.

you buy her tab of 25k in space of 2month thank God u quick get send if not in 6month time u will buy her a hummer jeep. if u no run for ur life no come here to tell us story that touch ooo.

Bizie r u my twin?this is wat happeneed to me too. But in my case d girl left me days before new year. I ve never felt happier. Just b patient a good girl ll come.

Some girls sha.....

bizie:
Please I need your honest comments on this. I was in a relationship for four years with a girl I grown to love so much. We were soulmates. And after all those years we became so close and felt nothing would separate us. But September last year saw the inevitable happen. I broke the relationship because of a major disagreement we have failed to agree on for years. Well I don't wasn't to go into details of that.

But after some months I went into another relationship with a girl I held in high esteem. She had everything I wanted in a woman and I was happy again. I told her everything about my past life, my job, how much I earn, my plans for the future and what I expect from a woman I want to get married to. And from her response I felt we agreed on these points so the relationship began.

But not even a month into the relationship she showed her real color. Meanwhile while I was trying to woo her I heard some things about her that weren't palatable. Her ex had to arrest her cos he felt jilted after he spent about 200k on her in just a year and four months. When the case was resolved, I felt she has changed so I continued with the relationship. But like I said, her true colors began to show again. She started demanding for money subtly. As in she won't ask directly but wud alws tell me things she doest have but wished to have. I got her a tab(25k) some dresses and shoes in the space of two months. Even took her to a beach and the slave trade museum in badagry.

You guys won't believe that just the next day after the beach n museum visit she asked for hair money and I told her am broke! Only for her to rain some insult on me. Saying I am not doing enough for her as a bf. That the reason why her hair is fine n long is cos the people before me took good care of it. Adding that if this is how I took care of my ex, she won't have stayed with me for 4 years. And other miserable statements I can't remember now.

So I broke the relationship on the first of this year. She's been calling to say sorry but I told her there is no going back! Now her family and some of my friends thinks I used her as rebound for my first relationship that ended after 4 years.

Its kind of confusing but am sure it wasn't a rebound or what do u guys think. Please honest comments .........thanks.

U acted appropriately but it's still a rebound. A rebound affair/relationship is when u enter another new sexual commitment shortly after the end of the previous even though u still havent healed from the previous.

LOL
The way some guys spend on chicks makes me wonder if a screw is missing from their heads.
Are you her father? Why will you provide her things her father can't? A girl you met within a month you've spent roughly 100k on her when she is not even contributing a dime to your efforts all she does is lie her silly asss on the bed and get banged
Left for me I'll say you ignore what people say, bring her back, bang your money out of her for the next 2weeks the dump her for good

Whether it was a rebound whether your intentions were subtle or subliminal even to yourself whether you used her you broke off a relationship that you feel wasnt healthy for you and as an adult thats all that matters to you and thats what should matter to people who care about you.

MizMyColi:
Excuse me,

I can't help but wonder how some female folks go about their business, romantically.

Is it by force to give you money, if he says he doesn't have, then he doesn't!

Leave him be and make do with what you have!
Cut your coat according to your suit please!

If I must ask my man for money, which I am well aware he doesn't owe me for in any way, then I'll do that in the classiest and most lady like way possible.

If I get turned down, No P.
It's useless ranting and making one's self look like a rabid dog.

I still can't fathom why females think we owe them in a relationship, like why?? Am I paying for sex or what?? Lord save our dear Nigeria and their mentality

Tytto:
Mr man before you come on nairaland to discuss issues, ensure you are been real and truthful. This story sounds like one i pretty know of very well. And if it is you are the one at fault, you show the irresponsibility of men.

Which part of the story don't you understand?

The story is relatable and that should be enough for you. Don't go on playing cop, trying to find a way to defend your fellow woman. It won't work here. Some ladies are THIEVES!

Tytto:
Mr man before you come on nairaland to discuss issues, ensure you are been real and truthful. This story sounds like one i pretty know of very well. And if it is you are the one at fault, you show the irresponsibility of men.

Can you tell us what we dont know?
I think you have some sense you want to make which hasnt come through.
Please expatiate how he showed, is showing the irresponsibility of men.

Dygeasy:
Which part of the story don't you understand?

The story is relatable and that should be enough for you. Don't go on playing cop, trying to find a way to defend your fellow woman. It won't work here. Some ladies are THIEVES!

That is the problem i have with most people on nairaland. When they see a thread, they jump into conclusion without hearing the other side of the claim. You really don't have to condemn the lady unheard.

Liability:

What?

ATOB:


Can you tell us what we dont know?
I think you have some sense you want to make which hasnt come through.
Please expatiate how he showed, is showing the irresponsibility of men.

If the story is the suppose story i THINK i know, given the date, the time, the parties involved, and the op himself, i think am privy to the part of the story left unsaid by him. Cause it happened to a friend of mine and am pretty sure it couldn't have been coincidental.

Tytto:
That is the problem i have with most people on nairaland. When they see a thread, they jump into conclusion without hearing the other side of the claim. You really don't have to condemn the lady unheard.

Yes. Cos that's how much we can do.

Jump to conclusions. Am I supposed to book a flight and go down to where the said girl is just so I can hear the other side of the story? Lol!

Like I said, the story is relatable so there's a high chance it happened. Feel free to seek the other side of the story. Goodluck

Liability:
i just dey greet you. Where u send my husband andy and yungwizzy go?

Hell

Liability:
u too wicked.....if them send ur wife go hell u go like am?

If that's where she belongs, why not?

Tytto:
If the story is the suppose story i THINK i know, given the date, the time, the parties involved, and the op himself, i think am privy to the part of the story left unsaid by him. Cause it happened to a friend of mine and am pretty sure it couldn't have been coincidental.

Now I understand. But in his analogy he sounds like a good man. One who shares what he has with his gf which translates to care, love and responsibility and where the gf as ideal is meant to do same.

Im just wondering why you feel he is irresponsible. Except you have a personal definition of irresponsibility.

if u continue with d relationship i bet u would go bankrupt

Tytto:
Mr man before you come on nairaland to discuss issues, ensure you are been real and truthful. This story sounds like one i pretty know of very well. And if it is you are the one at fault, you show the irresponsibility of men.

Please I need to hear ur story too. Cos u seem to know more than I wrote here. And calling me irresponsible is irresponsible of u. U have no idea