Please bear with me if this is too long. I have no choice but to give as much details as possible.
I'm in my late 20's but I've never been in a relationship. I just got a job as a teacher in a newly opened primary school september last year. I used to share my views with fellow staff about me not accepting that the bible is infallible & I don't need a woman in my life. Along the line, I was beginning to like the attitude of this lady towards. While I'm alone at work, she'll come to me to share her life story with me & I'll return the favor but I didn't want to take it further because the first day I met her, she introduced a young man to my proprietor right in front of me as her husband(I found out later that they've been in a relationship for 2years).


She changed her attitude towards me after an encounter with her. On a certain saturday, I was on my way in town when she saw me from afar and started hailing/greeting me but I ignored her. She even wanted to cross to the other side of the road to get to me but she turned back when she noticed my reaction. Before this encounter, she had asked me questions in school such as: why is it that I hardly make or receive calls from friends & am I sure this phone of mine belongs to me because I have more pics of my siblings than mine on it. By wednesday the following week, I apologized to her, telling her that I'm trying to change because of her. There she made me realized that I had done something similar to her before. Actually I have treated the few other ladies that have attempted getting close to me all my life in a similar way. I didn't really value greetings from ladies till then.


There and then she told me more bitter truth about how I'm living my life. According to her, people have been asking her if I'm sick/normal. It seems it is only there in the school that I associate with others. Once we've closed, I lock myself up at home. I don't interact with anyone, its just me & my phone. In short, what is it that I'm always doing with my phone. How will I say that I don't need a woman? Am I an homo or what?


These were really touching words. I really wanted to change. I used to stay online till as late as 2, 3 or even 4am but now I go to bed as early as 9pm. As a result of this, I end up waking up as early as 1am but can't go back to bed. Few weeks later, she too was beginning to act like before. I asked for her contact but she refused. I worsened everything the day I told her that I was beginning to have sleepless nights because of her in front of a fellow staff(her closest among us) & I will like to spend the rest of my life with her.


Now I've lost the respect she had for me. She no longer wants to have anything to do with me. Whatever move I make, she counters with the line "don't come near me, I already have a man."
Although I'm ready to let go of her, I just can't bear it seeing her everyday at work, acting like someone keeping malice with me. I no longer have the confidence to speak to her. What may I do to earn the respect as a fellow staff.

How old are you again?

Report her to the headmaster

Eyaa. You are depressed.
Forget the lady and focus on your life and work..

Copied and paste from sex life in 9ja, you try. What could be the reason for someone to be seeking for advice for something not relating to them smh

Mr Akpos this must be a Joke right?

ronald4lif:
Copied and paste from sex life in 9ja, you try. What could be the reason for someone to be seeking for advice for something not relating to them smh

Maybe dude has the same issue, and needs urgent answer.

Just move on......since she already have a man in her life, let her be.
There are plenty of fishes in the river.

Why can't you ask her, if you had done anything to her, that will make her snubs you.
If after that, she continues to behave same way, I will advice you to snub her too....
Women hate to be snubbed, with time, she will be the one Coming to start a conversation with you.

You are not getting any younger, I will tell to find someone that will be compatible and understand you.

Clemzy16:
Maybe dude has the same issue, and needs urgent answer.

Impossicant, this is copied word to word, even if them be twin I no gree

JeffreyJamez:
How old are you again?

Badt mouth.... morning sweetest

charijee:
Badt mouth.... morning sweetest

Morning boo

JeffreyJamez:


Morning boo

You've forgotten bout me ba?....*moody*

charijee:
You've forgotten bout me ba?....*moody*

I've not joor... just not in the best of moods this morning.

JeffreyJamez:


I've not joor... just not in the best of moods this morning.

What's wrong sugarplum?

charijee:
What's wrong sugarplum?

a family friend died this morning

JeffreyJamez:


a family friend died this morning

so sorry for d loss... RIP to d dead

JeffreyJamez:


a family friend died this morning

Eiyah sorry baby.......don't take it too hard on yourself.....God knows best......accept my condolences

Cheriepet:


so sorry for d loss... RIP to d dead

Mrs 3D......I dey hail o

charijee:
Eiyah sorry baby.......don't take it too hard on yourself.....God knows best......accept my condolences

thanks love

Cheriepet:

so sorry for d loss... RIP to d dead

thanks dear

ronald4lif:



Impossicant, this is copied word to word, even if them be twin I no gree

Abegi free me jor. Why you want pour sand sand for my garri?

Op, what I think you shud do is this, one day, meet up with her, *don't act weird* tell her 'water under the bridge' forget everything I have told you, pretend like it never happened. Then take a walk from her and don't ever expect anything from her. See the problem is that, she knws you wud do anything to get her attention, so therefore she will torment you. Best game plan is to act like you dnt even knw her. In fact, totally treat her like she doesn't exist and may God help you

I think you should let her know you didn't mean to offend her when you said those stuff that even though you like her you respect that she has a man but you are a guy and you had to try if you could win her. Maybe you also let her know you would like a cordial working relationship with her as in no more malice.

akpos4uall:


Abegi free me jor. Why you want pour sand sand for my garri?

Brother no vex ya, na slip of fingers

The girl go be like,

mesoade:
The girl go be like,

Meaning?

Seriously, everything the lady did and said was to change some part of U that seemed weird, the only way U can gain your respect back is trying to be cool with urself, act normal in her presence and absence, be friendly with people, be calm and approachable.

In fact just look at the bright side that u've met someone who told U the bitter truth about U and ur relationship with others, it's possible that's all she's got to offer in ur life and she has done dt, what's left for U is to better urself and let her realize that if not for someone like her, you couldn't have been a different person.

She might not spend the rest of her life with U but she has actually changed something in U that might remain there for the rest of ur life. It takes guts for a lady to be close to U that much and tell U the bitter truth, never treat her badly or ignore her coz she deserves time and patience from U the way she had patience with ur attitudes.

All the very best.

charijee:
Mrs 3D......I dey hail o

Mrs JJ n my unborn niece Osila i hail too

JeffreyJamez:


thanks love

thanks dear

U're welcome sweet

ronald4lif:


Brother no vex ya, na slip of fingers

No mind me. You were right all along. Actually it is the same me. I just wanted to receive more views and also get a link that I can easily get back to in the future unlike on facebook.

akpos4uall:

No mind me. You were right all along. Actually it is the same me. I just wanted to receive more views and also get a link that I can easily get back to in the future unlike on facebook.

op,your problem is yourself,you better don't come here pretending like you don't knw what you do and if you wanna know what made you hate women and why you are suffering from from a psychological disorder state(DEPRESSION) I would like you to read this:https://www.nairaland.com/1964866/how-know-chronic-masturbator-masturbatress

CHARLYX9:
op,your problem is yourself,you better don't come here pretending like you don't knw what you do and if you wanna know what made you hate women and why you are suffering from from a psychological disorder state(DEPRESSION) I would like you to read this:https://www.nairaland.com/1964866/how-know-chronic-masturbator-masturbatress

Keep up with your good job, Chronic Masturbator/Masturbatress Detector