What does it take to be a Mama's Boy (is there something wrong with being one?)

Are you a Mama's Boy? If so, then your help is needed in this topic. Another discusison has brought up the issue of Mama's boys - particularly in a not so great light. Men who give equal time to their mom and girlfriend are typically labeled Mama' boys (derisively) by their - I would guess - ex girlfriends. Is there something really wrong with this? Are there different levels of Mama's boyness? Someone, please educate me.

Well, this is an interesting topic.

My definition of a momma's boy does not end at a man calling to speak to his mother. I would say that it is a man that would put his whole life away for her, including his wife.

Example:

A man asking/seeking approval of his girlfriend from his mother. If she says no, it doesn't matter how much he likes his girlfriend, he's dumping her.

If a man has a date with his wife but his mom calls and asks him to come over and change a light bulb and he blows off his wife to do it: he's a momma's boy

If he asks his mom before he does anything although he is in his late 20's, 30's, or 40's: he's a momma's boy

Does this make sense?

I am a mama's boy, being the last child she likes to keeps an eye on me, on whatever i do, she calls me like every 6 hrs to ask how well i am doing or if i am in need. I do like the attention but sometymes it pisses me off, my elder brother thinks i am being pampared up till date. I do seek my mom's permission before dating, i dont think its wrong.

It's not wrong to ask permission before dating, especially if you're still under her roof, but for a 30 year old? That's pushing it

yeah i understand you.

you're a mama's boy when your whole life centers around what your mother wants... even in your relationships

Just like vexxy said, mama's boys are those guyz that can't do a damn thing without their mom's knowledge. It's good to talk to your mom and all, but there are some stuff a man has to keep to himself. We know she's your mom and that u love her and we'll never come close to takin her place in your heart, but hell! do u have to tell her every little thing ur girl does? Personally, i can't stand them.

I'm momma's boy and husband!

liar, liar, pants on fire!

it's really annoying and words can't express how i feel about it! all kids should be treated equally and fairly!.

why should only the last kids get/do whatever they want while the older ones suffer.
if nddy was my little brother, he'd be dead. 
i can't wait for my mom to leave for work so i can teach him the lesson of his life. everyday he goes to my room and steals/misplaces my stuff if he doesn't turn the place upside down in the first place when i'm not around and i can't tell my mom because she's not going to do anything about it anyways and that's if she doesn't blame me for not keeping my things properly.

the little spoilt slowpoke got SUSPENDED from school for fighting and nothing happened at home. not even a yell!!! i'd be dead if something like that happened with me.

i always make sure i discipline him a lot so he doesn't turn into something bad when he grows up since my mom doesn't want to do that.

take it easy Wes, he'll get his reward in due time

i don't want a bad kid for a brother.
if he wasn't my brother that would be a different case entirely.

A mama's boy in my opinion is a boy that is tied to the strings of his mama's apron. A boy that refuses to grow up to be a man. still dependent on her for the air he breathes. his mummy says you wont marry till you are 50, you and your wife will leave with us at home, your wife must cook rice for breakfast etc. i have a friend who is married to a mummy's boy. the mum actually dictates how much he gives his wife for food per month. no big deal with your mum knowing the 411 but a boy has to grow up to be a man. personally i dislike mama's boys

WesleyanA:

it's really annoying and words can't express how i feel about it! all kids should be treated equally and fairly!.

why should only the last kids get/do whatever they want while the older ones suffer.
if nddy was my little brother, he'd be dead. 
i can't wait for my mom to leave for work so i can teach him the lesson of his life. everyday he goes to my room and steals/misplaces my stuff if he doesn't turn the place upside down in the first place when i'm not around and i can't tell my mom because she's not going to do anything about it anyways and that's if she doesn't blame me for not keeping my things properly.

the little spoilt slowpoke got SUSPENDED from school for fighting and nothing happened at home. not even a yell!!! i'd be dead if something like that happened with me.

i always make sure i discipline him a lot so he doesn't turn into something bad when he grows up since my mom doesn't want to do that.

You sound exactly like my elder Brother, he gets annoyed when things like that happen. I never got cautioned when i was suspended from school twice for fighting,they only asked what happened and that ended there. But my brother's case he only had a phone from school for insulting a girl.

To be a mama's boy simply means that u dont have a will of your own,

can't take the right initiative at the right time and possibly dependin

wholly on ya mom for evrythin in life.

That's my own candid opinion.

Even if my mother was the president of the country, she would still discipline us as she's meant to. We are all disciplined accordingly at home. I am even the most punished at home for offences, though I'm the last born!

Being one means to be totally dependent on your Mum for every decision you take in life. This is very bad and ruins home, most especially where a guy needs to be man in his home, but depends on 'thus saith my mama" always. It kills one's self ego and makes you cheap.

Let's be self dependent and be yourself my brothers

okie dokie mama's boy.

@ the OP, i watched this french movie where the guy was kind of retared so he depended on his mom for everything. he kept the painting of his house in his suitcase everyday along with some toys his mom made his from when he was young.
i wonder what his wife would do if a person like that gets married. the guy in the movie didn't get to marry in the end because he died.

I love mama's boys. Not mama mama boys ohh. Just guys that know their mom matters in some of the decisions they make. Not boys that ask their mother whether or not they can kiss me.

I hate Mama's boy. They are gross. Actually I am dating one (kinda of) now. I am thinking about dumping him. He is a very manly man. Tall and sporty. Almost 25 but still live in with his mama. Have dinner and chat everyday, his mama calls him very often. I doubt his mama still does his laundry. He seems really care about what his mama thinks! Spare me, almost 25....you gotta have your own life. He has lived in that damn fxxx house for 20 yrs with his "great mama".....come on....it's ok to get out and make more new friends. He doesn't have many friends. cuz he spends most of time with his mama.

Last saturday, just because his mama ordered food for him, so he blowed off a date with me. Because he said it's rude to not to eat the food at home with his mam if his mama already had food for him. Watever. But I like him a lot, but eventually i will dump him.

I JUST CANNOT STAND MAMA'S BOY. Actually his mama is a nice lady even weights about 300 pounds. I just simplily think mama's boy especially after 21 yrs old still live in with mama is gross. He explained due to the financial problem and high rent. I understand that, but still, you should be independend even living in with your mama.

Just please don't show too much emotions with your mama in front of other women. It's crappy!

Dang girl, seems to me your man[n you mayb] got some issues. He's 25 and still living with his mama, wow! wish dat was my mom n e wayz, don't dump him just like that though, talk to him and see watz up k. By the way, welcome to Nairaland hun

I know I may have issues. I am a little demanding. Got spoiled from last Boyfriend. I just don't get it. Some men would rather spend more time with his old mama than his hot/young date he has lived in the same house with mama for his whole life.....dont you feel bored His biggest excuse is no money. But everybody starts his life w/o money!Also, he just got back from overseas study this year, so he is not ready to move out. Never believe men's excuses.

I talked to him about this couple times and he just said I am jealous. I admit that, but the same time, I dont get it. Maybe I am from a very independent family. My family is not tightly attached to each other, but it doesn't mean you dont care or love each other.

Today is his mother's b-day. I have no comlaints he ditched me again(for his mum). But tomorrow actually is my B-day, he didn't seem care. only said: oh..you never told me..i will buy you a b-day dinner next week. Who cares about his/her B-day dinner after one week later. Ridiculous!

I am not planning to dump him now...cuz we somehow fit each other on other way. But every woman will dump a man if he doesn't put her at first place. That's just how things work for me.

Thx you for replay.

@boocheese, u are sounding like you are jealous of his mother or something. I see absolutely nothing wrong in all you've listed that your boyfriend has done.

I don't think she's jealous of wanting her man to spend time with her on her birthday, every girl wants that. Now when he acts like he dosen't care, that's a problem. @boocheese, since you know u're demanding, u might want to cut down on that attitude, cos that might be responsible for some of your problems, i would ask you to talk things[again] over with him[and seriously talk], so the both of you at least have an idea what you guyz want. He needs to act like a man and you need to be clear on what you want from him. remember, bossing him around won't help.

He runs off to his mum's birthday and tell you yours can come up next wk.(its not as if the days were clashing). doesnt sound like a love present relationship if you know what i mean

@boocheese, If he's just a casual boyfriend, then I see absolutely nothing wrong in his acts. But if he's ur husband-to-be, then u've got issues to discuss.

the guy is a sisi

I have used worse words than that on him!

I had a big fight with him yesterday (on my birthday, I can't even believe it). It's not mama's issue anymore. On my bday, no flower, no chocolate, no wishes...he didn't call until I called him to ask what the heck he has been doing. He explained his car is broken and he thought i was with my friends and busy. I told him earlier i would be busy on my b-day with friends, otherwise i have nothing to do. He didn't even suggest any idea to celebrate after knowing it.

I am so tired of lecturing him and act like a b**ch. BTW, i am 4 yrs old than him. i guess that explains. I kinda figure out our problems: 1. he is poor (cause his dependence) 2. no trust between us (i still go out with other guys, but he is my favor). If there is no financial support, it's hard to maintain a relationship in 21 century.

I guess you guys are right, I should be less bossy and more relaxed, cuz he is maybe just my casual BF or a date.

Interesting. How old are you?

I have used worse words than that on him!

A man can't love a woman who has insulted his pride with words like "sisi". Get over him, he's not going to want to marry you. GO and find another boyfriend.

I dont care about marrying him. I am not looking for a husband or planning to get marry. even though I am 29 now , I just want to have a good time. So if a man doesn't do his job, then he deserves bad words.