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Reminds me of my university days, I advice u politely ask him why he left his roommate, no matter d answer he gives,tell him to go and sort things out with his roommate. However, you should do it smartly,u don't want to lose a friend because of bedspace.

I had such a friend last semester but i couldn't tell her to leave because she didn't have anywhere to stay , i asked her to join me during the first semester examples because she was coming from town which was quite tedious and she didn't have enough time to read only for her to come back the next semester without telling me :nd at the end became a parasite (sorry for using that word i strictly told her at the end that she should make sure she applies for space this time around because i wasn't going to accomodate her at all.



Sorry for the story telling op but your case is different , he has a place to stay so politely ask him why he wasn't saying there and tell him to sort whatever issue he has with his roomate afterall he should have paid for the room already.

Trottle:
Evening house, This is a situation that caught me off guard. Am a quiet person who loves solitude and personal space. But I have this trait in me (am too accomodating), and it seem to have been capitalized on. In the begining of a new session in uni, i purposely rented a self contain to enjoy privacy, which I enjoyed for the first half of the semester, then as exams were getting closer, me and my frnds do engage in group reading but a particular friend made it a habit to read and stay over and i would just overlook it that it is exam wahala, and he charge his phone at my place, but before exam he charges and leave around 9-10 pm. The semester ended with him staying in my house throughout. Now a new semester, and this guy caught me unawares and slowly brought his belongings in. And since the last few days(he has a flat he shares with his roommate) have been pondering on the issue, how do I deal with it ?

Tell him to start contributing, rather than freeloading.

Ask him to pay upfront, half the rent, and to also buy foodstuff and toiletries in equal measure. That should scare him off. If you come across as being to placid, people will take advantage of you and use you like their doormat.

Irritating spongers.

I guess it's best you politely but firmly ask him to leave, he's invading your privacy. Still, you could invite a family friend or even your gf if she's amenable to that, for a supposed visit. He'd have to clear out and hopefully stay out!

^^^^I doubt he will have that kind of girlfriend. I could be wrong though.

Op I feel your pain. Same thing happened to me, from lemme help this guy until he gets on his feet. The guy ended up stating with me for 2years. And he knew I liked staying alone but didn't care. He would eat.my food and not contribute a dime to the upkeep of the place. When I finally asked him to go it turned to big quarrel as if he was doing me a favour by staying.

My advice. Send him on his way now. If you can't do it politely do it with gra-gra. Such people will still vex for you even if you let him stay for free for five years.

Tell him ur dad or sponsor is coming to visit n'he warned u to have no roommate

EfemenaXY:


Tell him to start contributing, rather than freeloading. Thank you for the input Ma.

Ask him to pay upfront, half the rent, and to also buy foodstuff and toiletries in equal measure. That should scare him off. If you come across as being to placid, people will take advantage of you and use you like their doormat.

Irritating spongers.

Thank you very much Ma

elantraceey:
I had such a friend last semester but i couldn't tell her to leave because she didn't have anywhere to stay , i asked her to join me during the first semester examples because she was coming from town which was quite tedious and she didn't have enough time to read only for her to come back the next semester without telling me :nd at the end became a parasite (sorry for using that word i strictly told her at the end that she should make sure she applies for space this time around because i wasn't going to accomodate her at all.



Sorry for the story telling op but your case is different , he has a place to stay so politely ask him why he wasn't saying there and tell him to sort whatever issue he has with his roomate afterall he should have paid for the room already.

thanks for the input. Really appreciate it.

5minsmadness:
^^^^I doubt he will have that kind of girlfriend. I could be wrong though.

Op I feel your pain. Same thing happened to me, from lemme help this guy until he gets on his feet. The guy ended up stating with me for 2years. And he knew I liked staying alone but didn't care. He would eat.my food and not contribute a dime to the upkeep of the place. When I finally asked him it turned to big quarrel as if he was doing me a favour by staying.

My advice. Send him in his way now. If you can't do it politely do it with gra-gra. Such people will still vex for you even if you let him stay for free for five years.

Thanks Oga. How do you know that I do not have such girlfriend sir?

estheremma:
Tell him ur dad or sponsor is coming to visit n'he warned u to have no roommate

Thank you for your nice input.

Are you sure they were roommates or he was also parasiting? What will make a man leave a space he paid for to be a guest in another man's house. Nna checkiye that thing biko...

Trottle:
Thanks Oga. How do you know that I do not have such girlfriend sir?

Lol
I know your kind of person. For your mind now you go dey feel sorry for the guy, dey feel guilty say you no wan pursue am.

Pursue am Jo! He won't add anything to your life and a good friend will know when he is inconveniencing you.

@mrs efemena...long time.how z the fam?......annie.

"Don't always start what you cannot finish/condone"...



It's still too early... Bring it to his notice that you appreciate your privacy, and hate being invaded.. Politely but firmly give him your reasons.. I'm sure he'll get the message...

Tell him to leave. Kai I really try to understand why we put up with things we don't like. A guy forces his way uninvited to your house simply tell him you didn't make plans with him let him leave what sort of rudeness is that just move into someone's house no permission

I wanted to say something on this thread but I will bite my tongue

OP don't keep resentment in your heart when you are not comfortable with a situation. Let him know that he is making you uncomfortable. You can try the 'guardian sponsor/parent' is coming around route if you want to be diplomatic but if not just tell him you don't want a roommate.Shikena.

I prefer this wise counsel by esther,if you are a shy kind of person like me pls use her own advice .let him know your parents allowed you the money for one room apartment because they do not want you to stay with some one else .your parents are coming and will never be happy to find a stranger staying with you.pls do vict now before its get tom late and people around begin to see you as a proud and unaccomodating person

estheremma:
Tell him ur dad or sponsor is coming to visit n'he warned u to have no roommate

Let him tell you if he intends being your roommate.

ahnie:
@mrs efemena...long time.how z the fam?......annie.

My sister, longest time.

We dey o! How are you and yours?

You call that a friend OP! That is not a friend. He does not care about you at all.

Gbam . EfemenaXY is right and if she's proving stubborn buy Ghana must go , pack all her things inside drop it in front of your room and change the keys and leave the house. Her number 6will tell her she has overstayed her welcome. When she even comes sef she won't see you to start having any discussion with you or putting you on a guilt trip