Hi nairalanders, abeg I need ur advice. I av a guy that I am in luv wit, av taken him to my parent and he has taken me to his parent. For two years now we have been dating. I stay in his house anytime I am in the town he resides. Now I av gotten a job in the town he resides and I am staying wit him. My parents are insisting that we do our wedding in my church but for almost a year plus, the church has been telling me to pray for God's guidance and to me it is like a dead end. The guy is not a member of my church and there is a brother in my church that has proposed to me which I turned down the proposals. The church is not ready to do the wedding but they are not voicing that out but by their action I know and my parents are scared of discipline from the church that is why they insist on wedding in my church.
Infact it got to an extent that elders in the church called my parent and told them that I was not brought up in the way of the Lord basically because I am not marrying a member of the church.
I dont know what to do, pls I need ur advice.
Thanks.

I dont understand why the church is insisting on choosing your life mate for you. Since when do they know what is best for you.

Really did God come down and speak to the paster and tell him who you should marry. If so ask him to send God to you to tell you because you will marry the person that you feel is best for you.

You have to lay down next to this man not him. You have to cook for your husband not him. You have to cater to your husband not him. You have to take care of your husband not him. You have to be happy in your marriage not him.

I cant stand it when others from the outside try to dictate to young women or men who they should and should not marry. They wont be found when everything is going wrong in the marriage and thier only advice will be to pray.

The church is not going to spend the rest of their/Its life with you,you are the one going to spend your life with ur partner,so ur choice of partner shudnt be the church's business.
I suggest go get a license and get married in some other church.