I have been single for over a year now,and my friends both in my hostel,dept,home have been bugging me over why am I single,am I normal,am I a lesbian,do I have a spirit hubby preventing me frm being in a relationship.Its seriously annoying ,they have hooked up wit guys number of times but have turned them down with flimsy excuses like not tall enough or too smallish.Am a pretty tall lady though am not interested in height or physical appearances ,those are what I used turning down toasters so they stop bugging me,this made my friends to think am being selectively main reason for me is I haven't met a guy I feel a connection or a spark with, most times I try but I end losing interest in them. My older friends I confided in think I should start a relationship first and love or feelings will come later But what I end up dating a guy and the love or feelings doesn't come,do I end dumping him or continue in a loveless relationship?my friends don't understand my reasons so I just keep it to myself.But for now am content with being single for now.My friends are the ones making it a big deal out of it like being single is a crime.Abeg nairalanders is it a big deal or abnormal to be a single?

winnieberry:
I have been single for over a year now,and my friends both in my hostel,dept,home have been bugging me over why am I single,am I normal,am I a lesbian,do I have a spirit hubby preventing me frm being in a relationship.Its seriously annoying ,they have hooked up wit guys number of times but have turned them down with flimsy excuses like not tall enough or too smallish.Am a pretty tall lady though am not interested in height or physical appearances ,those are what I used turning down toasters so they stop bugging me,this made my friends to think am being selectively main reason for me is I haven't met a guy I feel a connection or a spark with, most times I try but I end losing interest in them. My older friends I confided in think I should start a relationship first and love or feelings will come later But what I end up dating a guy and the love or feelings doesn't come,do I end dumping him or continue in a loveless relationship?my friends don't understand my reasons so I just keep it to myself.But for now am content with being single for now.My friends are the ones making it a big deal out of it like being single is a crime.Abeg nairalanders is it a big deal or abnormal to be a single?

1st Crime you are a kini?? is your fada a woman.... secondly you are not normal at all..... i can't remember some1 with a spiritual husband been called normal. lastly come i won't give you flimsy excuse...

is because you know what you want to be in the future and so you dont have time for any relationship

It means nothing

Hope toaster dey come ur way sha?

[quote author=Sanchez01 post=31773823][color=#000099]. Am an intovert but not the deep type,I hang out with friends most times,watch movies a lot and yh I get a lot of toasters a lot ,am a fine babe oh, but I haven't seen a guy I feel a connection with or feel attracted to.Btw sanchez tanks for ur good advice.Lots of kisses

No it never a big deal

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Then it is not call a deal anymore
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[quote author=oloyolo post=31774538]That is the major problems with nigerians.A lady chooses to be single for. Period of time andx because of that she is gonna be single till 35 ,always egging ladies to date and marry as if people who are in relationships are always happy.There are ladies who are 35 and above and still single,does it mean they choose to be single while there are ladies above 35, who are still single ,and yet have been in countless relationships with guyz.Team single fr me now to save myself fr d stress and heartbreak of relationship ,I no fit stress myself for the main time

at what age

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Miss I only answered ur question and went further to explain more

That was all I did

I don't think I deserve. To be tortured with this long quote


Am also In team single until the wright time

But konji na bastard

@op am very sure you'll find your Mr. Right on romanceland but you should have at least put your pic on your profile now in order to facilitate things

















Farano come and do the needful she's looking for man

*sighs*

Don't worry, it will become a big deal when u approach menopause

Your story happen to be same as mine.
I tried but I know its not by trying. Though mine is as a result of a girl I totally loved but left me broken . she even called me a brokeass. So I decided to just live life slowly and hustle. Now am okay, but finding it easy to start over.
I don't want to force it. Forget what friends say, make a decision and stick to it. And make plenty friends.
Let's hook up and turn up small. That's if you don't mind.

Anyone can be in a relationship but not everyone will stay happy. Find who and what makes you happy and don't dare settle for less. Forget what your friend thinks. It's your happiness at stake at d end of the day.

it not big deal and remember marriage too is not by force but trust Nigerians Na, if you are not married or dating they will say Na person dey follow you.
if you are happy been single for now, no problem..
anytime you are ready you can date..
don't let anybody make you do what you don't want to or what you will regret..

If you are happy with your relationship status presently,it fine and if getting a boyfriend will make you happy good

winnieberry:
I have been single for over a year now,and my friends both in my hostel,dept,home have been bugging me over why am I single,am I normal,am I a lesbian,do I have a spirit hubby preventing me frm being in a relationship.Its seriously annoying ,they have hooked up wit guys number of times but have turned them down with flimsy excuses like not tall enough or too smallish.Am a pretty tall lady though am not interested in height or physical appearances ,those are what I used turning down toasters so they stop bugging me,this made my friends to think am being selectively main reason for me is I haven't met a guy I feel a connection or a spark with, most times I try but I end losing interest in them. My older friends I confided in think I should start a relationship first and love or feelings will come later But what I end up dating a guy and the love or feelings doesn't come,do I end dumping him or continue in a loveless relationship?my friends don't understand my reasons so I just keep it to myself.But for now am content with being single for now.My friends are the ones making it a big deal out of it like being single is a crime.Abeg nairalanders is it a big deal or abnormal to be a single?

miss I see your still single after breaking up with your said Bf.

now I know there are times you feel lonely and wished you had someone close. it happens we are all humans and there's this longing for a companion.

you said your friends try to hook you up with some guys but for some reason u don't love them. well I can't jsr fall in love with someone like dat. I for one believe love has to grow it just doesn't happen overnight.

look for a guy u like and try and see if you can develop it to something serious. if it doesn't work out try again... who ever said you must have one relationship b4 u find that love of your life.

in the process those relationships would have taught you a lot.

Sanchez01:
There's no deal in being single. As a matter of fact, it often comes with peace of mind, the freedom to do things at whenever and associate without thinking of how the other person would feel. It boosts one's self confidence if it is well dealt with. I think you should engage yourself with activities, hang out more and stay conscious of what attracts you to a guy. If you're an extrovert, then it shouldn't be much of a surprise but if you're extroverted, then there's a problem. As long as guys come your way, then I guess the decision to remain single has been as a result not seeing those things you want in a guy.

You have a brain............that works.
Thumbs up.

Houseofglam7:




You have a brain............that works.
Thumbs up.

Thanks.

Its no big deal dearie! Buh as u dey do Ashebi 4 ur fellow girls wey dey marry every saturday u lyk am?

winnieberry:
I have been single for over a year now,and my friends both in my hostel,dept,home have been bugging me over why am I single,am I normal,am I a lesbian,do I have a spirit hubby preventing me frm being in a relationship.Its seriously annoying ,they have hooked up wit guys number of times but have turned them down with flimsy excuses like not tall enough or too smallish.Am a pretty tall lady though am not interested in height or physical appearances ,those are what I used turning down toasters so they stop bugging me,this made my friends to think am being selectively main reason for me is I haven't met a guy I feel a connection or a spark with, most times I try but I end losing interest in them. My older friends I confided in think I should start a relationship first and love or feelings will come later But what I end up dating a guy and the love or feelings doesn't come,do I end dumping him or continue in a loveless relationship?my friends don't understand my reasons so I just keep it to myself.But for now am content with being single for now.My friends are the ones making it a big deal out of it like being single is a crime.Abeg nairalanders is it a big deal or abnormal to be a single?

Most Nigerians just having a very [b]un[/b]healthy obsession with relationship and marriage. If you want to have your peace as a single person, you must migrate to a saner part of the world and stay far way from Nigerians. I have been blessed to travel and live in various parts of the world and interact with people from various cultures but I have never come across a group of people who have such an unhealthy obsession with relationship and marriage like Nigerians and it is disgusting to say the least. There is nothing wrong being single. Nigerian bred men pressure their women to go into relationships because many of them (men) are sex addicts and know that they can only get sex on a constant basis without paying an arm and a leg for it if they start dating. If less women date, whom will they have sex with so as to empty their spermatozoa-filled scrotum?

Nigerian-bred women pressure their fellow Nigerian women into relationships because many of them are in marital/relationship bondage where they are treated like glorified house helps and sex slaves by their men. You know what they say: "Misery likes company." So they need to pressure other women into relationships so that they can have more members to their misery club where misery rules supreme. Later on, you will hear them admitting that marital life is not easy. After spending 8 or more hours at work, they have to pick up their kids, come home, start preparing dinner while oga stretches his legs on the center table in the living room watching football. When everyone is done eating, they must wash the dishes, clean the kitchen and just as they throw their exhausted selves in bed and want to sleep, oga will tap their tired shoulders, command them to spread open those legs and ram his snake into their vargina for God-knows-how-long. Same applies to the single women with boyfriends who play glorified house helps to them. So, you think they have it easy?

Now think of you the single lady. You cook when you want, eat when you want, you don't need to worry about STDs/STIs because you are not under any pressure to share bacteria-filled bodily fluid when anyone. You can have a good night's rest without anyone tapping your shoulders after a long day to ask for sex. You bother about washing only your clothes and no one else's. You can come and go as you please without having to explain your whereabouts to anyone. You don't have to explain why your phone was switched off for a brief period of time.

Now tell me why they won't be secretly jealous of you and try to get you to be in a relationship so that you can turn into a glorified house help and sex slave like the rest of them?

Don't bow to their pressure. Shikena!

[quote author=winnieberry post=31776281][/quote]good for you,at least your pusy go rest,too much pounding is good sha.

Fulaboy:
@op am very sure you'll find your Mr. Right on romanceland but you should have at least put your pic on your profile now in order to facilitate things

















Farano come and do the needful she's looking for man

lol

dasparrow:


Most Nigerians just having a very [b]un[/b]healthy obsession with relationship and marriage. If you want to have your peace as a single person, you must migrate to a saner part of the world and stay far way from Nigerians. I have been blessed to travel and live in various parts of the world and interact with people from various cultures but I have never come across a group of people who have such an unhealthy obsession with relationship and marriage like Nigerians and it is disgusting to say the least. There is nothing wrong being single. Nigerian bred men pressure their women to go into relationships because many of them (men) are sex addicts and know that they can only get sex on a constant basis without paying an arm and a leg for it if they start dating. If less women date, whom will they have sex with so as to empty their spermatozoa-filled scrotum?

Nigerian-bred women pressure their fellow Nigerian women into relationships because many of them are in marital/relationship bondage where they are treated like glorified house helps and sex slaves by their men. You know what they say: "Misery likes company." So they need to pressure other women into relationships so that they can have more members to their misery club where misery rules supreme. Later on, you will hear them admitting that marital life is not easy. After spending 8 or more hours at work, they have to pick up their kids, come home, start preparing dinner while oga stretches his legs on the center table in the living room watching football. When everyone is done eating, they must wash the dishes, clean the kitchen and just as they throw their exhausted selves in bed and want to sleep, oga will tap their tired shoulders, command them to spread open those legs and ram his snake into their vargina for God-knows-how-long. Same applies to the single women with boyfriends who play glorified house helps to them. So, you think they have it easy?

Now think of you the single lady. You cook when you want, eat when you want, you don't need to worry about STDs/STIs because you are not under any pressure to share bacteria-filled bodily fluid when anyone. You can have a good night's rest without anyone tapping your shoulders after a long day to ask for sex. You bother about washing only your clothes and no one else's. You can come and go as you please without having to explain your whereabouts to anyone. You don't have to explain why your phone was switched off for a brief period of time.

Now tell me why they won't be secretly jealous of you and try to get you to be in a relationship so that you can turn into a glorified house help and sex slave like the rest of them?

Don't bow to their pressure. Shikena!

hmmmm

winnieberry:
I have been single for over a year now,and my friends both in my hostel,dept,home have been bugging me over why am I single,am I normal,am I a lesbian,do I have a spirit hubby preventing me frm being in a relationship.Its seriously annoying ,they have hooked up wit guys number of times but have turned them down with flimsy excuses like not tall enough or too smallish.Am a pretty tall lady though am not interested in height or physical appearances ,those are what I used turning down toasters so they stop bugging me,this made my friends to think am being selectively main reason for me is I haven't met a guy I feel a connection or a spark with, most times I try but I end losing interest in them. My older friends I confided in think I should start a relationship first and love or feelings will come later But what I end up dating a guy and the love or feelings doesn't come,do I end dumping him or continue in a loveless relationship?my friends don't understand my reasons so I just keep it to myself.But for now am content with being single for now.My friends are the ones making it a big deal out of it like being single is a crime.Abeg nairalanders is it a big deal or abnormal to be a single?

add me on what

Wetin konsan fish for raincoat. Its no big deal jare becos its never a good bargain.

[quote author=winnieberry post=31776281][/quote] beloveth, the answer to ur question is , u re yet to find a rich toaster with a nice ride and a good job.....dnt come here and start trying to deceive us...u re still an undergraduate and of course a learner

dasparrow:


Most Nigerians just having a very [b]un[/b]healthy obsession with relationship and marriage. If you want to have your peace as a single person, you must migrate to a saner part of the world and stay far way from Nigerians. I have been blessed to travel and live in various parts of the world and interact with people from various cultures but I have never come across a group of people who have such an unhealthy obsession with relationship and marriage like Nigerians and it is disgusting to say the least. There is nothing wrong being single. Nigerian bred men pressure their women to go into relationships because many of them (men) are sex addicts and know that they can only get sex on a constant basis without paying an arm and a leg for it if they start dating. If less women date, whom will they have sex with so as to empty their spermatozoa-filled scrotum?

Nigerian-bred women pressure their fellow Nigerian women into relationships because many of them are in marital/relationship bondage where they are treated like glorified house helps and sex slaves by their men. You know what they say: "Misery likes company." So they need to pressure other women into relationships so that they can have more members to their misery club where misery rules supreme. Later on, you will hear them admitting that marital life is not easy. After spending 8 or more hours at work, they have to pick up their kids, come home, start preparing dinner while oga stretches his legs on the center table in the living room watching football. When everyone is done eating, they must wash the dishes, clean the kitchen and just as they throw their exhausted selves in bed and want to sleep, oga will tap their tired shoulders, command them to spread open those legs and ram his snake into their vargina for God-knows-how-long. Same applies to the single women with boyfriends who play glorified house helps to them. So, you think they have it easy?

Now think of you the single lady. You cook when you want, eat when you want, you don't need to worry about STDs/STIs because you are not under any pressure to share bacteria-filled bodily fluid when anyone. You can have a good night's rest without anyone tapping your shoulders after a long day to ask for sex. You bother about washing only your clothes and no one else's. You can come and go as you please without having to explain your whereabouts to anyone. You don't have to explain why your phone was switched off for a brief period of time.

Now tell me why they won't be secretly jealous of you and try to get you to be in a relationship so that you can turn into a glorified house help and sex slave like the rest of them?

Don't bow to their pressure. Shikena!

That's just the way it is. The would-be-caring friends are not so much concerned about the healthiness of your love life as they would like to appear. It is a veiled expression of jealousy at seeing someone being free of ties. They want to see you too wearing melancholic faces that often comes as a result of emotional rollercoaster evident in nowadays lovey-dovey relationships, thereby dragging you down.

A lot of people lack the discipline to be and remain single for a considerable length of time. They are always wanting attention; yearning for vallidation, feeling incomplete. It all has been said by Mr. Dasprrow. Thank you sir.

So, please, remain calm, poised and independent as usual and be true to yourself. Remain blessed.

Are you getting laid?

winnieberry:
I have been single for over a year now,and my friends both in my hostel,dept,home have been bugging me over why am I single,am I normal,am I a lesbian,do I have a spirit hubby preventing me frm being in a relationship.Its seriously annoying ,they have hooked up wit guys number of times but have turned them down with flimsy excuses like not tall enough or too smallish.Am a pretty tall lady though am not interested in height or physical appearances ,those are what I used turning down toasters so they stop bugging me,this made my friends to think am being selectively main reason for me is I haven't met a guy I feel a connection or a spark with, most times I try but I end losing interest in them. My older friends I confided in think I should start a relationship first and love or feelings will come later But what I end up dating a guy and the love or feelings doesn't come,do I end dumping him or continue in a loveless relationship?my friends don't understand my reasons so I just keep it to myself.But for now am content with being single for now.My friends are the ones making it a big deal out of it like being single is a crime.Abeg nairalanders is it a big deal or abnormal to be a single?

It's not a big deal

Lol... it's really funny...
*at some point in my life*
Adaeze do you now have a bf?

Me: errrm nope.

Why?

Me: uhmm nothing.

Don't be too picky oh... you need a relationship to know how marriage works... when will you be ready?... even if you aint ready for marriage, just date na... and bla bla bla.

Being a single gal in this country is almost like a crime

Well, just be yourself and never do anything because people expect it of you and take your time. yes people are gonna shout up and down how you're gonna be 30 and unmarried but who cares? We're all gon die anyway

dasparrow:

Most Nigerians just having a very [b]un[/b]healthy obsession with relationship and marriage. If you want to have your peace as a single person, you must migrate to a saner part of the world and stay far way from Nigerians. I have been blessed to travel and live in various parts of the world and interact with people from various cultures but I have never come across a group of people who have such an unhealthy obsession with relationship and marriage like Nigerians and it is disgusting to say the least. There is nothing wrong being single. Nigerian bred men pressure their women to go into relationships because many of them (men) are sex addicts and know that they can only get sex on a constant basis without paying an arm and a leg for it if they start dating. If less women date, whom will they have sex with so as to empty their spermatozoa-filled scrotum?
Nigerian-bred women pressure their fellow Nigerian women into relationships because many of them are in marital/relationship bondage where they are treated like glorified house helps and sex slaves by their men. You know what they say: "Misery likes company." So they need to pressure other women into relationships so that they can have more members to their misery club where misery rules supreme. Later on, you will hear them admitting that marital life is not easy. After spending 8 or more hours at work, they have to pick up their kids, come home, start preparing dinner while oga stretches his legs on the center table in the living room watching football. When everyone is done eating, they must wash the dishes, clean the kitchen and just as they throw their exhausted selves in bed and want to sleep, oga will tap their tired shoulders, command them to spread open those legs and ram his snake into their vargina for God-knows-how-long. Same applies to the single women with boyfriends who play glorified house helps to them. So, you think they have it easy?
Now think of you the single lady. You cook when you want, eat when you want, you don't need to worry about STDs/STIs because you are not under any pressure to share bacteria-filled bodily fluid when anyone. You can have a good night's rest without anyone tapping your shoulders after a long day to ask for sex. You bother about washing only your clothes and no one else's. You can come and go as you please without having to explain your whereabouts to anyone. You don't have to explain why your phone was switched off for a brief period of time.
Now tell me why they won't be secretly jealous of you and try to get you to be in a relationship so that you can turn into a glorified house help and sex slave like the rest of them?
Don't bow to their pressure. Shikena!

You killed it.