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| Singleness by Nobody: 12:10pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
[b]We’ve been taught by the society that it is not good to be single. The pressure that we find even in the church and from family makes us feel uncomfortable if we are single. As a matter of fact, when you turn 25 and you are still single, people will begin to wonder whether you are straight and start asking questions all geared towards making you feel something is wrong with you and you end up getting the idea that you’re not complete until you’re married. That is very wrong. There is nothing like a better half. S/he compliments you and not necessarily completes you. I am a complete man with or without a wife. I like to point out here that the key to successful relationships is knowledge. King Solomon once made a statement: By wisdom a house is built, through understanding it is established. Through knowledge it’s rooms are filled with beautiful treasure". It’s not kissing, sex or love. It’s not even part of it. Most of the people that get divorced still love one another but could not live with each other. Love is not a guarantee for a successful relationship or a successful marriage. If you’re out there and you think you’ll get married to someone who loves you and finally be happy, you’re wrong. Marriage will manifest your defects. Marriage does not solve loneliness problem. It only exposes it. The loneliest place in the world is to be married and not getting along. Marriage actually opens one to a lot of trouble. It’s a sad thing that so many people can’t wait to get into trouble. The most important relationship in life is not interpersonal relationships but intrapersonal relationship. You don’t need to be married to fulfil God’s purpose for your life. There’s nothing like that in the bible. In fact, the opposite is. Marriage is a choice. Not a requirement so, you don’t have to rush things. The more you develop yourself, the more of a blessing you can be to somebody. The more value you add to yourself, the more value you bring to someone’s life. Spend time in adding value to yourself. Learn how to be a blessing to someone. You’ve not done that. Maybe that’s the reason high profile individuals are not attracted to you. If you are below 25 please get busy improving your life and you’ll be too busy to think about marriage. When you get married, you will not be able to do these things because your attention and energy will be divided. It is better to be unmarried and happy than to be happy and depressed. If you ever think you’re depressed because you’re single or unmarried, ask that man or woman next door who’s got problems in his/her marriage. **I laugh in Chinese**  The solution to divorce is not a second marriage. It’s a second chance to get knowledge. Divorce is not the unpardonable sin. If your marriage didn’t work out, you’re not going to hell. God hates divorce but does not hate the divorcee. He only hates it because of what it does to you. Once again, love does not protect you from divorce, knowledge does. Living with a human is an act. You’ve got to learn it else you’ll fail in your marriage no matter how old you are. You are ready for marriage when you have the information not when you have someone. Your marriage is only as good as your single life. If you don’t get knowledge now as a single, you’ve already predicted your marital life. Marriage doesn’t change you. You bring to the marriage what you are. No miracle happens at the altar. If you are broke as a single, you’ll still be broke at the altar. If you are _stupid unmarried, you’ll be _stupid at the altar If you can’t cope unmarried, you still won't cope at the altar If you’re ignorant as a single, you’ll be ignorance dressed up in a suit on your marriage day. Marriage is just like an omelette. It is only as good as the eggs. If any of the egg is bad, it’ll corrupt the others – bad omelette….irrespective of the number of good eggs. Don’t marry a defective egg. You can’t change anybody after marriage. If they don’t change to get you, they’ll never change to keep you. Some men go into marriage with a hammer. They're like.....I'll hammer her to the woman I want her to be. What they don't know is that the woman is coming with a chisel to chisel him into the man of her dreams.  If (s)he has things you can't live with, don't marry him/her.[/b][size=25pt] Invest in your single life! #BeSingleAndHappy![/size] 15 Likes 28 Shares |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:13pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
If i hear say i read that novel wey you write Dat thing is damn long! 3 Likes 35 Shares |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:18pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Charis go marry joor  Okay I read through to the last letter. Where did the inspiration come from?  You're very-very correct though. Nothing to add. AgapeCharis:Enjoy it biko. It's not even easy to be married. The pressure continues, "babe una never wan born?" Okay, you born the first one...they come again "na 5-5yrs you wan dey space them? Born the second one joor" You born 2nd, they come again, "na only two you wan born?" Ahnahn! Kilode  Na your papa I marry. 2 Likes |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:19pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Orijin101:Try and read it. You'll find it interesting. |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:21pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie:I still get few single years to enjoy #SingleAndLovingIt  |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:21pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Ladies abeg dnt do Single and Happy oh! Cos if u do, OYO is ya name! 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Singleness by marieolae(f): 12:22pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
The pressure is real If you're not ready..don't jump into it Marriage is not for everyone, but some Africans detest this. God help us.. 2 Likes |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:23pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:Lol On the contrary, be single and happy and you'll attract better persons to your life |
| Re: Singleness by alberto2k(m): 12:24pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
I swear to seun i didnt read that long epistle  |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:25pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
I understand how u feel charis.that wife u ate expecting will locate ,its a matter of time.it may take months,years,even decades but bliv me she is still coming |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:26pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
marieolae:↑↑ The bolded →→ You deserve a medal |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:26pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
| By the time i finish reading this epistle everybody would have gotten married! Warrizdis?  1 Like 7 Shares |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:26pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:In phenom voice Am not a friend to the groom but ironically am d best man |
| Re: Singleness by Fulaboy(m): 12:27pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Orijin101:Damn you read my mind |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:27pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:Some ladies ll do single et happy until dey reach 37 and then it ll change to single et searching for any kinda man! |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:29pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
marieolae:i can write 700 pages book on that topic I want to marry dz year |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:33pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:Then they were never "single and happy". If they were "single" -- busy living their lives and touching lives positively (and enjoying it), nothing will make them want "any kind" of man. Not forgetting, marriage is not for all like marieolae said. |
| Re: Singleness by naijaboiy: 12:34pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
OGAofBOSS: 1 Like |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:34pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
ipleddge:Lol....You're not serious. |
| Re: Singleness by naijaboiy: 12:35pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
in this kind of thread you just read and learn. Nothing much to contribute. 3 Likes 79 Shares |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:36pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
ipleddge:Oga phenom I'm outta yung6ix lyrics  |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:37pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: And the trouble just keeps multiplying. So sad some can't wait to experience these troubles without proper knowledge on how to handle them. |
| Re: Singleness by akinsadeez(m): 12:41pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
I read the whole thing and I must say it is quite sensible. I even agree with it to an extent. The problem is just that there are ladies who have practiced the 'marriage is not compulsory' mindset and today they are running from church to mosque to Guru Maharaji looking for husband. While it is good for a lady to develop herself she should also not overdo it to the point of being apathetic to marriage because in the society we are, the higher you go, the smaller your options. There is a friend of mine who already has her masters at age 25 and is now thinking of going for her PHD but her parents are vehemently opposed to this. Their thinking is that she is currently not in any relationship and how many men will want to marry a woman who has a doctorate degree so they are currently putting pressure on her to suspend her academic pursuits and think of getting a man. |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:44pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:Lol,just saying good morning to u |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:45pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
ipleddge:Good pm |
| Re: Singleness by akinsadeez(m): 12:48pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
AgapeCharis: Marriage is not for all..... You think spinsterhood is a good or enjoyable thing. Career success can never replace the joy of marriage and a happy home. Rita Dominic is a very successful woman by all accounts but do you think she is really happy being unmarried at that age? Even Genevieve still said it last december that she is praying that God will bless her with the right man. No matter how successful you are, going home to an empty house is not it at all. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:49pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:Lol,because u never see wife,u con come here dey brainwash people...God in watching in HD |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:50pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
akinsadeez:Ironically, that's the kind of woman I want. A woman who has something to offer. A woman who who can handle things when I'm not around. To me, she's not on the wrong track. Tell her to keep been herself. I might bump into her one of these days She's only carving a life for herself. Don't forget, you attract persons that like minded to yourself. |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:53pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:When I dey here for you,u won snatch someone husband.i dey rap with since ystd,Shey I be like 50cent? |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:55pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
ipleddge:Lol, I was only teasing d OP.. |
| Re: Singleness by ipleddge: 12:57pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:Am only teasing you too |
| Re: Singleness by Nobody: 12:57pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
akinsadeez:I'm not advocating that everyone should remain single for the rest of their lives but to maximize their single life as it'll definitely reflect in their marriages. For those two ladies you pointed out, you don't know why they are still unmarried. Don't say they are not happy with their lives. You're not them. Do you think they don't have suitors?? Even now, there could be a dozen of them hanging on their neck. 1 Like |
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