I am presently in a dilemma.I do not what to do.I have a girl I love so much but ever since like 2 months she want us to get married despite the fact i still searching for a job and i am just 23. I Think it is ridiculous but my ma and pa thinks it is the right thing to do .

Sometime when i think of it I feel like running away and just school earn a PhD and make some doe and also enjoy life with freedom.The pressure is mounting everyday to the extent that they are now fixing dates for me immediately i get a job.I know i have the final decision but this kind of decision is hard.What do you gut suggest Cry

No one can force you to get married.If you do not seem ready,talk to all parties explaining your part.If your babe is sure of your love she'll wait till you pop the ring.
Now is the time to stand up and be a man.

Are you in Nigeria? Just curious.

My suggestion is NOT to get married. Are you ready to get married? What is the rush? Why are your parents rushing you? Why is the girl rushing you? How old is she? Where do you both intend to live once you get married if you guys don't have jobs? What is your plan for the future? Have you and your girlfriend/fiance/whatever discussed your plans for the future? Do you both know what marriage means?

Shoot, I have so many questions.

mom and dad will help out

As u rush in, na so you go rush out!!!

The lady is 25 and she is saying she is getting old and can't wait.We been in the relationship for like 5 years now.

My parent got married late and had problem having kids.So they think if i get married early I won't take care of my kids with pension money like them

Think over the whole thing carefully and see whether it is worth trying for. Try as much as you can to secure a job, then go ahead and settle down cos its good to marry early. Wishing you the best of luck.

you just 23 and a guy. you still have a lot to achieve.

moreover from my own personal view i think you still too young to be tied down by the responsibilities that come with marriage.


I would suggest you look before you leap. don't let anyone force you into what you don't wana do, cus its your life you living and no one else is gona live it for you.

See tori o! Obviously there is more to the story than this guy is telling maybe its even a lie atleast i hope u gettin all d pity u want.

If you've been together for 5 years already, what is really the holdup? You said that you really love her, and neither of you are getting any younger. I say reassure her and let her know that she is yours forevermore. Buy her a beautiful ring, and set your wedding date well into the future to give yourself time to work things out financially, and keep the communication open. Great things never come without some struggle, so you must expect that things will not just be easy and peachy. You will both have to work hard and be supportive of eachother.

Also, after being in a long-term relationship (like 5 years), when a guy is not willing to marry his woman, the woman will oftentimes become really insecure and hurt. She will wonder what is the problem that her man is not decisive enough to commit to being with only her and tie up the not. Good women are becoming increasingly hard to come by, so if you've found one and you love and trust her, hold her down to the fullest!

Whatever you decide, I wish you success in your relationship. Hope things work out for you!

Best wishes, Magz

AT 23yrs? where you dey run go? ANd you dont have a job? Shey na N10 suya you and your wife go dey chop abi?

Marry @ 23 . . . . . Mba
Dont marry, face ur studies

Neva believed d story anyway. . .
It's too 'fake'. . .

fake or no fake, sumbody sumwia is in this same position and would only be grateful if u offer ur candid opinion.

@ poster, i feel u r too young to marry @ 23

I think you are a boy and marriage is not for boys
Though this whole story is like fiction

I know some of you nairalanders would not believe me.But the story is true?Sitting here at the fron of my terminal and reading some of the post that says I am lia :or,It hurts but never the same I need the advice.

@Magz
Tying her down with a ring has crossed my mind though but for how long do you think i can do this.Like 2 years more or when.I am thinking also probably I should just fake up a fight and break the relationship.I am still confused More suggestion will be appreciated.

pray and it will come to you

contrary to what people are saying

you arent too young

Marry the girl!

You are not too young.

Ok i'll give u 2mil so u'll be able to marry.
Problem solved. Now go and read your books!

Marry the girl. If it doesn't work you can get the court to nullify the marriage and declare that you were never married.

run bro,

O please, he is young. He doesn't even sound mature enough. It's like my 22 (23 in April) year old brother coming to tell me that he's getting married. Please, he's definitely too young. Yes, some people are more mature than others (I've known them), but others aren't, and this poster seems like one of them. If he has to come to a forum to ask the question AND then suggest creating a fight so he can break up the relationship. This is mature? This is someone that really loves the girl enough to marry her? And in a heartbeat is ready to break up with her?

You've been dating for 5 years, but you started dating at 19. I still say there's no rush. This doesn't mean you should take your time in deciding to get married, but you should know for sure that it's what you want to do and would not need to ask complete strangers!

abeg my guy, dont try it. my opinion. everything is against you except if your parents wouldnt mind taking care of your children

The decision is yours to take, you are never too young or too old to be involved in marriage, the oldest married couple today on guiness books started when they were 16, so you are late in fact.

I know someone personally who is 23, has been in a 8year relationship, of which, had produced a baby, still he chose not to marry. Because he wasn't ready, he's not player, loving guy, the girl cried, the parents begged, the guy just said, he's not ready, All of them can say a good woman is scarce to find, so is a good man, so whatever, oh, don't make a monster out of a good man, don't force yourself because of someone else, crappy hosky shit!!!!,

The fact of the matter is, its your call, stop ranting, decide whatever, OH, you think the world is perfect, crap rubbish huggish,

Don't be afraid to make a mistake either, its life, weigh your options, if you marry, is it your dream?, what will become of your dreams?, if you don't, what will become of your dreams,

screwish!!!!!, shhssshhhhhhhhhh,

damola1:

The decision is yours to take, you are never too young or too old to be involved in marriage, the oldest married couple today on guiness books started when they were 16, so you are late in fact.

I know someone personally who is 23, has been in a 8year relationship, of which, had produced a baby, still he chose not to marry. Because he wasn't ready, he's not player, loving guy, the girl cried, the parents begged, the guy just said, he's not ready, All of them can say a good woman is scarce to find, so is a good man, so whatever, oh, don't make a monster out of a good man, don't force yourself because of someone else, crappy hosky shit!!!!,

The fact of the matter is, its your call, stop ranting, decide whatever, OH, you think the world is perfect, crap rubbish huggish,

Don't be afraid to make a mistake either, its life, weigh your options, if you marry, is it your dream?, what will become of your dreams?, if you don't, what will become of your dreams,

screwish!!!!!, shhssshhhhhhhhhh,

You are very right

Ooooo! Why are ppl sayng he's 2 yung? 4 goodness sake thre are yung dudes of 20,21 in my company,workng nd earning gud cash.brilliant chaps. So if dem wan marry now wud thy be said 2b 'too yung'?

Shebi na ur papa go dey feed u

orodoro

Love is all abt undastsnding, if she truly loves u, then she has to wait, why d rush besides u re a man, u ve to be fit 4 marriage cos wen u in it, there is no goin back. pls get a good job and be someone b4 u think of geting married. if u don't want to regret in life.

The poster you didn`t tell us what the girl is doing, beside your parents will not leave your life for you and it is too early for you to tie down with marriage. prepare for your future first because when you get kids your parent won`t take care of them.If the girl is sensible enough she know that she have to wait for you to get job, because she will be the one to suffer for it if you people rush into it as she want.

Thanks guys.
COncerning those that thinks it is immatured to ask question on this thread.I am only trying to get opinons and I am still got to evaluate it.I am not looking for instructions just opinons with points to back it up.

So far I think i will go with @Magz and @damola1.I guess i will take my chances.I agree with the line never be afraid to make a mistake but i am sure i am not making no mistake.

Thanks a lot again magz,airblaze,damola1 and BlueDiva1 .