Are you tired of people always telling you to just be happy? Yeah, me too. It’s actually mind puzzling how many people go around telling everyone to be happy as if it’s a switch we can just turn on. What’s sad is to see how many people are pretending to be happy and equally, how many people are desperately trying to be happy. To this I have a couple questions.

Why are people trying to sell happiness as if they get a commission out of it? Why would someone lie to themselves and pretend to be something they’re not which is probably worse? Let’s be honest, how many people do you know and how many stories have you heard of people spending their lives trying to attain something they think will give them happiness only to discover, at the end, there was none to be found?

When you look around, every magazine, advertisement and commercial are selling a form of happiness for mainly two reasons. First, because happiness is one of the most desired things in life and secondly, because it profits off of people by deceptively convincing them that they will be less happy in life without said product or service but more happy with it.

[size=13pt]Is happiness the most sought after thing in life? I hope not. You ask most people what they want in life and they’ll tell you easily, “I just want to be happy.” I’m calling bullshit on this, I’m not buying it.[/size]

Everyone wants things in life but happiness isn’t necessarily on that list. We understand that happiness isn’t a tangible thing in the material sense. It is more likely a by-product of whatever it is we achieve or obtain, like love and success. Think of it this way, telling people you want to be happy is like telling people you want to be stuffed instead of telling them what you want to eat. No one does this because being stuffed is obviously the result of eating too much, especially if it’s food you love. This is why I’ve come to the conclusion that saying, “I just want to be loved in life” is more valid and accurate than saying, “I just want to be happy.” Regardless, if I had a choice, I prefer to be angry instead.

[size=13pt]Since when did happiness become a more valuable emotion than anger?[/size]

Time and time again I get knocked down and judged for being angry as opposed to being happy. This is wrong. Anger is just as a legit emotion as happiness. For that matter, every emotion is just as equally important. How can people just acknowledge, focus and push only one state of being over all the others? There’s an imbalance in all of this. Besides, I have reasons for being angry… very good ones I might add.

Question, have you ever asked someone why they’re happy? Rarely will you get a great answer. You’ll typically receive a, “I don’t know” or some lame/cheesy response. In contrast, have you ever asked someone why they’re angry? You’ll probably end up grabbing a chair and some drinks or snacks because it’s going to get very interesting.

[size=13pt]Why does anger have such a bad rap?[/size]

If it wasn’t for anger our history as a nation would be completely different, world events would be entirely contrastive and all the stories, movies, songs and books you love would drastically change. There’s something about anger (Charlie Sheen calls it “passion”) that is compelling and engaging but most importantly, necessary.

I’m happy being angry because it lets me know that I still care, that I still desire change, that I’m not willing to accept what’s just handed to me. Anger drives me to be better, to be competitive, to be victorious and not give up. I doubt happiness does any of these things for an individual. The reality is you’re more likely to be happy by allowing yourself to be angry. We need to stop masking our feelings of anger. We ought to free ourselves while fighting for what we want and believe. I understand there needs to be a balance with it as a whole but this is about the validity of what we feel… of what drives us. We need to move with conviction and this requires acknowledging anger and leveraging it in a healthy way.


[size=13pt]We are all angry somewhere inside.[/size]

Suppressing anger will not make it go away and ignoring it is not going to make it disappear. On the contrary, it will kill you from the inside out. We need to discover ways to express and release our anger creatively or productively. Stop pretending to be happy and allow yourself to get angry. If you ever hope to realize your full potential to perform, you need to understand the vital role anger plays in your life. And if memory recalls, you may remember just how much you’ve accomplished because of anger.

If your parents were unbearable to live with, you moved out. If your relationship was going nowhere, you broke up. If train services left you late to work one too many times, you bought a car. If your job didn’t appreciate you and your efforts, you left. If you didn’t like the shape you were in, you began working out. You see, there’s nothing quite like anger.

If we learn to wield it appropriately we can become more than if we camouflage it from ourselves. Don’t allow anger to boil up within you so that one day you “snap” or “Go postal.” We have it for a reason, use it. Let people know that you don’t need a self-help book on how to live happily in life because what this world needs more of are passionate people, fighting to make a difference.


[size=13pt]There’s a tremendous amount of ugliness, evil and unjustness in the world that’s never going to change with happy people.[/size]

They are no “good” or “bad” emotions in a classic sense. We can’t help to feel the way we feel when emotions hit us, it’s just natural. What we can do however, is respond by actively evaluating ourselves to keep our perception accurate on what we need versus what we think we need.

(DISCLAIMER: I know this is part of a larger topic regarding the equilibrium of our emotional, mental and spiritual state of being but I wanted to particularly highlight the misconception of anger and how healthy it is to allow it to breathe when necessary in a productive way.)



Jubei Raziel

Mr. saddist .....

This is what I call... The Book Of Psalms
Boring and Long..

yungEX:
Mr. saddist .....

I think you misunderstood the topic or you never read the content..

Please try to read okay.. pays more

Many would not understand that post, it is psychological and deep. The most annoying ones are those girls/ladies who come around smiling and jerking like nothing is in their brains, trying to sell the image of a free spirit. I can spot a fake in no time. Nonetheless there are some genuine phlegmatics not everyone is a melancholy.

HumanPsycho:
Many would not understand that post, it is psychological and deep. The most annoying ones are those girls/ladies who come around smiling and jerking like nothing is in their brains, trying to sell the image of a free spirit. I can spot a fake in no time. Nonetheless there are some genuine phlegmatics not everyone is a melancholy.

Bro, all dem ladies give a man distraction. A distracted man is not in control.
Sometimes happy ppl r distracted ppl.

Well, the article has some valid points.