KashyBaby:
I never heard such thing tat someone can be possessed of a pornography...
Ur husband may have a fetish/desired to try things other than wat u usually do on bed...if ur not open to do this thing, then u explain it to him tat u cant do it...for sure he will understand & dnt think so much negative coz it will juz ruin u.

mistypiper:
I don't have enough details to judge this issue but one thing I want you to remember is that your life is the most valuable thing you have right now.

Please don't hurt yourself over the issue, I don't know how long you've been with him or how he's been treating you before now. Ill advise you to calm down and communicate with him at least he is your hubby. Under no circumstances he's not supposed to cheat on you.

Don't let anything bad happen to you my sister. You have people that loves and care about you.

Biko

curtains:



we have a great sex life

KashyBaby:


If u have a great sex life, then how come this issue arises?Anyway, He is ur husband for sure he will listen to u if u will discuss it with him..goood luck.

buygala:
You had better sit up and take bold steps to re-define your marriage.... Learn from Oshiomohle... His wife died, and he married a much cuter and younger woman... life goes on for your hubby even if you end up dying of frustration

My advice..

1- Focus more on your own happiness... If possible, start cheating on him with that your ex boyfriend who you still haven't been able to get out of your mind ..... Or you can become a servant in God's vineyard, reserving your place in heaven since this earth isn't that fair to you

2- I heard that Okija Shrine is still open for business... Take two strands of his pubic hair and a teaspoonful of his sperm to the Okija Shrine Head ofiice... They will sharply sort him out, and restore his brain to factory settings

DISCLAIMER.... My brain was out on an errand when I typed this.... HEED THIS ADVICE AT YOUR OWN RISK

curtains:
Seun sorry for opening a new username. can't use it cos its my real name.
aftet 5yrs of marriage i tot i had a perfect marriage. I saw bbm n whatsapp chat of hubby n girls having indecent conversation. I mean phone intimacy. they were many. the content were very bad. my hubby was actually telling one of the gal to bring one of her friend so dat dey will have a three some. as i was eading it my head blew off never thought my hubby could go that far.

wen I confronted him, he started begging n crying. he said he was possessed by a porn video of two lesbian n a man so ever since then, he had that fantasy n wanted to do it.

he has never cheated according to him. but I don't think dat is true if he can go dis far. I have bin crying n depressed. I nearly had an accident while driving today becos I was just imagining him having a three some with d girls.

pls somebody talk to me before something bad happens.

no front page pls.

babyosisi
greatgod
chaircover. Tearoses
Abeg make una come put mouth. u guys have inspired me alot

curtains:



I have a new baby so our sex life has not fully resumed of recent

emilyone:
Is three sum. The new thrend among married men these days

A married friend of mine caught her hubby pants down engaging in this unholy act just of recent

buygala:


ok

Nice bullshiit

I gave the advice I deemed fit in the first paragrapgh of my comment.... You were just too blinded by hate and frustration to see it ..

Point is.... I am not the cause of your wretchedness, so ride your fuccking high horse out of my sight

missclasssy:


Hate?
I don't even know you. We have never even had a conversation on this forum nor have our paths crossed, so how did I develop the hate you are talking about.

You made a mistake by not taking something serious seriously and I pointed it out.
If my elder brother was on Nairaland, I would still make the same comment I made.

I don't know why a lot of people think the way you just did. . .

babyosisi:


I will advise you to accept what seems to me like a sincere heartfelt apology from him.
Don't be too hard on yourself thinking you did or didn't do something to bring this on
You did nothing,it wasn't your fault
It was his choice and his alone to send those indecent texts so don't beat yourself up and see this as a failure on your part as a wife,it isn't.
A lot of people have fantasies in their heads but for the most part they remain in their heads
That he talked about *** with the girl didn't necessarily mean he was going to go through with it
It is wrong
There are no ifs and buts ,going to that extent is unwholesome and wrong
It went too far

But please Forgive him
What I wouldn't want you to do is to get possessive and begin monitoring him day and night
It makes you look insecure
Forgive him if you are sure his apology is sincere
Sit with him and let him know how much that conversation hurt you and ask how he would feel if you had similar talks with another man.
A small jar of milk has spilled yes but the jar is still intact
Remorse is a good thing in marriage
When a man or woman errs and is remorseful,it gives you something you can work with and to err is human.
Forgive ,don't tell his friends,your family or his family about this and shame him,it won't produce anything positive
Let this be between you and him and the promise he makes you that there won't be a repeat
I wish you all the best

moski5:
The only advice i'd love to give you is to pray n fight 4 your marriage and family

Something has been on my mind for a while my friend n I talk about it often n my pastor mentioned it recently Its d devils attack on families
He wants to divide d home so the kids will grow up without proper parenting For homes wit both parents he keeps them both busy

NB men have this inbuilt desire for variety n coupled with porn is a recipe for disaster You both should come together n find a solution
Finally if Christ is not the Head and Centre n Foundation of your home .... hmmm You both make HIM so
Wish you the best

cold:
Really sad scenario there. But @op you need to up the ante. That's why i continually kick against these folks who keep creating restrictions and obstructions in the bedroom. 'You can't do this', 'you can't do that!' They always scream. 'This style will send you to hell', 'that style will subject you to a life of eternal torment'. Fornication is bad they say. Fine,we may choose to agree to disagree on that,but what about married couples? Why all the inhibitions?
[b]Couples need to be adventurous. They need to explore new ideas to spice up their sèx lives. Because in all honesty very few men can stick with missionary for that long. Sooner or later,they'll want to try out something new. If you're reluctant to play ball,some may be tempted to play away matches. [/b]Others may just fantasize but would show restraint out of the respect they have for the marital institution and the vows they took. Sorry sha,i feel your pain.