Vikkie14:


Uhmm... I want to believe the lady is truly remorseful..


Naturally, we find it difficult to expose our past life because we don't know how to say it and what the reaction of our partner might be.

A problem exposed is half-solved. The fact she didn't deny the acts goes a long way to show she wants to be a changed person and that she would need all of your support.

What if you were in her shoe and this happened to you? THINK ABOUT IT.

I know someone that needs this quote right here..

Well, nobody is perfect including you the op. Everyone of us have committed at least one atrocity in the past. If you truly love her as you claimed you will stand and be by her through this her trying period. Thank God you said she "was" and not she "is".

Its really very difficuit here. But since u ar not in a haste to marry her now. Bro, Give her time and see whether thre will be any changes.......

Nobody is perfect. Everybody has a past.

As 4me, I will advice you to leave d girl, because there's a lot to it oo.

1 she will still want to enjoy women at a time in her marriage, that's when d sex life btw u both starts going down to mayb once in 2wks. Or that she might pass that urge n desire in her gin to ur daughter.

2 Wasn't she warned by her parents or friends that being a bi-sexual in dis our society is wrong. Why didn't she heed d advice, why did she live such life then, now she wants some one that will 4give her and now share d consequences of her past life with her? Ehh! Which kind love be that?

3. That guy might come to hunt for her later in life, besides u don't knw d agreement she must have reached with that guy for him to come back n say he was joking and also for d guy to still reach her after some months in ur relationship that means that it hasn't been upto three years she stopped d runs tins, that's if at all she has stopped mayb she's trying to stop just to get you to marry her b4 she continues.

4 nobody is forced into runs, these girls decide that demselves, so I don't pity them when the fall into this kind of situations cos they do take men as retirement plan during this period.

5 guy go n look for a better girl that reserved her self for marriage, even if she's not a virgin just go search for a normal girl, not a girl with a dirty past mehhhn, she can't eat her cake n have it, she can't leave dat act of lesbiansm, it's always hard for them. My ex was into girls but I dint know, she's married now and it's still doing it, she just opened up to me recently.

6 If you marry that girl Ehh, her fellow runs girls will use her as example that after d whole runs she did, she finally got married to a good husband, n that will encourage them more n more, so puleaseeeeee don't marry a girl u can't trust with her female friend.


Finally, I don't see her runs life as past because if she wanted to have a better future like she wants now, she could have written a better script of her past.

maggilove:
Forgive her and get ready to bear d consequences with her and in love. Do this prayerfully, I pray God will help you I Jesus name.

Answer this carefully madam, and with much sincerity.

If your daughter told you how her fiancé confessed to her that he was gay,will you bless the union madam?

Guy shine your eye.Two of them are still in communication.The guy updates your girl about you and your girl updates the guy about you.Make dem no scam you by blackmailing you emotionally.

Two words that are very important in a relationship,LOVE and FORGIVENESS...If you truly love her you can easily forgive her past at an instant,the fact she is no more into the act and she will never be part of it again...you guys should come together and fight that devil trying to come inbetween you and cut every links relating your girl and the guy.

NobleG1:


Your woman is a runs girl. She's a liar and a cheater. Dump her a*ss real fast, or else she'll ruin your life. She's a lesbian (not her fault, she didn't create herself). It can't be cured, in as much you can't cure being straight. She will always like women and she'll always have sex with women, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Any lesbian or gay who's in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, does so due to society pressure. Being a lesbian or gay in Nigeria is a punishable crime. Which I believe government should stop. You can't punish people for what they didn't create and can't control.

I don't even mind having one as a girlfriend (not wife) because it may result into a hot three*some. I'm just kidding guys!

What upsets me is that she's a runs girl and she didn't plan telling you any damn thing about her runs life. If she actually wanted, she would have told you about it earlier or immediately when that call came. Even when you asked her about the call, she sat there and lied to you in your face! That's not the kind of behavior of someone who really wanted to tell you anything. If not for your persistence and the call you made to the guy, you wouldn't have known her runs life.

If you truly want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the person deserves to know both your past and present life.

By the way, how the hell did you meet her in December and engaged her already in January? What the hell is wrong with you? Why are you in a hurry to marry this woman? Did she push you into it? It's never a good idea to marry someone you just met so quickly.

What you just found out about her is a good proof that should discourage men like you against jumping into marraige after you just met someone. Pipe down a bit and think! Nobody was meant for anyone. You can still get a better girl who doesnt have a nasty skeleton in her cupboard, a girl who's compatible with you and one you can still love.

Don't listen to people on NL telling you to forgive and take her back. Don't forget that some of them here may be runs girls and boys or may have friends or siblings who do runs. They will naturally defend and support runs people.

You can forgive her but don't marry her because you just dodged a bullet my friend. Go and celebrate.

1000000 likes for u gentleman. best advice ever. @ op, I advised u take ur time and go these post. it will indeed give u the peace of mind u deserve. a pig will always return to trash, even after cleaning it up. i believe u are not a baby to refrain any ill advise on this thead when u perceive one. my honest opinion tho

If I were in your shoes I will collect the link to the site that has her secrets.

lessbian.. is like hiting rock to rock spoon to spoon etc.

Break up with her.
There is some sins you can forgive and not this....
If its made in private without someone threatening its better.....
But this one is public and the case of website and a man bugging you ....



Or


Break down for now and allow things cool off. Just take time off and meditate ....



Quote me and die ..

XBLadez:
Lesbian or bisexual? Please note the difference. A lesbian will never marry a man, forget all the rubbish these homosexuals say to cover their rotten self, only a bisexual can marry from any gender.
If she's bisexual, u can marry her if you love her cos she might bring home some girlfriends and y'all will have an o.rgy.
Thank me later!

Lolzzzz. Lwkmd. Guy ur mind is so dirty u need to soak ur mind in hot water,add hypo, ariel and detol, then leave 4 3days before washing it.

SagePerv:
You keep saying, repeating the words;
You love her but it's a big, big lie.

You don't know what love is.
Love holds no grudges of the past Mr.

So stick with her. Erase her past together.
OR Park well Amigo.

Actually, love does hold grudges of the past Mr. Love isn't stupid...it is reasonable. And being reasonable here, I mean love accepts that we are humans and must naturally react or behave as such.
The guy just got jolted out if the love world back to reality. He discovered a shock, naturally he is reacting. Because he loves her doesn't mean he should blindly turn blind eyes to what he found out. So if you are a girl, in love with this guy, and found out he was a daredevil armed robber with the history of uncountable murders, but he stopped being a robber two years ago ( I didn't say he 'repented' o). He stopped probably because he found a little money to start up a biz...And you found that out, would you still say love conquers all, and blindly go ahead with the guy? No? Well, I thought as much.
They are not married yet, they are not even up to a year together, if he loves his life, free the girl. No matter what, there will be issues in marriage later in life n those issues could drive her back to lesbianisn or even worse. She's not a repented girl, she barely 'paused' the act.

You are in for a wild marriage

Tallesty1:
If I were in your shoes I will collect the link to the site that has her secrets.

Absolutely correct!

You need to see what public information is held about the lady you want to marry....too important to ignore...

haul:


Answer this carefully madam, and with much sincerity.

If your daughter told you how her fiancé confessed to her that he was gay,will you bless the union madam?

To err is human and to forgive is divine, if d man had repented genuinely, it means God has forgiven him who am I not to forgive him? And why must I jeopardize my daughter's happiness in d name of what has happened in d past.

maggilove:
To err is human and to forgive is divine, if d man had repented genuinely, it means God has forgiven him who am I not to forgive him? And why must I jeopardize my daughter's happiness in d name of what has happened in d past.

Well if you think that will be your advice to your daughter,I applaud your acumen.

haul:


Well if you think that will be your advice to your daughter,I applaud your acumen.

Everybody has a past, do I know everything about my daughter's past too?

maggilove:
Everybody has a past, do I know everything about my daughter's past too?

Sure, but we should lay a good present so we won't have a bad past we do regret,I'm not a saint but I can gallantly tell you I don't have a past, have argued this with a family member before but dropped it when he aint seeing the picture I'm painting.so I will comply with your words madam.

Do you know everything about your daughters past? It shows how responsible and attention we dedicate to our children if we can't tell some kinda behavior they could do or not.

SagePerv:
You keep saying, repeating the words;
You love her but it's a big, big lie.

You don't know what love is.
Love holds no grudges of the past Mr.

So stick with her. Erase her past together.
OR Park well Amigo.

You make it sound as if it's easy. Dude, it's not. Anyway, if the poor dude cant handle it, let him move on. At least thank God it wasnt revealed much later.

tempilo2k:
Dude, I can go on an on with the usual sanctimonious 'Forgive and forget' BS
but, the truth of the matter is, if you know deep down that you aren't gonna let it go then don't go any further with the relationship.

THANK YOU!! Youve said it all.

I don't know why people bring matter like this to Nairaland. Man this need only your decision but if I am you and I really love her I will go ahead and marry her

Take het for deliverance first because her case is a spiritual case..I have seen ladies in form two that are involved in that naughty affairs..had to help them by casting out the demons.. They struggled to come out of it but they were helpless until they opened up. The bible says Confession shall lead to salvation. It is as simple as that..the demon could be stubborn but they bow to the power in the name of Jesus..Leaving her is not the issue but helping her is the real issue..even if you won't marry her again,help her to come out of the mess completely . As for the other love-vendor,cut him off from both of you & let him know you will trace him out with police if he dares to send you any stinker again.

Do what ur heart tells you to do. But remember, she was the one who told u when u asked. What if she didn't tell u at all? Would u have known? Everyone has a past including you and me. The problem isn't how our ugly past looks like. The problem is what do we do when our past kept calling. Your decision today determines ur womans tomorrow. Decide well and ask if she was ur sister, would u throw her away, disown her or take her back? SHALOM

Why do you like pretending you men? Why is it that you like 3sums/ lesbian videos yet you discriminate when you are confronted by a real lesbian situation.

pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

its all in the past.... She even confessed....its just like you as a guy,am sure you've asked for a ladies nude before and you've sent yours before....that was her sexuality back then not anymore...she's been remorseful ever since then showing regret...all.left to you to take thr big step

hazydon:
Take her for deliverance. Bro even if u forgive her 2day i tell yhu d truth she will not change. The only solution is DELIVERANCE...

typical Nigerian mentality

If she has truly repented and you fell u can live with her all the rest of your life no problem. But let her go for deliverance first

XBLadez:

Go to the religion section and stop threatening our lives. It's too early

U are so funny no be small threatening of our lives lolzzzz

pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

Tales by moonlight. You met a girl in December, proposed to her in January, found out she was a lesbian in February, now want to ditch her in March.
Clap for yourself. How does it sound to you? My friend continue.

whoisuche:
If she has truly repented and you fell u can live with her all the rest of your life no problem. But let her go for deliverance first

Deliverance from what sef, a bad habit? Have you delivered yourself from the gossiping, envy and jealousy, bigotry, hate, gluttony, obesity, pilfering, plagiarism etc that you do? You guys can form one stupid holy holy for this country eh. Very annoying. Deliverance from what?