Even if you agree with Taylor Swift on “never ever getting back together,” you may also realize that it is not always possible to leave a relationship behind for good. If your marriage is broken and you have children together, there is seldom a full escape from that spouse — even if you divorce.

The broken association could also be with a parent, child, sibling, co-worker or long-time friend. Sometimes we get hurt and sometimes we hurt others, but we can’t always escape the people who hurt us. What do we do when we know we can’t leave a relationship, but we do not see how it can be repaired? Here are a few tips that will help in the rebuilding process.

1. Stop focusing on the negative and look for the positive

This goes for both you and the person you are struggling with. When you focus on the negative aspects of others, it is easy to hold anger toward them. But remember, none of us is perfect; we all make mistakes. It can be harder to focus on the good traits of a person, but it is well worth the effort.

2. Don’t expect them to change

It is never good to start thinking something along the lines of, “Our relationship would be much better if they would just … ” Expecting someone else to change is like expecting the weather to be exactly how you think it should be every day. We can not control some things, and need to accept that.

3. Set boundaries for yourself

It is crucial that you realize that you can only change yourself, but you are worth protecting. Set boundaries for yourself. Walk away for a while to cool off and collect your thoughts. Distance yourself emotionally when it becomes too much, and slowly work back into the relationship when you can handle it.

4. Serve

Serving the person you are having issues with is ideal, but any kind of service will make you feel better. We love those we serve. Sometimes service has to come in order for love to return.

5. Ask for help

Please don’t be afraid to ask for help. Pray and/or talk to a counselor. If you are struggling, a third party who is not involved with the situation can really be of help. They can see things you might have missed because your emotions were clouded with hurt.

6. Forgive

It is so important to forgive ourselves and others. When you do, you release a burden off of your shoulders. As the book by M. L. Stedman, “The Light Between Oceans” says, “You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day.”

7. Time

Do not expect an instant bounce back in your relationship. It takes time and there are a lot of ups and downs. Try to focus on the ups, and work through the downs with patience. Pushing or expecting things to be better too soon can be very damaging. Give the other person time to work through the situation also.

8. Realize that relationships change, and embrace it

Sometimes we want to get a relationship back to where it was before. People don’t go back. We are constantly changing, and hopefully improving. Move forward with the way your relationship is now and be happy that you were able to overcome the feeling of brokenness.

Relationships are hard, but being able to work through the hurt and disappointment shows real maturity and strength of character.

“The one thing most studies on happiness agree on is this: Family and relationships are the surest way to happiness.”

That does not mean we will be happy with all of our relationships all of the time. We need to work on them. Following the eight tips above will help lead to better relationships and happier lives.

*Side note: If you are in a harmful and dangerous relationship that is destructive to you and the people closest to you, please get help and leave. Your safety and well-being is very important.*

Work on healing the relationship of love you have for yourself by following the steps listed above.

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Romantic love is mystical and magical, permeating every aspect of mind, body and spirit until you are completely consumed.The intensity of the attraction, the depths of the desire, and power of the passion are simultaneously exhilarating, intoxicating and terrifying. Tremendous courage is a prerequisite for the awesome vulnerability of opening up your heart, body and soul for love.
When that love is not reciprocated or sustained, it can be devastatingly sad, like a death.Like a flower that yearns for the sun until it blossoms completely, until every last petal drops, heartbreak leaves you feeling turned inside out. Not having your love reciprocated or being rejected can trigger a grief response that mirrors a depressive episode. Symptoms may include difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sadness, apathy, hopelessness and sometimes even loss of the will to live.
The heartbroken often struggle with feelings of powerlessness; frustration that it's not within their control to make things the way they want...

Many internalize the rejection of a break-up to mean that they are somehow not worthy, not capable of a sustaining relationship, or not lovable on a deeper level. This self-loathing can take root and cause a pessimistic view of the future, igniting panic and despair that love may never be found again.
But understand love is always a gift even if it ends painfully, for heartbreak bears great wisdom.
Consider that all things happen and people come into our lives for a reason. Eckhart Tolle says, "Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness." A relationship that ends is not a mistake or failure.
Stay in the present, don't ruminate about the past or second guess your actions. Don't worry about the future. Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing and meditation. Imagine breathing in what you need (strength, hope, energy) and out what you don't (pain, aches, sadness)...

Release feelings of anger, hatred and thoughts of revenge.Understand this are all related to ego and cause you more harm than good. Anger exacerbates anxiety and depression, keeps us tethered and prevents us from moving forward. As Nelson Mandela said, "Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies." In a moment of quiet, repeat the mantra, "I forgive and release you and let you go." because not every one is capable of giving us the love we need and deserve, which is their issue and not yours. You are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable just the way you are. Practice self-love. Recognize masochistic and self-harm behaviors (not eating, substance abuse, risky behaviors, etc.) and nip them in the bud. As Buddha said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Stick to structure and routine and get proper rest, nutrition and exercise. Don't isolate yourself or your depression will take a deeper hold on you...

Know this too shall pass.Put one foot in front of the other and time will heal your wounds. Even if you can't imagine feeling better or being open to love again, you most certainly will. In my practice, I have been awed and amazed by the resiliency of the human spirit.
"The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it..." - Nicholas Sparks. Source >>> http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joyce-marter-/broken-heart_b_4645774.html
In conclusion --- forget the past and move on with life cos past is past!

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