If you want her to desire you … NEVER do these
things:
I have long considered physical intimacy between
men and women as a very unfunny cosmic joke.
Men get physical as a way to open up and
emotionally connect to their partner. Women need
to feel emotionally connected to their partners
before opening up physically. I mean, who
designed this system?
Bridging this gap in approaches is often very
difficult and exhausting for even the most
committed couples. Left on their own, couples
can end up in destructive patterns and eventually
succumb to the often devastating outcome that is
a sexless marriage — each partner feeling turned
off by the other.
But this sexless outcome is not inevitable. When
approached well, s*x in marriage is usually more
frequent and better than that of single lovers.
Which means many married couples keep their
s*x lives hot!
How do those husbands do it? The secret to
turning your wife on, gentlemen, is also knowing
(and avoiding) what seriously turns her OFF. So,
if you’re doing any of these oh-so unattractive
things — please stop!
1. Letting yourself go
While it is commonly accepted that men are the
visual creatures, women also desire physical
attractiveness in their partners. I don’t think it’s
fair to expect anybody’s body to remain
unchanged throughout the years, but making an
effort to maintain your appearance is a signal to
your wife that she’s worth making an effort for.
Unless bad breath, body odor, scratchy face, beer
belly, and worn out, dumpy clothes are what she
fell in love with, lose them now.
2. Randomly groping her body
While my husband assures me that men would
love it if their wives spontaneously grabbed their
junk, most women do NOT feel the same way.
Being groped every time they walk by, as if “a
b*tt” or “b**bs” is all they are does not endear
women to men (nor wives to their husbands).
Neither does touching them only when you desire
s*x.
Instead, try offering physical affection with no
strings attached. It actually increases intimacy
when the time is right. And yes, women can tell
the difference between the two.
3. Half-assing pre-intimacy
I once heard a man say that pre-intimacy should
begin as soon as her last climax is over. He
wasn’t talking about physical pre-intimacy, but
emotional pre-intimacy. Women and men feel desire
differently. It’s often hard for a woman to feel
s*xual desire when she is not feeling loved,
acknowledged, and appreciated. Wherever a
woman’s mind is, her body is going to follow.
While, true, she also has a role in being open to
s*x, you can do a lot to help her get there.
Spontaneously, willingly and consistently take
something off her plate, like doing the dishes or
making lunches. Doing so can make a huge
difference in her desire for you. As does anything
that brings a bit of ease to her world. Approaches
like “Wooga, wooga baby, wanna get lucky?” —
not so much!
4. Not learning what pleases her unique body
Just as all men aren’t built the same, neither are
women. What worked with a previous partner may
not work (at all) with your wife. (This also
applies to what’s portrayed in P0*n, as well). In
addition, her ever-changing hormones can make a
huge difference in her interest and enjoyment of
s*x. True intimacy, and great s*x, happen when
you’re both enjoying yourself.
This means really focusing on what arouses and
satisfies her. That said, mechanically going
through the “routine” each and every time, so you
can get to your climax is neither generous nor
emotionally fulfilling for her. It’s also important to
remember that she may need physical arousal
before she can feel desire. I find this is true for
many women, so expecting your wife to initiate
intimacy can lead to frustration for the both of
you.
5. Sulking when you don’t get s*x
Even if you’re suffering in a truly sexless
marriage, it is a huge (repeat: HUGE) turn off if
you pout, get angry, or otherwise react badly
when she turns your advances down. I know it’s
hurtful (and even embarrassing) but your partner
always has the right to say “no” to s*x. If it
happens all the time, then it’s a real problem that
the two of you need to lovingly deal with …
together.
If it’s only an occasional occurrence that she’s
“not in the mood”, then making her feel bad will
only breed resentment towards you. And nothing
kills attraction like resentment. And, besides, do
you really want her to have s*x with you out of
guilt? (If so, she’s likely saying “no” with good
reason.)
s*x is a wonderful part of a marriage, but it’s
only one part. There’s a lot of information out
there on how to improve your s*x life. However, if
there are problems outside of the bedroom, there
will certainly be problems in it. This is especially
true if women aren’t feeling loved.
So, the most important thing you can do to make
sure your wife feels turned on is making sure your
marriage, outside the bedroom, is in a good place.

Yeah... Quite true