Both guy and girl(A) have been dating for two and half years and plans for marriage is going on already which both family and friends know about and all of a sudden the guy tells the girl(A) that he has been seeing another girl(B) for 7months and the marriage has to be suspended because he doesnt have any chemistry for the girl(A) any more.

The guy says he is not breaking up with girl(A) but just likes the new girl(B) so much because he  had been asking girl(B) out back before she accepted now after bumping into her again so he just needs to be with the new girl (B) after all his effort chasing her and likeness for her.

He has stopped doing the old and loving things he does to girl(A) but still picks her calls and talks to her"just" normally.

They were friends for a yr plus before they started dating and prayers were made by both families before it was said that they were ok for each other.

what should the girl(A) do in this case and do you nairalanders think the guy will get tired if the new girl(B) or stick with her forever because the girl(A) still loves the guy and has forgiven him but still confused and scared as to what might happen next in the whole situation as she finds it difficult and scared getting into another relationship.

We seriously need your help here,can someone please respond

Well honestly just tell girl A (the first girl) to move on as there are many fishes in the RIVERS!. it's not easy I know I'm still getting out of stuff myself but i discovered it's only heartache to hang on unreliable ppl!

If you are the girl (A), my advice is this, Give him space to rediscover his being or fight to get your man back. The later could be complicated if not well handled. If you will be patient, let him alone for a while. Remember whatever will be will be. Goodluck

@ournaija

Thanks for your advise, consider it done.

I have this for u, If Girl A is a christian, face church for God's intervention and if Girl A is a muslim u better face yr alfa .Then if all does not work face BABALAWO since you still like the guy.
But I will suggest you face your life,Try to invest your life into something you will see and be happy chikena

Girl A needs to have a bit more confidence in herself and realize that she's worth a lot more than he is offering her. If a man can't make her his first and only choice then she needs to get rid of him because he is not worthy of her love. She may love him but time heals all wounds and she will move on, stronger and better for the experience.

Girl B, if she knows about Girl A, is just a tramp and loves the challenge of winning over the guy but will get rid of him once Girl A loses interest.

The guy, is a dog!!! Woof!!

She can fight 4 her man or back out. . . I suggest she tries talking to her man but if that doesn't work out, she'll definitely knw d nxt step to take. . . Like I always say," If u can't get over it, then get it over with". . .

What's up poster? Are you girl [A]. You sound desperate like girl [A]. If you want good advice you need to come out straight. You got nothing to loose.

is girl A ready to be second best in relationship AND marriage.
if girl A accept to be relegated every time this man finds someone he fancies then it will never stop till the day she dies.
girl A has only one option but to move along with her life and let the family know what the reason is for the cancellation.
i could understand if it was just dating but there is marriage plans involved. are you willing, i mean is girl A willing to marry someone who doesn't truly loves her?

You just wanted someone to come on here and tell you to hold on to a man that is not a man. He does not want you. I don't understand all this "fight for your man" when y'all are not even married. If he has not married you and he is acting like this do you think he will behave better after you marry him. If you do not respect yourself he will not respect you. You are the one that will teach him how to treat you. He has said he does not have any chemistry with you but he does with another female who I am pretty sure he is already sleeping with. At the end of the day it is still your choice but if I were you I would not hang around where I am not welcome

That guy is a jerk! He's worse than an animal. He has show clearly that a girls heart means nothing to him; what he's concerned about is just himself. I would suggest that girl(A) (though it would be hard for her) should forget about him and move on with her life. It makes no sense trying to revive a relationship you know is already dead.

Better seperated than a loveless marriage where partners live together like cat and mouse.

@ Omofola

Do you still remember ur mothers advice.
Ur mother used to say " what happened to the old broom will soon happen to the new broom"

T.I. et Rihanna says to tell you "Live ur live"

When he's done screwing B,he'll come running to u saying it was d devil that deceived him.
That you have always been his choice.If u 4give and marry him,chances are u are doomed.

Thank God you can see d guy's tru color now b4 marriage.

THREE WORDS!! TAKE A WALK

Nairalanders, thank you all for your advise, consider them done.

This will be of good help to a lot of jilted and broken-hearted girls out there.

hw is girl A sure that girl B is the only 1 he toasted b4 and faild and wll still come across again? It is clear that they cant make a good couple though they can be very best of friends. Girl A should not b carried away by emotions bcoz MARRIAGE is not FRIENDSHIP.she confessed her love 4 the guy but the guy showed how much disregard he has 4 her(Girl A) by going after girl B. GIRL A SHOULD KNOW THAT TO LOVE SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT LOVE YOU IN RETUREN IS JUST LIKE SHAKING A HUGE IROKO TREE TO MAKE TINY DEW DROPS FALL.4get emotions and sentiments. couple yourself (girl A) once again and waite 4 Mr right.Such a guy cant be faithful except u wish ursef such

pls sis i will advice u to carry on with your life and forget about that guy. he is not worth it. i know is hard to do so but yuo have to do that. pray always so that God will give you the grace to carry on. lean on God. and ask him to give you somebody that will love and appreciates you the way you are. from all indication the guy in question does not love you.so put on the armour.

Like some other here have said I agree that she should move on. What he will do while you are dating he will do when you marry him.

People treat you how you allow them to treat you. He is only using her as backup in case the other girl does not work out. Does she really beleive that she is only good enough to be second best?

I dont agree that she should fight for her man. You should never have to fight for something that is yours. If he is my man and really truly my man then there is no fighting necessary, his eyes, hands, heart all belong to me and is mine. If he can stray now he can always stray.

Please ladies dont ever let a man treat you like you are second best, because the minute you do he will keep treating you like that forever.

I would never encourage my girls to let a man treat them as second/backup. Please as hard as it may be please walk away and never look back. Delete his number and report what he has done to your family or not but just let them know he is not welcome here anymore.

When he comes begging you just walk away as hard as it may be. Please he is a cake eating male and I dont want her to be stuck in a marriage with kids and find out he is doing some girl on the side, because that is just what he is going to do.

IF. . .Girl A is really waiting for/ to marry a man that told her to "hold on. . .i want to rock with girl B 4 a while"

Then . . .She must be the _{forgive my french} Most stupid Chic in Naija.

If I'm girl A, I will walk out, wat da hell? u r dating da other gurl but still wants me around, da gurl should beta move on with her life and I dare not marry da guy again