So I Saw this on Linda Ikeji and have been laughing all morning cos of the comments and insults it has generated expecially from our Dear Male Folks they are not happy at all that a woman dare suggest such.obviously two wrongs can't make a right but it got me thinking if men are so against cheating why do they do it.Do they think women are immune to hurt n pain caused by cheating?


I Will Just Leave This Here. Remember guys I m not the author it was copied From Linda Ikeji blog

Hmmm...a LIB reader who says she's the voice of all cheated women says she's found the solution to infidelity in marriages. Read what she wrote below and share your opinion...

I have seen and read about a lot of cheating husbands on your blog, a friend of mine even told me that she caught her husband cheating,confronted him and he beat her up. I am a woman and I feel very sorry for all those women who have been cheated and worse still, beaten by their cheating husbands. Initially, I said to myself that I won't get married becos most marriages (especially Nigerian/African marriages) are fulfilment of societal expectations of families and friends. The nigerian society expects every woman to be in a man's house, whether or not she finds happiness and peace in marriage is not their business.  However ,I have decided that if I must marry and be happy in marriage, both husband and wife must have equal opportunities in d marriage. I have therefore found the solution to men's infidelity in marriage.

The solution is OPEN MARRIAGES. Women should be allowed to cheat as well as men. Am not encouraging infidelity,I'm just saying since women have been given equal opportunities in areas of politics,business,education etc they should be given an equal playing field in marriage as well.

It is a fact that men's sexual urges are insatiable and they blame their cheating on their wives,however, women with high libido whose husbands don't satisfy should also be free to have sex with other men. Afterall the saying goes "what's good for d goose is also good for the gander" therefore,if its okay for men to cheat on their wives and still beat them,it won't be so bad if women do the same. In fact, the world would be a better place and married people would be a lot happier.

Why do men tell their wives they won't cheat at the beginning then few years after marriage,they eventually cheat ? Well,Open marriage is not a license to cheat,it is only a caveat/warning to your spouse that "I may cheat and if I do cheat,don't be angry and feel free to cheat too" becos if u look at the issue critically, everyone is cheating with someone expressly or impliedly. Married men who do erotic texting (sexting)and chatting wit other people and exchange pictures, as well as those who sleep around are all cheaters.

And to those women who console themselves saying "all men cheat" thereby confining and subjecting themselves to a lifetime of avoidable marital slavery, FYI,marriage is a contract btw 2 people and if you're entering into the 'marriage contract' with the thought that d other party(men) would breach the terms and conditions of d marriage, then you should give the men as your own term of the marriage that if its okay for him to be with other women,then the wife can be with other men. Its like a lecturer giving his students an "open book exam" to prevent exam malpractice.

To put an end to the emotional drain,psychological torture and heartbreak drama most women are going thru, I say OPEN MARRIAGE is the solution. Infact, Nigerian law makers should pass a law on open marriages.

Yours Faithfully,
Signed
I AM THE VOICE OF ALL CHEATED WOMEN.

Make I park my bus here to read comments from people

op, i no understand you

Hmmmmmmm. Really?

Open marriage , like seriously

This is getting serious

Open marriage kwa? It is better not to get married if you don't have the dignity of staying true to your vow. IMO

Hmm

The author of this piece supports adultery 100%.note the following:
1. You cannot fight adultery with adultery.if he becomes violent during confrontation.cool down,force yourself to stay calm and bring up the issue at a safer time.don't even run to your/his folks.nothing much can come out from that end.report to God who will help you deal with the pain and ultimately change him
2. I really don't understand why most people these days say stuffs like"you see in Africa the expectations are high bla bla..."before nko? We are Africans!we have rich cultural heritage and characteristics. What is wrong in asking a woman to submit to her husband?can there be 2 captains in a ship?we understand order and uphold it.recently there are many cases of divorce because most of our celebrities got deceived by westernization.must we copy their nonsense?
3. Marriage is not for girls but women who can endure whatever challenge marriage brings and enjoy in the future when they must have refined their husbands and raised good children that will bring honor to such homes.but if you insist on adultery and are caught,your husband will drive you away,marry a more beautiful,younger cool headed damsel that will take your place and by then he may have stopped cheating! And your family,friends,co-workers ,supporters will mock you,avoid you,gossip about you,insult you and it will amount to 3-0

Babymama suggested something like this in one of her threads.

Chidoks:
The author of this piece supports adultery 100%.note the following:
1. You cannot fight adultery with adultery.if he becomes violent during confrontation.cool down,force yourself to stay calm and bring up the issue at a safer time.don't even run to your/his folks.nothing much can come out from that end.report to God who will help you deal with the pain and ultimately change him
2. I really don't understand why most people these days say stuffs like"you see in Africa the expectations are high bla bla..."before nko? We are Africans!we have rich cultural heritage and characteristics. What is wrong in asking a woman to submit to her husband?can there be 2 captains in a ship?we understand order and uphold it.recently there are many cases of divorce because most of our celebrities got deceived by westernization.must we copy their nonsense?
3. Marriage is not for girls but women who can endure whatever challenge marriage brings and enjoy in the future when they must have refined their husbands and raised good children that will bring honor to such homes.but if you insist on adultery and are caught,your husband will drive you away,marry a more beautiful,younger cool headed damsel that will take your place and by then he may have stopped cheating! And your family,friends,co-workers ,supporters will mock you,avoid you,gossip about you,insult you and it will amount to 3-0

I understand the authors standpoint and i agree with her 100%. She did not support adultery but rather said if a man cant keep his vows to be faithful we might as well start the marriage by agreeing that extra marital affairs is not a sin - an open marriage . Thus either parties can sleep with other people and it wont be considered a sin as long as they both come home. But here in lies the problem, every man wants a faithful wife but he cant keep it in his pants.

At op now to your points:
the first point . would you call a someone who you catch cheating and still threatens with violence worthy of your respect , haba. In as much as i advocate that women should trash issues calmly it still doesnt justify violence if they dont. And that is why most of our mothers end up wasting away, pinning for a man who doesnt care if you live or die when the good is going and only remembers the vow he took with you when he is a wasted version fo himself . I say women should stand against infidelity , even the bible recognises how bad it is. But you hardly hear people quote that but they are quick to tell you that the bilbe says the man is the head of the women. In order words you have advocated that women should stay with cheating husbands till they either die of a diseases or the man grows tired of cheating which is most likely in there 50s and come back to a woman who is tired, sad and very angry.


the second point: Yes we are Africans not animals.And when expectations are high it should be from every member of the society. not just the females alone. it is expected that a woman should be long suffering , smiling through the pain because she is a women. You are quick to remember that women should submit to the husbands but you forget to quote that man should love the wife even as christ love d the church. The love of the church killed christ , we are not even telling the men to die for us , we just want them to stop cheating. and if truly you loved something you wouldnt cheat it you would give selflessly. Or am i missing something.

The third point: i do not support adultery from both parties but the sooner we shame the erring party rather than praise or condone it from a man the better for the institution called marraige.

whizqueen:

Open marriage , like seriously

yes like seriously.




If not which time have you opened family section and haven't read of cheating partners

Story!



Come to our estate and see open marriage in disguise

Chidoks:
The author of this piece supports adultery 100%.note the following:
1. You cannot fight adultery with adultery.if he becomes violent during confrontation.cool down,force yourself to stay calm and bring up the issue at a safer time.don't even run to your/his folks.nothing much can come out from that end.report to God who will help you deal with the pain and ultimately change him
2. I really don't understand why most people these days say stuffs like"you see in Africa the expectations are high bla bla..."before nko? We are Africans!we have rich cultural heritage and characteristics. What is wrong in asking a woman to submit to her husband?can there be 2 captains in a ship?we understand order and uphold it.recently there are many cases of divorce because most of our celebrities got deceived by westernization.must we copy their nonsense?
3. Marriage is not for girls but women who can endure whatever challenge marriage brings and enjoy in the future when they must have refined their husbands and raised good children that will bring honor to such homes.but if you insist on adultery and are caught,your husband will drive you away,marry a more beautiful,younger cool headed damsel that will take your place and by then he may have stopped cheating! And your family,friends,co-workers ,supporters will mock you,avoid you,gossip about you,insult you and it will amount to 3-0

WAY to go....... life is good

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