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Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by maryam6(f): 4:29am On Jul 01, 2015
Assalamu Alaikum! Please, is it permissibe for a muslim woman to touch (shake, kiss or romance) the man she is bethrothed to?

Your answers are highly appreciated.

Cc maclatunji
tbaba
wizeboy
muhdG

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by bogolobango(m): 4:49am On Jul 01, 2015
Ask Aminat508

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Nobody: 4:58am On Jul 01, 2015
Yes of course (i think)

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by aminho(m): 5:02am On Jul 01, 2015
No you can't not till after the wedding

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by PhunsukhWangdu(m): 5:05am On Jul 01, 2015
This question has to be asked more categorically. Do you mean 'betrothed' in the sense that some rites of the Nikāh have already been fulfilled or 'betrothed' of a mere proposal?

Nevertheless I'll urge you to pose questions like this to the knowledgeable scholars around you, those ones you trust their verdicts. Seeking answers from forums like this might spring up disputing claims.

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Mutuwa(m): 5:35am On Jul 01, 2015
maryam6:
Assalamu Alaikum! Please, is it permissibe for a muslim woman to touch (shake, kiss or romance) the man she is bethrothed to?

Your answers are highly appreciated.

Cc maclatunji
tbaba
wizeboy
muhdG

No..

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by maryam6(f): 6:40am On Jul 01, 2015
PhunsukhWangdu:
This question has to be asked more categorically. Do you mean 'betrothed' in the sense that some rites of the Nikāh have already been fulfilled or 'betrothed' of a mere proposal?

Nevertheless I'll urge you to pose questions like this to the knowledgeable scholars around you, those ones you trust their verdicts. Seeking answers from forums like this might spring up disputing claims.
well, lets say it's a mere proposal.
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Nobody: 7:31am On Jul 01, 2015
maryam6:
Assalamu Alaikum! Please, is it permissibe for a muslim woman to touch (shake, kiss or romance) the man she is bethrothed to?

Your answers are highly appreciated.


No sis, it is haram..
It is one of the causes of fitnah

Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said

If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by maryam6(f): 7:35am On Jul 01, 2015
MuhdG:
No sis, it is haram.. It is one of the causes of fitnah
Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said


ok, jazakallahu khairan!

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Wizeboy(m): 8:23am On Jul 02, 2015
maryam6:
Assalamu Alaikum! Please, is it permissibe for a muslim woman to touch (shake, kiss or romance) the man she is bethrothed to?

Your answers are highly appreciated.

Cc maclatunji
tbaba
wizeboy
muhdG

Wa alaykum salam warahmotullahi wa baarakatuh

You are not permitted in Islam to touch or do any of the above stated, and both of you should not be in a room except Wali (chaperone) is present there.

The best thing is for both of you to do the right thing by holding a Nikkah, you don't need big event or money to perform Nikkah. All you need is for your parents, his parents and witness to be present and give consent, which can be hold in a parlour or anywhere and he pays your Mahr.

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by maryam6(f): 12:11pm On Jul 02, 2015
Wizeboy:


Wa alaykum salam warahmotullahi wa baarakatuh

You are not permitted in Islam to touch or do any of the above stated, and both of you should not be in a room except Wali (chaperone) is present there.

The best thing is for both of you to do the right thing by holding a Nikkah, you don't need big event or money to perform Nikkah. All you need is for your parents, his parents and witness to be present and give consent, which can be hold in a parlour or anywhere and he pays y our Mahr.
Mallam, jazakallahu khairan!

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by shedraq1: 10:25pm On Jul 04, 2015
maryam6:
Assalamu Alaikum! Please, is it permissibe for a muslim woman to touch (shake, kiss or romance) the man she is bethrothed to?

Your answers are highly appreciated.

Cc maclatunji
tbaba
wizeboy
muhdG

You no fit hold your body ni

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Kunlexic(m): 2:22am On Sep 07, 2015
If u said Yes oor u said No,u have to back it up with an evidence
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Nobody: 1:09pm On Sep 07, 2015
Hmm, I'm following.
Meanwhile, after nikah nko but if they can't afford the walimah yet, can they be intimate to d point of having children?
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by khattab02: 11:37pm On Sep 14, 2015
enieme:
Hmm, I'm following.
Meanwhile, after nikah nko but if they can't afford the walimah yet, can they be intimate to d point of having children?
yes of course! Because the nikkah is actually the matrimony and at the time of the nikkah it will pronounced aloud that she has been given to him as WIFE and He has accepted and both parties have AGREED and there were WITNESSES.



Finished!! Marriage over! Walimat is something that can be done later on as the ceremony of the marriage.

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Sep 19, 2015
khattab02:
yes of course! Because the nikkah is actually the matrimony and at the time of the nikkah it will pronounced aloud that she has been given to him as WIFE and He has accepted and both parties have AGREED and there were WITNESSES.



Finished!! Marriage over! Walimat is something that can be done later on as the ceremony of the marriage.
Hmm, but at d stage of nikah. It won't have been announced to d public yet so won't it be wierd when pple start seeing them togetther with kids when no one knows it if they r married or not?
What stage is tiit theat although the couple are permissiblketed to be intimate, ibut it isn't advisable for them to unbtil they have announced to d pubklic by way of walimah?

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by khattab02: 12:09am On Sep 20, 2015
enieme:

Hmm, but at d stage of nikah. It won't have been announced to d public yet so won't it be wierd when pple start seeing them togetther with kids when no one knows it if they r married or not?
What stage is tiit theat although the couple are permissiblketed to be intimate, ibut it isn't advisable for them to unbtil they have announced to d pubklic by way of walimah?
chai! This ya write up and sentence constructions makes it very difficult for me to comprehend...

But from the little I got........ Yeah might look weird to those who don't know but what is right has already been done so it is left for them to ask those who know.


Yeah... If they want to wait till after walimah no probs as long as it is ok by them.

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Sep 20, 2015
khattab02:
chai! This ya write up and sentence constructions makes it very difficult for me to comprehend...

But from the little I got........ Yeah might look weird to those who don't know but what is right has already been done so it is left for them to ask those who know.


Yeah... If they want to wait till after walimah no probs as long as it is ok by them.
Iz my kepybpads , deyve smoked mweed and d del button is on strike.
I actually came across one fatwa question on islam qa a, can't remeebr much but they discussed about a stage of bethrothal whence the couple r ady permissible for each other but are advisd to not be intimate ubtil a certain stage has been completed. Ill go find d fatwa later

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by khattab02: 11:08pm On Sep 20, 2015
enieme:

Iz my kepybpads , deyve smoked mweed and d del button is on strike.
I actually came across one fatwa question on islam qa a, can't remeebr much but they discussed about a stage of bethrothal whence the couple r ady permissible for each other but are advisd to not be intimate ubtil a certain stage has been completed. Ill go find d fatwa later
eyaah... Sorry eh!




Alright... No probs
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by amodu(m): 8:13am On Sep 22, 2015
Wizeboy:


Wa alaykum salam warahmotullahi wa baarakatuh

You are not permitted in Islam to touch or do any of the above stated, and both of you should not be in a room except Wali (chaperone) is present there.

The best thing is for both of you to do the right thing by holding a Nikkah, you don't need big event or money to perform Nikkah. All you need is for your parents, his parents and witness to be present and give consent, which can be hold in a parlour or anywhere and he pays your Mahr.

Well said.
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by ALIMINE(m): 11:45am On Sep 23, 2015
maryam6:
well, lets say it's a mere proposal.
It's absolutely not allowed. May Allah guide us
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by ALIMINE(m): 12:02pm On Sep 23, 2015
enieme:

Hmm, but at d stage of nikah. It won't have been announced to d public yet so won't it be wierd when pple start seeing them togetther with kids when no one knows it if they r married or not?
What stage is tiit theat although the couple are permissiblketed to be intimate, ibut it isn't advisable for them to unbtil they have announced to d pubklic by way of walimah?
. To the best of my understanding of Sharia'h as far as the issue of marriage is concerned. There are four critical stages involved, 1. The offer which can come from either the man (as in the case of Ali RAA to Fatima RAA) or the woman (as in the case on Khadijah and the prophet SAW).
2. Acceptance
3. Parental or guardian's consent, and finally the
4. The dowRy which culminates into Nikkah. May Allah grant us deep understanding.

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by bdauran: 5:10pm On Sep 24, 2015
maryam6:
Assalamu Alaikum! Please, is it permissibe for a muslim woman to touch (shake, kiss or romance) the man she is bethrothed to?

Your answers are highly appreciated.

Cc maclatunji
tbaba
wizeboy
muhdG
That should be after the wedding fatiha
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by maclatunji: 6:02pm On Sep 24, 2015
bdauran:
That should be after the wedding fatiha

Yes, they are not married. They still have to observe the rules of Non-mahrams.

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Nobody: 11:36am On Sep 25, 2015
[quote author=ALIMINE post=38299272]. To the best of my understanding of Sharia'h as far as the issue of marriage is concerned. There are four critical stages involved, 1. The offer which can come from either the man (as in the case of Ali RAA to Fatima RAA) or the woman (as in the case on Khadijah and the prophet SAW).
2. Acceptance
3. Parental or guardian's consent, and finally the
4. The dowRy which culminates into Nikkah. May Allah grant us deep understanding.




ive found out a fatwa like i was talking anout. Turns out dat what i was reffering to is the srages between marriage contract and consumation of marrige.
heres d link- it provides more info

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by abdullahi45: 10:14pm On Sep 15, 2018
maryam6:
well, lets say it's a mere proposal.

Then you can't until Aqeedu Nikkah is done
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by abdullahi45: 10:20pm On Sep 15, 2018
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Hmm, but at d stage of nikah. It won't have been announced to d public yet so won't it be wierd when pple start seeing them togetther with kids when no one knows it if they r married or not?
What stage is tiit theat although the couple are permissiblketed to be intimate, ibut it isn't advisable for them to unbtil they have announced to d pubklic by way of walimah?[/quote
We are not getting married because of the public, we are only following one of the Sunnah of the prophet (SAW), so a sincere mind should care less about the people. Walimotu Nikkah (which everyone come to eat) is quite optional.
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Rashduct4luv(m): 10:38am On Sep 21, 2018
Subhanallah!

All praise is due to Allaah.

A marriage contract is valid in Islam if the following conditions are met, even if the marriage does not take place in a court, or in the presence of a Judge or the Imaam of the masjid. In addition, it does not need to be written.

The waliy (guardian) of the girl has accepted the proposal by saying, for example, "I marry you my daughter", and the one who proposed has replied, for example, by " I accept," or "I am satisfied" (i.e. with his acceptance). This takes place in the presence of two witnesses The woman is legally eligible to marry the man according to Islamic shari'ah (that is she is not a Mahram of the proposer [those to whom the proposer is forbidden to marry. etc.]) Allah knows best.

IF THE ABOVE CONDITIONS ARE SATISFIED THEN THEY CAN...!
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by segebase(m): 10:40am On Sep 21, 2018
so i cant test d car i won buy

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Shafiiimran99: 10:42am On Sep 21, 2018
Capital NO
Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by ollah2: 10:42am On Sep 21, 2018
Never give up. Never ever give up. If a 2015 thread can hit fp in 2018 then you can achieve anything regardless of the time, resources or energy spent on it

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Re: Can A Muslimah Touch A Man She Is Bethrothed To? by Legolast: 10:45am On Sep 21, 2018
May Allah increase our knowledge and let us end up in Jannah firdaus.

Well said by our scholars

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