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When Your Wife Earns More Than You by Ayima: 5:18pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
When your wife earns more than you JULY 9, 2015. UGODRE OBI-CHUKWU Ugodre Obi-Chukwu Does your wife earn more than you? Do you feel like you need to get another job? Does she get home later than you do? Did she buy the cars at home and pay for the children’s school fees? Do you sometimes wish you could just have her resign her work and just stay home taking care of the kids? Not to worry, you are not alone in these thoughts, most men in your shoes share similar reservations. While it’s typical to think this way, how should you then deal with it? Take the story of Julius a school teacher, who happens to fall in love with a banker. They soon got married and are blessed with children. His wife’s salary is more than his, making her the breadwinner of the house. She funded their four-bedroom apartment and cars. She even funds vacation and the children’s school fees. Julius doesn’t mind abdicating his natural responsibility as a breadwinner. In fact he makes it up by being at home on time, going through home work with his kids, making sure dinner is ready for his wife and patiently waiting for her every night till she is back. He believes if he can’t meet up financially then he should compensate in other areas of family life. Evelyn on the other hand is married to a lawyer whom she met and dated back in university. She now works with an oil company and earns his six months’ pay in one month. But that’s how far her edge over her husband goes. He instructs her to pay all or part of her salaries into his account every month and gives her an allowance for the month. She says, it’s not a situation she likes, but after several rebuffs by her threatened her marriage, she gave in. Emma, a medical doctor, has over the years established himself as a seasoned consultant. His wife works for a multinational and is equally successful. On the average she earns well over her husband but he doesn’t mind, he likes ambitious women and pushes his wife to achieve more. He believes his earnings, though less than that of his wife is enough to cater for his family. He takes care of everything in the house, even if it means borrowing; he will not allow his wife to spend a dime. To him, a man must take charge. Adelice an accountant for one of the top accounting firms in Lagos is married to a self- employed businessman. He believes by nature he should be the breadwinner but he can’t turn away from the steady income that comes the way of his wife as his is far from regular. In fact, when they initially got married he almost asked her to resign believing her job may one day make her insolent. He thanks his stars he didn’t do that. Today, his wife’s steady income augments his sporadic earnings as they both contribute to the day-to-day running of their home. He gets to take care of one off payments like rent, vacation, school fees etc. while the wife takes care of consumables like food, fuel, utility bills etc. Peter and his wife of two years have had issues dealing with her job. She earns far more than he does, a situation he hasn’t been able to deal with. To make matters worse, she regularly comes home late from work. It just doesn’t go down well with his traditional beliefs that “a woman must be under a man no matter what”. His wife loves him so much and can no longer stand the incessant quarrels at home. She accepts his instruction to resign since he can’t find a better paying job. Now they live on his salary. The above, depicts how most families deal with this thorny issue. If it were you, who would you be? Julius, Evelyn, Emma, Adelice or Peter? For guys who are like Julius, living a complimentary lifestyle can be satisfying. However, rather than remain as a school teacher he can look for other ways to continue to earn incremental income. Nigeria of today demands more from all of us regardless of how satisfying our jobs are. Emma is probably a typical Nigerian man. However, women should be given much more respect and part of that respect is allowing them take charge too. She should at her own free will be given the opportunity to partake in funding the family finances. This is an important balance in family budgetary planning. For men like the husband of Adelice, what you need to do is decide which of the tabs you want to pick up. Entrepreneurs can have unsteady income due to the nature of their business. As such, take care of one-off payments such as rent, school fees, capital projects, car purchase etc. Your wife whose income is steady can then take care of daily household expenses. However, you augment where necessary. A lot of Families are caught in between the cross roads like Peter and his wife. However, is asking her to resign from her job the right thing to do? Decisions like this should be treated with care. What is the opportunity cost of making her resign? Have you thought carefully about the potential impact on your finances viz a viz your collective happiness. Are there better alternatives to resigning? http://www.punchng.com/business/am-business/when-your-wife-earns-more-than-you/ |
Re: When Your Wife Earns More Than You by Nobody: 5:20pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Another verbosity |
Re: When Your Wife Earns More Than You by Juxtified(m): 5:25pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Different strokes for different folks. As for me my actions will depend on the attitude of my wife. Most women if you ask them to take one yard they'll take one kilometer. They become very bossy at home and look down on the husband because he earns less. For those kind of women its either they resign from the job or from the marriage, no other option. But for the wife who still manages to remain humble at home despite higher pay, why not, she should very well be encouraged to aspire higher. |
Re: When Your Wife Earns More Than You by vjsmiles: 5:27pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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Re: When Your Wife Earns More Than You by Update(m): 5:37pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
i'll comment wen i read it |
Re: When Your Wife Earns More Than You by Nobody: 5:55pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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