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The Agony Of Monogamy
 Jul 8, 2015
By Tola Adeniyi
It was at the Church service for the 90th birthday
of the legendary Matriarch of the Awo dynasty
Chief Dr Hannah Dideolu Awolowo in Ikenne that
the thoughts that prompted this article began.
Some well known highly placed gentlemen and
their wives were called upon to partake in the
wine sipping, bread-breaking ritual called Holy
Communion. As soon as these respectable ladies
and gentlemen, all of them past age 70, and
amongst whom were renowned professors, high
court judges, legal luminaries and business
moguls, finished their spiritual blessing and were
returning to their seats, they cut a pitiable sight
in their over-flowing garb of hypocrisy.
They clung to their wives as if they were newly
wedded. I temporarily forgot that I was in a holy
Church, the spiritual enclave of Christians. I
almost laughed my head off because I knew each
of the ‘holy’ ‘monogamous’ men intimately and
by Jove, I knew of their second, third or fourth
wives/liaisons/mistresses with whom they had
sired several children. To the whole world they
were champions of monogamy, but to their hearts
and conscience they were celebrated polygamists,
or at best, serial monogamists. Pshaw!
I saw pain written all over them, the agony of
living a lie, the unease of hypocrisy, and the
shame of going through life pretending to be what
you are not.
This is the sort of agony a lot of the so-called
monogamists go through all their lives. The series
of lies they sell to their wives, and the double life
they present to their pastors and church leaders,
most of whom are actually equally guilty of
hypocrisy and double life living.
This piece is not set out to condemn or criticise
monogamy. Monogamy is perfect for those who
believe in its concept and can genuinely keep to
it. I too have been married to one lovely woman
for almost 45 years and it has been like a
marriage made in heaven. I happen also to be the
promoter along with some friends the 35-year-old
Family Club of Nigeria that is dedicated to the
enlistment and celebration of marriage and family
values.
This article is designed to expose the hypocrisy
and pain associated with embracing false notions,
which are really not observed by any culture in
the world, and to advise those who erroneously
sentence themselves to a life of sadness and
emptiness because they were deceived to believe
that there is some utopia somewhere called
monogamy.
I am very much aware that this article will
generate a lot of controversy most especially from
those who live holier-than-thou lives and continue
to deceive the world that they are upholders of a
doctrine that is not supported by true and
enlightened interpretation of any religious
doctrine.
I have schooled, worked and lived virtually in all
the continents of the world and I make bold to
say with all emphasis at my disposal that no
culture on planet earth truly practises monogamy.
My Greek, Italian, Russian, British, American and
other Caucasian acquaintances routinely visit
their other wives [called by other names] with
whom they have children. But back in the homes
shared with the one carrying the ring, they are
monogamists!
The cultures that practise polygamy had always
known that at any given time, the number of
available marriageable women far out number
available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old
man, if he has money, is still very much in the
market whereas a 60-year-old woman may not
be that lucky. The biological limitation to a
woman’s productive age is also a factor. Why
should a woman therefore remain on the shelf till
age 45 when she could jolly well get married as
second or sixth wife to a man who can afford to
share life’s responsibilities with her? Why should
a woman leave a man with whom she is No. 1,
simply because he took a second wife and end up
being numberless in the hands of several men
with whom she naturally shares bed just because
of some doctrine she hardly understands?
The argument that children in a polygamous
house are always at each other’s throat does not
hold water. Many siblings of monogamous
families are known to have had worse and
irresolvable, irreconcilable squabbles, with dirty
bitterness over inheritance than children from
different mothers.
The agony suffered by both men and women in
the hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too
stifling for comfort. In 2002, 502 Reverend
mothers were reported to have died while
procuring abortion in Rome. And stories of
Reverend fathers having children and sodomising
young men in their care are legion! Why the
hypocrisy? Why should the world continue to live
the life of an Ostrich?
The Western world which had not learnt the art of
living amicably with more than one partner under
the same roof but has indulged in multiple serial
marriages, divorcing [and in extreme cases
murdering ] innocent wives under flimsy excuses
so that another woman can move in should not
be the standard for the world. Thank God, Mrs.
Hillary Clinton in the United States and Mrs. Cook
in the United Kingdom were very much wiser.
They refused to allow some indiscretion on the
part of their husbands to ruin their marriages.
There was a well-known American actor who
passed on about a decade ago and all his 11 ex-
wives with their numerous children attended his
funeral. To ridicule the lie of their hypocritical
existence, all the women were recognised and
addressed as wives. As far as records show, the
man had 11 wives!
Society must rethink this issue of pretentious
monogamy vis-à-vis polygamy so that in the not-
too-distant future we do not end up with millions
of unmarried women whose life style would be
worse than prostitutes’ and millions of children
whose fathers would be nowhere to be found.

dailyindependentnig.com/2015/07/agony-monogamy/

Well written article.

Who will be my second Husband?

This monogamy is stifling.

As 'scientists' have discovered Humans are not made to be with one partner all their life.

cococandy:
Who will be my second Husband?

This monogamy is stifling.

As 'scientists' have discovered Humans are not made to be with one partner all their life.

I will be your HUSBAND.

As long as you are ready to kneel down and propose to me,pay my bride price,organize the wedding,stay 5 days out of the week with me,any time you are at that TIME of the month you go to your OTHER husband,and just be ready to be a good wife.

There are some people that practice polygamy/andry and still keep concubines.

What do we say about them?

I don't agree with the writer's statement that men in Europe keep many wives a d have children with them. In Europe you have one wife, known to everybody, and then you keep mistresses, but have no children with them.

HungerBAD:


I will be your HUSBAND.

As long as you are ready to kneel down and propose to me,pay my bride price,organize the wedding,stay 5 days out of the week with me,any time you are at that TIME of the month you go to your OTHER husband,and just be ready to be a good wife.

*Checks his username.
No. You will finish my food.

See who I wan marry dey give me condition
Oya stay there and turn to old cargo.

Next!

cococandy:


*Checks his username.
No. You will finish my food.

See who I wan marry dey give me condition
Oya stay there and turn to old cargo.

Next!

LOL.

Man gives a little condition and you run away.Just imagine what men go through with women, their families and two million conditions they give, before we can get married.

Anyways, my offer is still open and YES you must know how to cook Vegetable Soup with dried/stock fish.