You Meet An Amazing Man And INSTANTLY Fall For Each Other. FOR A While, Things Are Perfect. He's Loving, Affectionate, And You Share Things You've Never Shared With Anyone Else Ever Before. You Start To Believe That He Could Finally Be The One.

But Then Things Start To Shift... And He Becomes Distant And
Withdrawn. Instead Of Being Present And Wanting To Talk And Share With You, He's Often Distracted, Irritated And Doesn't
Seem As Happy Just To See You And Be With You.

And Then It Happens. Out Of The Blue He Says Something Like, "I Really Care About You, But I'm Just Not Ready For A Serious Relationship Right Now." Of Course You're Devastated And Completely Taken Off-Guard. Were You The Only One Feeling How Great You Were Together?

Was There Something Wrong With Him? Was He Afraid Of
Commitment? Or Maybe... Just Maybe You Got In The
Relationship And Started Moving Towards A Committed
Relationship With This Man For The Wrong Reasons.

Most Women Never Set Out To Find And Fall Into A Relationship For The Wrong Reasons, But It's An Unfortunately Common Process. Here Are Some Of The Wrong Reasons To Get Involved In A Relationship:

1. AVOIDING THAT LONELY FEELING:

Another Weekend Rolls Around... But You Have No One Special To Share It With. YOU Get Into Your Bed At Night Alone And Wonder, "I'm A Great Woman. Why Don't I Have A Real Partner To Share My Life With?" You Might Not See It... But On An Unconscious Level, The Struggles Of A BAD RELATIONSHIP May Actually Be More Comfortable And Familiar To You Than The Idea Of Being Alone.

When You Fear Being Alone, You're Much More Likely To Make
Bad Choices And End Up Getting Involved With And Staying In
Bad Relationships Because It Distracts You From Feeling Lonely.


2. FILLING THE VOID:

If You Believe That A Loving Relationship Will Ease The
Emptiness Inside You, The Harsh Reality Is That No Relationship Is Ever Going To Be Able To "Fill You Up." And If You Try, It's Almost Certain That The Man In Your Life Will Start To Sense This And Be Turned Off And Not Want Your Relationship To Work Or Last. Once The Easy Emotional Connection And Satisfaction Of "New Love" Wears Off... You'll Find That You're Not "Filled Up" After All And No Matter What He Does Or Says, Ultimately It Won't Be Good Enough... Or Feel Good Enough For You.

This "VOID" Is The Very Thing That Makes You So Vulnerable To The Wrong Relationships In The First Place- It Will Lead You To Get Involved Not Because A Man Or A Relationship Is Right For You... But Because You Are Driven To Fill The Void.

3. CAVING IN TO SOCIAL PRESSURE:

Are A Bunch Of Your Friends Married, Engaged, Or Falling Deeper Into Lasting, Committed Relationships With Great Guys? If So, Odds Are It's Having A Strong Impact On The Way You're Thinking And Feeling. Seeing The Love And Luck That Other Women Have In Relationships Can Make You Feel An Intense Level Of Pressure To Find The Right Lasting Relationship Now. Ironically, Your Intense Desire To Have A Great Relationship Than You Are In Him And How He Actually Feels When He's With You.

4. YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR
MATERIAL AND FINANCIAL NEEDS:

The Craving To Have Someone Take Responsibilities For The
Things You Lack, Can Be Very Devastating. Cause The Moment He Doesn't Meet Up In This Areas, Your Actions And Reactions Begins To Send The Wrong Signals To Your Man, And Before You Know It, He Begins To Withdraw. If Going Into A Relationship For You Is To Rely Solely On Your Partner To Have Your Financial And Material Needs Met, Then You Are In For The Wrong Reasons.


WHAT TO DO ABOUT ALL OF THESE

If You Feel Like You End Up Repeating The Same Kind Of Painful Experience Or Situations In Your Relationships, And You Want To Get Off The Wheel... What Should You Do Now? Before You Do Anything, You Likely Need To Stop Letting Yourself Feel Out Of Control- Only You Own And Control Your Life. Once You Take The Control Back, You Can Start Taking Steps To Bring About The Change You Want.

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nice write up. Omg!...FTC is really sweet. I dedicate this to my future husband and children.

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itsphumbieee:
nice write up. Omg!...FTC is really sweet. I dedicate this to my future husband and children.

Sassybae:
Aaarrhh lolz, is this your first time?

Yes it is.

Sassybae:
Aaarrhh lolz, is this your first time?

Yes it is.

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itsphumbieee:
Yes it is. Yes it is.

Hmmm... Nice writ. I feel social pressure is currently the biggest wrong reason for marriage. Almost everyone is itching to highlight the reasons why single women are unfortunate and damned, and why they must set aside everything else and chase the wedding ring, lest they miss their sole purpose for existence.

By the time her mama disturb am openly, her papa hint e own codedly, her younger sisters start to marry, her friends start to dey pose with their rings, and nairalanders harrass am with a million '10-reasons-why-you-are-not-married' threads, nobody go tell am to reason the next Sule, or Ola or Chuks wey go collect her number.